Bondage

Firstly, let me get one thing out of the way – if you’ve come here to learn about ‘femidoms’, you’ve got the wrong article. “Femdom” is a BDSM term used to describe a female dominant or 'top' partner.

Femdoms may enjoy having their submissive partner call them “Mistress”, or they may prefer to refer to themselves as “Dominatrix” or “Domme”. They may not call themselves anything at all – the point is that many women take great pleasure in ruling supreme between the sheets.

If you get a kick out of being the lady in charge, maybe it’s time to embrace your inner Domme. Of course, the best thing about exploring any new kink or fetish is that you don’t have to dive straight in the deep end.

There are plenty of X-rated activities you can partake in that range from the saucy and the sensual to the down-right dirty and dominant.

If your inner Femdom is aching to make her debut, don't deny her a minute longer! Use any of the above 10 tips to embrace your dominant nature and you'll be BDSM-ing with the best of them in no time.

Lots of you wanted to know what the relationship between a Dominant and a submissive partner is really like, so we reached out to sex blogger and queen of kink, Cara Sutra, to tell us more.

The world of Dominance and submission holds a dark allure while remaining an enigmatic mystery to many. How does a Dom/sub relationship work? Can you just dip your toes into kink or do you have to become a permanent member of the BDSM scene?

Couples often experience surprising benefits to their relationship when sampling the world of Dominance and submission, and it’s not all kinky spankings and bondage cuffs. Full surrender of control, and acceptance of that control, can be a defining bonding experience for your relationship.

Exploring new kinky adventures together will be a sexy shared secret. Plus, the mutual trust required for such intensely erotic play may lead to a stronger attraction to your partner than ever before.

There's no need to feel daunted by the thought of trying out a Dom/sub relationship. Discover the beauty of a relationship which thrives on an exchange of power between partners.

A lot of you lovely readers will already know who I am, but for those of you who don't, let me introduce myself.

I'm Jess; Lovehoney's in-house Bondage Expert. With a background in burlesque, pin up modelling, fetish event promotion and being a bit of a pirate-goth hybrid, my transition to Bondage Expert has been pretty easy!

As you can probaby imagine, I see a fair share of niche products, and every day have something new and fantastic on my desk. It's through personal research, experience and a keen interest in all things unusual that have led me to learn a tonne about a wide range of fetishes.

Every week I get asked questions about bondage and kink, but there are some questions which crop up (grooaan!) more often than others. That's the inspiration for this blog.

Every month I'll be taking the most common (or most interesting!) questions and answering them here.

Got a burning question about bondage, S&M or another fetish? Comment below and your question could be answered in next month's blog.