1. Oral Sex: How To Have Incredible Oral Sex

    How to Give Better Oral Sex

    Five Top Tips To Oral Sex

    Go down, give head, lick out, suck off, give a mouth job, give a blow job - however you refer to cunnilingus (on her) and fellatio (on him), oral sex is one of the most satisfying and intimate sexual acts you can perform on, or receive from, your partner.

    However, performing oral sex on your partner can be stressful - as can receiving oral sex - and at Lovehoney we often receive questions asking how to have better oral sex.

    From enjoying receiving to improving the taste of your orgasm, here are our top 10 tips for giving and receiving better oral sex.

    Do you have any unmissable oral sex tips? Leave a comment and let us know the oral tricks that make your lover gasp…

    1. Relax into receiving

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    If you feel nervous or self conscious about receiving oral sex then you aren’t likely to enjoy it as much. So long as you’re clean, there will be nothing down there to be embarrassed about so learn to let go of your inhibitions. Being intimate is nothing to be ashamed of and oral sex is a perfectly normal act.

    If you find it hard to switch off, close your eyes or indulge in some soft bedroom bondage. Handcuffs, restraints and blindfolds remove your sense of responsibility so any embarrassment or shame will melt away, leaving you to enjoy your partner’s oral skills.

    2. Keep it clean

    Fears about personal smell and taste are the biggest inhibitors when it comes to enjoying oral sex. To ensure your partner is their most relaxed, perform oral sex after they have a bath or shower. They’ll feel much more confident and will enjoy your efforts more.

    3. You are what you eat

    If you’ve ever eaten a certain fuzzy-monster’s brand of cereal then you’ll be aware that what you eat affects your inner workings. As funny as it can be to wee the smell of honey-covered wheat grains, it also gets you wondering about what else is affected by your diet.

    X-Rated Love Hearts 44gThere is some scientific debate as to whether your diet affects the way your sexual fluids taste. Some studies would suggest that there is a correlation, but these tests are based on short-term diets and a simple ‘taste test’. Many argue that sexual fluid taste-tests produce psychosomatic effects and scientists are quick to point out that as environmental factors and lifestyle are excluded from these tests, the results have little to no merit. Whether or not you can change your sexual flavour is still very much open for debate.

    Within the hotbed of speculation, advice appears to be fairly consistent with the same consumables accredited as being good or bad for sexual fluids in both men and women. The best way to find out is to conduct your own experiments with your partner.

    Things that make you taste better

    Thing that make you taste worse

    Drinking your 2 litres of water a day Smoking
    Pineapple, cranberries and sugary fruit Caffeine
    Parsley Alcohol
    Celery Cauliflower, broccoli and asparagus
    Cinnamon Processed foods and ready meals
    Cardamom Strong spicy food
    Peppermint Too much dairy, meat and fish

    Guys, it’s also worth remembering that regular ejaculation will help your semen taste better. Both the testicles and prostate accumulate fluids, so ejaculate after a period of abstinence will taste less pleasing.

    The likelihood is that unless your partner has mentioned your taste is unpalatable to them, you really have nothing to worry about. Even then, flavoured lube can easily fix that.

    4. Try Flavoured Lubes and Flavoured Condoms

    Wet sex is better sex, so every bedside table should come equipped with a selection of sexual lubricants to match the sex acts you enjoy. Lots of lube tastes nasty, so to avoid a mid-romp rush to the bathroom it’s worth investing in a tasty bottle of flavoured lube.

    Lovehoney Strawberry Flavoured Lubricant 100ml Flavoured lube works in exactly the same way as regular lubricant, they just taste that much better. The range of flavours available is immense with most lubricant brands offering more than one flavour. Try a top-rated crowd-pleaser like the Lovehoney Strawberry Flavoured Lubricant to begin with.

    Flavoured lubricants can be applied at any point during oral sex but it’s better applied beforehand or you may make your partner think they taste bad. Even if that is the case, making them aware that you think that will really dampen the mood.

    Applying your flavoured lube during early foreplay is the sexiest way to make oral sex better without offending your partner. Apply some to your fingers, drizzle it along your partner’s body and lick your way to action or apply it directly to your tongue.

    For safer oral sex, use flavoured condoms or flavoured dental dams which come pre-loaded with tasty flavoured lube and can be topped up during oral.

    5. Direct the action

    The best way to find out what feels good for your partner is for them to tell you. Feedback is vital if you want to receive the best possible oral sex, so open up and learn to direct your partner so they spend more time doing what feels good and less time doing what feels not so good. If you pretend you’re enjoying oral sex when you’re not or give no feedback at all, your partner won’t know how best to please you, making oral sex less satisfying for you both.

    6. Don’t just concentrate on the obvious parts

    Be sure to involve all of your partner’s sexiest spots during oral sex instead of lavishing all your love on the clitoris or glans (head of the penis).

