Mutual Masturbation: Go Solo... Together!

by Audrey Andrews

on 4 Mar 2020

We spend the entirety of our lives trying to have ten minutes of 'alone time' in peace and quiet, and now we're being told to have a solo session in front of our significant other? The truth is, mutual masturbation can benefit both you and your relationship.

Want to know why? That's what this blog is here for!

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What is mutual masturbation?

Mutual masturbation is when you and your partner masturbate simultaneously.

This can happen when you're lying side by side, but you don't always have to be.

Mutual masturbation can play a part in long-distance relationships as well. If you and your boo find yourselves miles apart, then the We-Vibe Chorus App and Remote Controlled Rechargeable Couple's Vibrator and the Lovehoney High Roller Remote Control Rotating Prostate Massager are two app-controlled vibes that are absolutely ideal for indulging in a bit of mutual wanking. Made from high-quality, body-safe silicone, just lube up with a water-based lube or specialty anal lube and you’re all set for a mutual masturbation sesh!

It doesn't matter where you are, the whole point is that all parties involved are masturbating at the same time.

What are the benefits?

There is so much to be gained from mutual masturbation. One of the biggest benefits is that it's basically a masterclass on how your partner likes to be touched. You've both got front row seats to a demonstration of what gets your partner off!

From a more practical standpoint, mutual masturbation is great if you both suddenly find yourselves turned on but just don't have the time to have a full roll in the hay. Think of it as having a double quickie!

Mutual masturbation is also perfect for the inner voyeur. If the idea of watching your partner pleasure themselves gets you hot under the collar, then this type of play has your name all over it!

There are lots of ways you can easily incorporate mutual masturbation into your routine. Read on for a few to start you off...

1. Lights out

You may be 'lights on' people when you're doing your regular thing, but if you're feeling self-conscious about being watched, try mutual masturbation in the dark, or with a little mood lighting and covers over you both.

This way, there's no spotlight on anyone, leaving you free to relax and enjoy the moment.

You may find this gives you the confidence to reveal all!

2. Open the toy box

Ok, you might not have a literal sex toy box, but you get the drift – it's time to get your favourite gadgets out!

One way to make your debut into mutual masturbation that much more fun is to pick up a couple's sex toy kit. With a bundle like the Wild Weekend Mega Couple's Sex Toy Kit, you can see it as just trying a bunch of new toys together rather than making your night all about mutual masturbation, which can be a bit intimidating.

3. Movie night

By 'movie night' we mean 'adult movie night'. Watching porn gives you both a shared focus. It takes the attention off what you're doing down below and onto what actors are doing on screen, so you won't feel vulnerable.

Find a genre you both enjoy and let the self-love commence!

The most important step to enjoying mutual masturbation is to leave any pressure at the door and come to the experience with no expectations. Don't make orgasming the ultimate goal – treat this as an opportunity to better understand your partner's body.

Audrey Andrews is a student blogger for Lovehoney. In her spare time, she loves to do crafts but would not advise knitting your own condoms.

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Audrey Andrews

Written by Audrey Andrews.

Originally published on 4 Mar 2020. Updated on 11 Jan 2021