Imagine being in a shop with a friend, choosing a bag of crisps. You go for ready salted, they opt for salt and vinegar. Is one of you a weirdo? Of course not.
Just like our choice in crisp flavours, our turn-ons vary massively from person to person. After all, if we all liked exactly the same things, what a boring world this would be.
The same goes for sexual fantasies. If we all had the same sexual fantasies, sex wouldn't be half as exciting and invigorating.
We wouldn't be intrigued by anything new, we wouldn't ever be surprised by our partners, and there would be nothing about our own sexualities to discover and explore.
So if you're concerned about what your secret fantasy says about you, we're here to put your mind at rest.
Polyamory – the desire, practice or acceptance of maintaining more than one intimate relationship concurrently with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved – is coming more and more into mainstream consciousness. Sex blogger, sex educator and adult product reviewer Amy Norton weighs in on how to talk to your partner about an open relationship.
So you think you might want to be polyamorous, but you're already in an existing relationship?
The hard truth is that the transition from monogamy to non-monogamy is often difficult and requires a lot of work from everyone involved.
The good news is that, with communication, commitment, compassion and a hefty dose of patience, it's entirely doable! If you're reading this, I assume it's because you want to know how to broach this potentially fraught subject with your partner.
Festival season is upon us and you know what that means – time to get muddy and sweaty with strangers in a random field for a few days, while learning to appreciate anew the wonders of indoor plumbing.
But being at a festival doesn’t mean you have to leave all your sexy fun behind. In fact, festivals can be a great place to get it on, whether it's with an existing partner or just that guy you got talking to at the phone charging station.
We’ve put together a list of sex toys and other goodies that are above all discreet, lightweight and low-maintenance so you still can enjoy all the comforts of amazing sex without weighing down your backpack too much.
Got any other festival sex toy suggestions? Let us know in the comments below.
Have you ever wanted to turn your partner on via messages or Snapchat, but didn't want to take any compromising pictures?
Or perhaps you’ve been horny in public and can’t slip away anywhere to call them and tell them all about it?
Sending nudes can be fun and a sure way of getting the recipient hot and bothered, but they’re not the only way to get a sexy conversation going. Sometimes a well-written sext can be even hotter than a revealing pic.
Here’s my list of tried-and-tested sexting phrases you can use as a template next time you want to tease your partner, or have some long-distance fun.
Newton's third law of motion states that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
And while double ended sex toys probably didn't play a role in Sir Isaac's extensive research, they are a prime example of classical mechanics in action (bet all this physics talk is getting you hot and bothered, isn't it?)
What many people don't realise is that toys with double penetration features aren't just for couples; they're perfect for solo play too.
Think about it. We've been blessed with multiple erogenous zones, so why not light them all up at the same time?
So whether you're riding solo or bringing in a pocket-sized guest star to your couple's play, here are five top-of-the-range sex toys that can double your fun.
We all know how important it is to know what makes us tick in the bedroom, but are we all paying enough attention to our partners, too?
For those of us who really need to focus to be able to climax, or need a very specific sort of stimulation, it can be easy to become caught up in the routine of what we need, and not necessarily remember to do the same for the other person (or people) in the room.
And after all, sex is at its best when everyone's enjoying themselves, right?
So we've come up with some top tips (and a handy acronym) for how to make sure you're being a generous lover, as well as still getting everything you need.
Chances are, if someone says the word 'bondage restraints' to you, you'll be picturing a pair of sturdy metal handcuffs - and for good reason.
For many, they're a toy box staple, but handcuffs aren't the only means of restraining your partner during bondage play.
In fact, there are tons of different options for a little tie'n'tease fun, and all of them have different advantages.
So if you're in a bit of a bind over which restraint options to go for, don't worry - we've picked out our top six restraints to diversify your bedroom bondage.
Recently, we were asked the question: "How does one begin to feel sex positive when sex has not always been a positive experience?". So we reached out to therapist and coach Esther De La Ford for her advice on how to rediscover your sexual happiness.
If I could give anyone who has experienced sexual trauma only 2 pieces of advice, it would be these.
- Let yourself completely off the hook. Ditch expectations. Be open to the high possibility of tears, breakdowns, and your body and brain just not playing ball sometimes. Then love yourself anyway.
- Throw everything you've got at it and see what sticks. Don't only try one mindfulness technique, or go to a few sessions at a Rape and Sexual Abuse Clinic you're not really into, or read the first 3 chapters of a tantra book a mate suggested and then forget about it. Try EVERYTHING. This is your life, your body, your sexual wellbeing. It deserves everything you've got.
These are the two pieces of advice I would give if we were meeting in a pub toilet and didn't have very long to chat, but thankfully we have a bit more time here.
So here are my top tips for cultivating a healthy space to start enjoying sex again after sexual trauma.
Have you ever caught a whiff of someone, and suddenly they’re really attractive to you? You’re not alone: there’s a link between seduction and smell that’s as old as civilisation itself.
The sciencey bit: When an odour stimulates the receptors in our nose, they pass electrical impulses (or patterns) to our brain which the brain interprets and perceives as a smell. Our sense of smell is 10,000 times more sensitive than any of our other senses, and recognition of smell is immediate.
Psychologists believe that the area of the brain that processes scent is also the part that processes emotions — and certain odours can make us feel stimulated, aroused, and excited.
With that in mind, here are some of the sexiest scents, as proven by science, guaranteed to get you in the mood and more.
Here at Lovehoney, we talk about foreplay A LOT (and for a good reason too!).
Much more than just some sexual appetiser that you quickly wolf down before the main course, foreplay is a crucial part of experiencing great sex.
Foreplay gives both your body and mind a chance to become fully aroused. This mounting anticipation means that when it's time for the main event, you'll be champing at the bit!
We hear about general foreplay tips all the time, but we ask you, dear reader – where's all the helpful advice on incredible anal foreplay?
Although it is literally located in the rear, when it comes to foreplay tips, the bum is sometimes being left behind. Well, we won't stand for it, so here are eight of the best anal foreplay tips. Bottoms up!