    When performing oral sex on a man, be sure to include the length of his shaft, testicles, perineum (between his balls and anus), frenulum (thin piece of skin between the head and shaft of the penis) and meatus (urethral opening) as well as the head of the penis. Circle the meatus with your tongue and run it back and forward over the frenulum to increase sensitivity, these two spots are particularly alert to the sensations your tongue can create.

    Use your hands and fingers to cradle the testicles, gently massage the perineum, massage the lower shaft or circle the anus while you lick and suck the penis.

    When performing oral sex a woman, be sure to include the inner labia, the length of the clitoris and clitoral hood, and the vagina. Only a very small amount of a woman’s clitoris is exposed. This area is the equivalent to the whole head of a man's penis with the clitoral hood acting like a foreskin.

    Lovehoney Waterproof Ladyfinger Mini VibratorThe clitoral nerves extend back into the hood and when a woman has a clitoral erection, you will be able to feel that the clitoris extends much further back than you imagined by placing your finger on the clitoris and tracing along the clitoral hood toward the body. Gently licking the length of the clitoris can be much more pleasurable than only concentrating on the tip. The clitoral nerves also extend into the inner labia, so spend some time licking her sensitive inner lips.

    Penetration during oral is one of the most intensely satisfying sexual experiences for a woman. Slide a couple of fingers gently in and out of her vagina as you lick her clitoral areas or use a classic vibrator, dildo or other insertable sex toy to stimulate her sensitive internal spots.

    7. Control the suction

    Lots of oral sex guides talk about the merits of sucking on the penis or clitoris during oral sex, but there is a fine line between pleasure and discomfort.

    Men tend to enjoy suction whereas many women prefer no suction at all, finding their clitoris is too sensitive, but the same can also be true in reverse with men finding sucking on the glans too intense to be pleasurable and women enjoying a good clitoral vacuum.

    When experimenting with suction during oral, start off very gently and gauge your partner’s reaction so as not to ruin the moment.

    8. Vary your technique… but don’t ruin the moment

    It’s good to vary your oral sex technique to keep things interesting, but a deviation can spell disaster on the approach to climax. Take a tactical approach to variation by starting slowly and spending longer kissing and massaging your partner with your tongue and lips. Treating oral like a long, sensual kiss will increase anticipation and improve sensitivity, resulting in a better orgasm. When it comes to that climactic moment though, follow your lover's cues and "don't stop, don't stop, don't stop!".

    9. Perfect your position

    When most of us go to give oral, we opt for our partners on their backs while we nestle between their open legs. Shake things up to improve your oral angles.

    - Have your partner stand while you drop to your knees to pleasure them. This is great for those who enjoy a little power play and also offers some great angles for lavishing attention on the testicles and vagina. It’s often wise to have a wall nearby to fall against when things hot up.

    - The 69 sexual position is great for mutual oral sex but can be hard work for the partner on top or cause things to be a little warm and humid for the partner on bottom. Lie side by side while you 69 to make the experience more comfortable for both of you.

    - Kneel down and place your hands onto the wall or hold onto the bedstead while your partner lays beneath you or crouches in front of you. Using your arms to support your weight during oral will help you in the best position for your partner without suffocating them or giving them neck ache.

    10. Use a sex toy to boost oral sex sensations

    Lovehoney Double Ding Ding Vibrating Cock RingOral sex can be enhanced by using sex toys alongside your mouth. Both partners can wear a butt plug or vibrating butt plug to improve the intensity of their orgasms and he can opt for a prostate massager to hit the male G-spot.

    If he wears a vibrating cock ring during oral sex, the sensations he feels along his full length will feel more powerful. Some cock rings also include a vibrator just for the testicles, meaning both his shaft and his testicles are receiving some attention while you concentrate on lavishing his penis with attention.

    For her, use a bullet vibrator to tease her while you dart your tongue in and out or use a dildo or vibrator to penetrate her while you concentrate your oral action around her clitoris.

    Do you have any unmissable oral sex tips? Leave a comment and let us know the tricks that make your lover gasp…

    Comments (23)

    • Dors: August 05, 2011 11:24
      A finger in his anus is always good too. Never seen a guy cum as much as when he is being fingered ;)
    • xXx: August 05, 2011 11:45
      Excellent guide to oral sex. Really highlights the main things to think about and also what different techniques that can be applied. I recommend the use of flavoured lubes.. That alone makes you want to try different techniques in licking and sucking etc.
      Nice read, thanks Hella!
    • Al(ice)ex: August 08, 2011 08:07
      And women: Keep your teeth out of the fricken way! Nothing worse than someone scrape scrape scraping away (even the thought makes me cringe) and this seems to be a relatively common mistake in my experience!
    • Lovehoney - Alice: August 10, 2011 15:36
      My tip:

      You make sure you have foreplay before sex - don't overlook the foreplay before oral sex. Undress your partner carefully, teasingly. Play with them through their clothes as you do so. Cover them in kisses, breathe lightly on them: pretend to go in for oral sex and then move away.

