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9 Bondage Sex Positions to Pique Your Curiosity
on 31 Mar 2025
The world of Doms, subs, roleplay, and kink can feel intimidating at first — but it’s really a delicious menu of pleasure for you to pick and choose from. You might find that you love the feeling of being bound and at the whim of your lover, or the heady sense of power that comes with being completely in control. The key is to try things out safely, and with someone who’s just as into it all as you are!
In this article, we’ll explore a range of bondage sex positions for you try – with expert tips on how to make each one more tantalising.
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Bondage tips
Bondage puts the ‘B’ in BDSM (or to give her full name: bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism). It’s all about the balance of power between you and your lover. You can take it in turns to be Dominant (Dom) or submissive (sub), but the idea is that one of you is always running the show… if you both heartily consent, of course!
On the surface, BDSM is about pleasure, pain, and thrill. But it can also deepen your bond with your partner by encouraging you to be vulnerable, share your fantasies, and experiment together. Below, you’ll find a few tips for getting started. For a more in-depth introduction, check out our guide: Bondage for Beginners
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Communicate with your partner
Talk through what you want to try and take time picking out toys together. Treat it like foreplay! What types of kinks are you both curious about? What sex toys would you like to use? Anything you want to avoid?
“Hard limits are absolute no-go activities, like no spanking, ever,” explains sex and pleasure expert Jess Wilde. “Soft limits have some flexibility or conditions, such as no spanking, except with a hand, on the butt, through clothing.”
Now’s the time to get honest about your boundaries and share what turns you on. Discuss this beforehand and keep checking in with each other as you play. For example, you could use the traffic light system to communicate whether you’re having a good time and could go further (green), happy to continue at the same level (amber), or wish to stop something immediately (red).
Establish an escape plan
With all the knots and ropes involved in bondage play, step one to staying safe is making sure you can remove restraints quickly if you need to. Keep bondage scissors nearby just in case and agree on a safeword or action to use if either of you wants to stop.
“Safewords should be agreed on as part of your consent and boundaries discussion,” says Jess. “Your safeword should be something memorable, easy to say, and not easily confused with something else you might say during intimacy. It should stand out like a sore thumb!”
Approaching bondage in a risk-aware way and understanding each other’s limits means that, once the fun starts, you can both enjoy getting totally lost in the moment.
Learn your knots
A little knot know-how goes a long way in kinky play, especially for anyone curious about Japanese rope bondage. Get started with the double column tie: a simple, quick-release option for binding your partner’s wrists or ankles. There are all sorts of knots and ties out there — box ties, frog ties, and single column knots are all good ones to look up.
Choose quality gear
It’s worth investing in purpose-designed bondage rope and restraints which are made of body-safe materials that won’t chafe. Good quality gear will comfortably withstand repeated (and enthusiastic!) use rather than falling apart after the first play.
That said, if you’d like to try a rope-free option first, we recommend bondage tape. It’s cheap, reusable, and requires no knot knowledge. Bondage tape sticks to itself instead of your skin, so it’s comfy to wear and easy to remove.
Best bondage positions for all experience levels
Getting all tied up can be an experience of its own… but bondage can heighten arousal and make sex feel downright incredible. Just one more thing…. For each of these kinky moves, remember to use plenty of lube to make play comfortable — and even more pleasurable.
The Hogtie
Here’s how:
The sub (submissive partner) lies on their stomach on the bed. They can prop a pillow under their hips if that’s more comfortable. The Dom (dominant partner) uses bondage tape, rope or a hogtie cuff set to bind their partner’s wrists and ankles. Then, the Dom can get into position for oral sex from their sub, kneeling with the sub’s face in their lap.
Hot tip:
Are you both fans of anal play? If so, this very revealing position could be fun; before you get stuck into oral sex, the Dom can tease the sub’s anus with a lubed-up finger (with consent, of course). Next, the Dom could slip in a butt plug (there are vibrating options if that’s your thing!) to stimulate the sub’s internal hot spots while they’re giving head.
Crab Tie
Here’s how:
The sub lies on their back on the bed, feet flat and knees apart. The Dom then uses bondage tape, rope or thigh, wrist and ankle restraints to strap their arms and legs together. This leaves the sub’s legs spread open for teasing, fondling and penetration.
