Position of the Week: Take the Lead

by Emma

on 19 Jan 2024

Position of the Week: Take the Lead

Spice up your foreplay sessions with Take the Lead. Introducing light bondage to your play with a collar and lead, this BDSM-inspired position allows you and your lover to kiss, stroke and tease each other to your heart’s content.


The submissive partner kneels on a bed or the floor. The dominant partner places the collar around the submissive partner’s neck. Once the collar is adjusted, the dominant partner kneels next to them and holds the lead in their hand.


Take the Lead is ideal for bondage beginners looking to spice up their foreplay. While the dominant partner gently pulls the submissive partner closer, they can enjoy getting up close and personal by kissing their face, neck and nibbling their earlobes. If you're looking to experiment with power play but also want the freedom to stimulate yourself and your lover's hot spots, this is the position for you.


Spreading your knees further apart allows for easier access to your partner’s intimate areas. A wand massager, clitoral suction stimulator or male masturbator is brilliant for seeking out your external and internal arousal areas for even more satisfying sensations.

Make it easier

If you or your partner uses a mobility aid, this position can be easily adapted to have both partners seated. Just make sure you have your collar and lead close by, so you’re not fumbling around when you’re ready to play.

Make it even better

Incorporate more bondage accessories to take your foreplay up another level. Nipple clamps and nipple suckers are both perfect for stimulating one of your most erogenous zones. Using a blindfold, flogger or feather tickler lets you experiment with sensory play, while adding more to the dominant/submissive dynamic.

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Not the position for you?

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Written by Emma. Lovehoney Editorial Team
Emma joined Lovehoney in 2022 and is the content team’s Welsh writing wizard. Emma is passionate about gender inclusivity and loves learning about all things lingerie and sex toys. Emma pens the ever-popular ‘Position of the Week’ blogs and can often be found pondering the length of a King Cock dildo.

Originally published on 19 Jan 2024. Updated on 17 Jan 2024