      It feels wonderful, but the teasing also enhances the satisfaction when you finally get down to business.

    • mfc0802: March 01, 2012 17:29
      Agree with xXx, a great article

      My lady could never see what all the fuss was about. I found this out our first night together. Suffice to say I viewed this as something of a challenge but didnt do the whole bravado b.s, the 'well; that was before me' kind of thing.

      By using many of the techniques and advice above..............................

      Shall we simply say that there is a convert to the whole field of oral sex who has, her words not mine, 'been totally blown away' by some of her new experiences.

    • hotlips: May 24, 2012 14:32
      i totally agree all your tips really work my partner says its the best oral sex he has ever had
    • Laptop: June 12, 2012 11:09
      Al(ice)ex I disagree about teeth, at the right moment it really adds to the moment if there is slight pressure from her teeth on my shaft.
    • lush lips: January 17, 2013 21:15
      tips r brill ive never liked oral but tryed ur tips n oh my gosh
      my husband was amazin n e enjoyed it t... thnks for the tips
    • Wil: July 28, 2013 22:53
      Dors - I totally agree! So many guys love it! :)
    • Wil: July 28, 2013 23:18
      As an afterthought, very good advice re 'don't ruin the moment' - teasing requires very good personal knowledge of your partner, so if you're not sure, once your partner's near orgasm point, kind of at the pleading stage if you know what I mean, going with an 'if it's not broke, don't fix it' approach is best.
    • Bead: August 21, 2013 20:40
      Oral best thing once you convince the wife. Slowly licking both the inner and outer lips and then plunging your tongue deep inside
    • LOVE THAT PUSSY: September 30, 2013 16:07
      I love to start out by kissing her,go to neck then the nipples.I lick her tits,and work my down with long licks go a little at a time till i get to her clitoris and stick my tongue in her pussy,love it when she squirts in my face,then i lick it up.Married 47years still can't get enough. Love That Pussy
    • Jonathan Skeeling: December 14, 2013 10:43
      Nice! I enjoyed reading these tips. I can't wait to see my girlfriend now. I'm going to tell her about this and send her the link. I'll bring her pineapple juice so that I can taste her underneath.


    • Emmanuei Asuquo: July 29, 2014 05:25
      anus sex is the best for good lover
    • TheMing: August 28, 2014 19:23
      Some fantastic tips, many thanx. As for the teeth, for me it's a "no no" on the bare glans (cheese grater anyone?), but a big yes for nibbling the shaft and balls. Also, as a long term veggie, as is my wife, I can honestly say she tastes sweet, like honey, 30 years into our relationship but 2 different meat-eaters I've tasted were definitely much more sour!
    • ravigoyal: August 30, 2014 10:01
      it is intrasting
    • Mik: January 20, 2015 09:24
      My wife would like to have her clit pierced but just can't face the pain so she uses a tight plastic ring on her clit hood (it looks amazing!) which acts like a cock-ring.

      Her clit gets huge and when I insert my little finger in her ass and rub my middle and index finger against her g-spot as I swirl and flick my tongue around her clit hood and slit, she convulses and squirts so much, sometimes it almost blinds me, but I still hungrily slurp it all as she tastes like salted cherry-caramel fudge...so yummy!

      Highly recommended and worth a try;)))

    • Bad ger 7: March 17, 2015 11:22
      Brilliant tips, one that works for my lady is when I gently lick her clitoral area, reduce the speed until it's almost like you have fallen asleep, with constant light pressure and just the occasional movement. She'll soon let you know when it's time to ramp it up!!!
    • Notaes: May 18, 2015 03:11
      I would rather eat pussy than to eat food when I am hungry. I have added sucking on my wife clitoris hood and all with a slight outward pull and it drives her crazy with pleasure. Makes her want to have sex as much as I want too! Guys try it if you haven't make sure you suck on the hood the clit is just to sensitive to suck on it alone. She will suck you back any way any how any time any place you want. Guaranteed!
    • Badgirl: June 01, 2015 23:48
      try adding different food we have just tried sherbet dip dab and boy it drove my husband wild feeling the slight fizz on his cock along with the wetness of my tongue ??
    • Maggie: January 16, 2017 10:55
      Does anyone have any tips on licking techniques? My husband loves blow jobs but I'm not so confident giving them. Thanks x
    • Sammi - Lovehoney: January 23, 2017 15:01
      Hi Maggie,

      Thanks for your question! If you're looking for more information on how to give great oral sex, do take a look at this video from sexpert Annabelle Knight on the six points that you need to remember: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8N97MrRBLA&t=1s



    • Harley: July 27, 2017 12:26

      With regards to the 69 position I have to say that side by side works totally for me. Also I agree with the ' you are what you eat ' diet section.