Take your time with sex and foreplay - intercourse is recommended as often as possible to stimulate your natural secretions (the “use it or lose it” approach).
A recent online article caught our attention at Lovehoney. It suggested that orgasms, and the importance of having an orgasm, was becoming less important during sex. Initially it seems like a bold statement to make – what’s the point of having sex if you’re not seeking the ultimate release of climax?
After some thought though, it became obvious that (for some people at least), not having an orgasm wasn’t that important. The blog post by American health and sex expert Dr Emily Nagoski said that although we don’t seem to want as many orgasms, we want a lot more sex instead. Sexual happiness can come in a lot of different forms that don’t involve reaching a mind-blowing climax.
Instead of being orgasm-focused, both men and women are more inclined to seek different types of pleasure from sex: closeness, intimacy and sensuality.
To celebrate International Literacy Day, our most recent poll was all about Erotic Fiction. We asked Lovehoney blog readers if they prefered short stories or novels when reading erotic fiction.
Interestingly, 77.8% of those who voted said that they prefered short stories. While just 22.2% said that they enjoyed erotic novels more.
Whatever your preference, it's great to see so many interested in erotic literature!
Since International Literacy Day there's been an increase in the amount of self-penned stories submitted to our Erotic Fiction Forum, which is fantastic! Erotic fiction is a great way to explore what you love and discover new fantasies. If you fancy writing your own erotic fiction, whether it be a serialised novella or a few short stories, you can do so in our Erotic Fiction Forum.
Introducing the new Lelo SenseMotion™ Insignia range. These three innovative sex toys use the highest quality materials and newest technology to bring your sex life into the 21st century. Forget clunky plastic, jelly rubber and wired controls and say LELO to the future of sex with this trio of luxury sex toys.
Lyla, Tiani and Oden have been designed for sharing, with long-range movement-sensitive remote controls. Using SenseMotion™ technology, the remotes that control the vibrators are activated by movement, allowing you to increase or decrease the speed of vibration with just a tilt of the wrist. Holding the remote flat activates the lowest setting while tilting it vertically sends the toy into a high-powered frenzy.
The remote control vibrates in time with the toy, a clever twist that ensures you give your partner the right stimulation at the right time. Even if you’re in a different room to your partner, you’ll be able to feel everything they’re experiencing in the palm of your hand, allowing you to better empathise with their desires and easily fulfil them.
The benefits of vibrating cock rings are well documented but your partner doesn’t need to be one of the walking dead to enjoy the sexy pleasures of this blood red ring. Styled in silicone with supernaturally stretchy composition, it’s presented on a coffin card to make it the perfect spooky gift for your loving spectre.
The Death by Orgasm Fang Banger Vibrating Cock Ring (£14.99) is a silicone cock ring with a difference. Designed to slip around the penis and testicles, it provides a comfortable restriction that enhances erections by restricting blood flow. No surprises there.
The excitement comes in the form of the two vibrating bullets - there’s one for him and one for her. The smaller bullet sits beneath the testicles, enhancing his pleasure and the intensity of his orgasm. The larger bullet sits at the top of the cock ring and features a ghoulish pair of fangs that press against the clitoris during sex to ensure the best-possible stimulation for her in every position.
Lovehoney's range of limp penis packers were seen on BBC Three's recent documentary Sam and Evan: From Girls to Men.
The programme followed Sam and Evan as they undergo the process of changing their bodies from female to male. As part of the journey, Sam and Evan were filmed as they browsed Lovehoney for "some help in the trouser department" and were later seen customising a packer into a STP (stand to pee).
One customer review of the Limpy Packer Extra Small enthuses, "I would like to say thank you for being a UK site that offers limp packers. As a FTM it was great as my first packer, it felt and looked totally real. It made me feel a little step closer to feeling like the real me, as I finally had something that looked and felt like it should have always been there. So once again a huge thank you."
If you're looking to live a sexier life, help is on hand in the shape of Lovehoney's very own 'Orgasm Angel' Bonny Hall. Interviewed in November's edition of Cosmpolitan, Bonny reveals how she selects the toys that she hopes will change the sex lives of women across the country.
"Sexual happiness has such an impact on our lives, and the best part of my job is hearing from women who have achieved orgasms when they never thought they could. When we get a product right, it can be life-changing."
Click here to read the full interview with Bonny Hall. Cosmopolitan's November edition goes on sale today.
As part of our campaign to get everyone to live a sexier life, we have put together The Little Book of Sexual Happiness, which contains hints and tips to help everyone live a sexier life.
To celebrate the launch of The Little Book of Sexual Happiness we're giving away a bumper pleasure pack, containing everything you need for a sexy evening in, including a luxurious Lelo Mia Vibrator.
This competition is now closed. The winner was Pixie_Murree!
If you watched The Only Way Is Essex this week, you would have seen Nanny Pat helping to set up Jessica's new lingerie shop.
Straight-talking Nanny Pat can be seen 'sorting out the drawers' before finding some Tracey Cox sex toys included in the delivery.
First out was the Tracey Cox Supersex Mini Rabbit Vibrator (£14.99) which, in the hands of Nanny Pat, caught everyone's attention.
As Jess tells Mark that they'll be stocking sex toys in The Wright Look, their joint lingerie venture, the Tracey Cox Supersex Super Bullet Vibrator (£16.99) is passed to Mark, who started to look slightly uncomfortable with the idea of his mum, sister and nan selling sex toys. Despite Mark being slightly sceptical of the idea the TOWIE women looked completely unfazed by the idea.
Finally, after Mark had left, a Tracey Cox Supersex Twin Silicone Vibrating Love Ring (£9.50) was pulled out by Nanny Pat, who promptly remarked, 'It's got a battery to it and all! Wow!'
Straight talking and to the point, you've got to love her for that!
Write a sex toy review for Lovehoney and you could be in with a chance to win a whopping £100 to spend on whatever you like! Each month we also choose a selection of highly commended reviews and reward them each with (count 'em) 2000 Oh! Points to spend as they wish - or perhaps save up for a luxury toy.
The winning review this month was written about one of our community's favourite lubes, Liquid Silk. Adding to the lube's shining reviews, we felt this month's winner gave a brilliant, unqiue account of the lube's consistency and in doing so confirmed the lube's reputation as the "foremost fornication facilitator".
Review of the Month
"The lube itself really does feel a lot different to most others I've tried. It's almost like a face cream and feels kind of greasy-oily when you first squeeze it out, although it doesn't leave you feeling like you've dropped a bat of butter between your thighs, which was my first concern…"
Read the full review by BashfulBabe.
Read on to find out who was highly commended and earned the points this month, and make sure you write a sex toy review to be in the running next month.