Hot tip:
Thanks to the easy access to the sub’s chest and genitals, it’s a great time to bring in some toys… Stimulate multiple erogenous zones using your fingers, tongue, nipple clamps or ball stretchers, if the sub has a penis. Teasing multiple areas at once can lead to particularly powerful orgasms!
The Interrogator
Here’s how:
The Dom chooses a sturdy chair, and uses bondage rope or tape to tie the sub’s shins and ankles to the chair legs. Once the Dom has secured the sub’s wrists and forearms to the chair as well, it’s time for them to take control with some oral sex play.
Step one foot up onto the seat of the chair and rest your arms on the sub’s shoulders, pushing your crotch forward so the sub can reach your genitals with their mouth.
Hot tip:
If a height difference between you and your partner makes the angles of this move a bit tricky, it’s all good; try creating a step with a small stack of books, or opting for an office chair that tips back.
Over the Moon
Here’s how:
Think of this as the bondage version of Reverse Cowgirl! The sub lies on a table (or bed, if it has bed posts that are easy to tie onto). Use rope restraints or bondage tape to secure the sub’s wrists and ankles to the table legs or corners of the bed. Then it’s time for the Dom to climb on top and ride; this is a great position for either anal or vaginal penetration.
Keep checking in with your partner while you play, to make sure they’re comfortable and that the ties aren’t cutting off their circulation.
Hot tip:
As the Dom, make sure you’ve got total control over your movement by placing a chair with a tall back beside the table as something to lean on and stabilise yourself with. Also, if your feet don’t quite touch the floor, you can stack a few books as steps either side of the table.
The Supplicant
Here’s how:
The sub kneels on their hands and knees, on a bed or on the floor (with cushions, if that’s comfier). The Dom can then use rope, tape or cuffs to bind the sub’s wrists together in front of them, and a spreader bar to keep their legs spread.
Hot tip:
Once the sub is secured in this position, there are so many play possibilities for the Dom. You might penetrate your sub doggy-style (there are strap-ons if you’d like to try this but don’t have a penis). It’s an ideal position for spanking, too; try a flogger or paddle, or just the flat of your hand.
Shibari Spoon
Here’s how:
The sub lies on their side. The Dom binds the sub’s legs with tape or rope, so the top ankle is locked in place over the opposite thigh; this should hold the sub’s knee comfortably in a bent position. The Dom will also need to bind the sub’s wrists in front of them, and tie the top arm to the top thigh; this will help hold the sub in the perfect position for spooning-style sex.
Hot tip:
If you’re looking for anal penetration positions, this is a great choice. Because you’re lying down together on your sides, rather than one person thrusting or squatting from above, it’s much easier to control the depth and speed of penetration. Remember to use anal lube; it reduces friction and creates a cushioned effect, helping to keep things feeling smooth and sensual.
The Peach
Here’s how:
The sub kneels face down on the bed or the floor, their knees spread wide. To bind their wrists in place behind their back, the Dom can use a wrist-to-waist belt – or just tie the sub’s wrists together with rope or tape. As the Dom, you can kneel behind your bound lover for an incredible view.
Hot tip:
The Dom has totally unrestricted access to the sub’s genitals and anus here; there’s so much to explore.
Try bringing in a bullet vibrator to tease the sub’s vulva while you go down on them or, if they have a penis, use the vibe to stimulate their balls while you give them head. If anal play is on the table, this is an ideal position to give rimming a try.
Bad Doggy
Here’s how:
This is Doggy Style fun, with added kink. The sub assumes the position on their hands and knees, on a bed or the floor, while the Dom straps on the sub’s collar and lead. If you’d like to try kicking things up a notch, you can add a gag too. Then you’re all set; this position is perfect for anal or vaginal sex – and spanking!
Hot tip:
Heighten the sub’s senses by slipping on a blindfold. A classic accessory in BDSM play, blindfolds can help build sexual tension by keeping the sub guessing; it can also free up the Dom to step more confidently into their role, knowing that nobody’s watching them.
The Door Jammer
Here’s how:
Set up an over-the-door sex swing; these kits are simple to install, and can be an exciting way to add a kinky new dimension to your sex sessions. Once the Dom has helped the sub into the swing, their legs are spread-eagled for oral, vaginal or anal play.
Hot tip:
The Dom can take their time teasing the sub’s nipples, stomach and inner thighs with kisses, their fingertips and ticklers. Once the sub is totally turned on and begging for penetrative sex, the Dom can decide when they want to slide into them and bring them to orgasm.
