Sex and relationships expert Dr Victoria Lukats has some advice for a wife whose husband is asking for anal sex but her sex drive is out of step with his.
"Why does having a lower sex drive than your husband make you frigid?" she writes in Metro. "It's not really your problem alone - it's an issue that affects you both as a couple…"
Talk over your issues helps enormously, and a better sex book can be a great ice-breaker.
Another great review from Orgasm Army!
"Unlike hard vibrators which can be a bit 'ouch' inside you (even with lots of lube), this vibrator is made from silicone, which is very soft and has a velvet feel so it feels AMAZING inside you.
The shaft is very flexible which is great for times of climax as it can be gently positioned to reach right where you want it.
The swirled ridges for extra stimulation work wonders, making climaxing so much easier to achieve.
It is waterproof, tried and tested!
Being waterproof makes this vibrator even more wonderful, as it can be used in the bath, for fun bath time play and even washed after use which is always a great hygiene feature!
This is my faveorite vibrator (I have another one and 1 rabbit) by far because it's feels so soft and wonderful inside.
Normally it takes me about 30 minutes for me to cum during sex (with foreplay) and about 20 minutes with a vibrator (about 10 minutes with the rabbit) but with this beauty it only took me 5 minutes to cum, I enjoyed every second!
Recommended to every woman! 10/10!"
See the full Pure Vibes Waterproof Silicone Swirl Vibe review at Orgasm Army.
Buy the Pure Vibes Waterproof Silicone Swirl Vibe at Lovehoney.
I love nothing more than coming home from a busy day at work and being pampered and treated to a bubble bath, some scented candles, gorgeous champagne and a long, sensual massage.
Not only does a massage help to relieve my stress levels, but it also provides my lover with a great opportunity to explore and stimulate my erogenous zones, making me feeling much more turned on and receptive to sex.
When it comes to choosing a massage oil I usually go for one that contains Ylang Ylang, which is known for its aphrodisiac properties, but any luxurious and slightly scented oil will work just as well. It's worth noting, however, that if your lover has sensitive skin, non-perfumed massage oil would be a better choice.
Follow the step-by-step guide below, and give your lover a sensual treat that will relax and unwind him in the bedroom:
Another great review from Orgasm Army!
"This is a neat cock ring that vibrates when it's spread apart, which happens every time it comes into contact with another body!
It's made of a really strong, stretchy material that hugs you tightly, which makes it good for maintaining erections too. The vibrations go right through the whole ring, and my partner was obviously pleased with the strength of vibrations to her sensitive spots!
Unlike many rings this baby looks built to last, and you can replace the batteries too. In fact ours came with two with the package.
Il liek the fact that this is a toy for couples - two people can get pleasure from it in different ways! Recommended."
See the full Auto Pulsator Ring review at Orgasm Army.
Buy the Auto Pulsator Ring at Lovehoney.
You know how it is. It's one week before payday – when you're on a tight enough budget as it is – and you get slapped with an overdue credit card bill that has to be paid NOW or the world will implode. Oh yes, and it arrives on the morning of your big night out with that hot Italian post-grad exchange student you met at Covent Garden. Which in turn means that the silky new basque you planned to buy and seduce said Italian exchange student with will have to be left on the hanger. Great.
That happened to me last Saturday, if you hadn't already guessed. So my night of indulging someone of foreign tongue was well and truly up the swanny. And after handing over all but £70 of my remaining wages, I decided that if I was going to have a night in on my own then I at least needed a few girlie treats to occupy myself with.
Naturally, when I think treats I'm thinking mind-blowingly awesome handcrafted chocolates, some gorgeous, funky new make-up to play around with and a triple-orgasm inducing sex machine. Que Hotel Chocolate; the new Big Beautiful Eyes compact from Benefit cosmetics and a hunking slab of jelly wonderness in the form of the (the seemed a bit to much of a mission for a Saturday night in alone).
After gorging myself on a selection of toe-curling white, milk and dark handcrafted chocolates, and giving my eyes the Bardot treatment with Benefit's ultra-cool new palette, I decided to test drive my latest sex toy.
With a whopping 18-inches of jelly-liciousness to satisfy my anal and vaginal cravings, I decided to prepare with a good slathering of , rubbing it slowly and tantalizingly over my pussy and anus to get my own juices flowing. After easing myself into position over both ends of the double dong, I began to work it slowly at first to get used to the feeling and to capture my sense of rhythm.
You know I've had a threesome on more than one occasion, but never before have I had a sex toy that has brought me so close to the feeling of being fucked by two guys simultaneously. I mean, I could close my eyes and imagined my Italian exchange student taking me up the arse while his swarve, sexy and more mature post-grad tutor fucked me upfront. I just couldn't stop myself from thrusting away against the double hit of jelly 'heads' while flicking, tapping and rubbing my clit with a handful of lube.
I don't know exactly how long I was getting down with my double dong, but I stopped counting after two orgasms and a near third. The next time I have a session with my double dong, I'm going to film it and send it to that Italian post-grad exchange student, then invite him and his tutor around for tea…
Text sex is one of the easiest and least embarrassing ways to enhance your dirty words vocabulary for two reasons:
Firstly, you won't feel as embarrassed talking dirty on a text message as you would face to face with your lover.
Secondly, it gives you more time to think of a kinky response.
The best way to start is by sending your lover a quick message on your way to work. You should keep it filth-free to begin with, but full of sexy promise of what is to come. For example, if you spent the night together you could say something like, 'Last night was amazing, but nothing compared to what will happen tonight…'
I bet half the male population of Britain was glued to Channel 4 last night for their Celebrity Sex Tapes Unwound program. And I bet a great deal of women also tuned in to catch a glimpse of Colin Farrell's butt; Tommy Lee's enormous wang or Rob Lowe's even bigger sex sword. But I was more interested in the Paris Hilton sex tape.
For a girl who is supposed to be so fly about her supposed wild behaviour and 'couldn't care less' attitude, Paris didn't exactly come across as someone who knew what she was doing in the bedroom. In fact, she looked kind of bored, reluctant and – dare I say it – talentless.
10 out of 10 for a £1.99 vibe! Cripes!
"You know whatever I say, I love this vibe. It almost immediately became the one I reach for most and equally the one my partner reaches for first when he wants some supplementary benefits. It is a pretty shimmering blue colour but is made from cold, unyielding plastic, which makes a clunking noise whenever it meets other toys in action…"
See the full United Colours Smooth 8.5-inch Vibrator review at Orgasm Army.
Buy the United Colours Smooth 8.5-inch Vibrator at Lovehoney.
Research just in from Canada reveals that snoring may be ruining many couples' sex lives.
A poll of married Ontario couples found that 58% complained that their partner snores and that it has a negative affect on their sex lives.
36% agreed with the statement: "On most nights I would rather share my bed with a good sleeper who doesn't snore than a good lover who will keep me up with their snoring."
Canadian sex expert Sue Johanson warned that snoring and a lack of sex could lead to a disintegration of relationships.
We think that the safest bet is to make sure you have sex before you fall asleep (we've always found that we perform better then, anyway). And if it helps, use one of our Sue Johanson sex toys to get you in the mood. ;-)
Well, what a month it's been. First off, massive thanks to Sarah and Jason, and Maya and Shane for being the sexual guinea pigs in our trial.
The most obvious result is that Sweet Release didn't change the guys' flavour in 30 days. There was a hint of a change towards the end of the trial, but it didn't cause much more than a mild wobble on the Richter scale of taste.
So from that point of a view it was a disappointment, but along the way it's been very interesting to read the ups and downs as couples try to balance work, home life and pleasure with the demands of oral sex. It's a tough life…