How to Use a Bullet Vibrator

1. Start by adding a dab of lube to your sex toy

When it comes to sex, solo or partnered, lube makes everything feel better: it’s that simple. By coating the tip of your bullet vibrator with lube, you’ll enjoy friction-free contact with your skin — which means even more powerful vibrations.

Check the material your sex toy is made from before choosing your lube. Your vibe is most likely made from plastic, which means you can use any lube you like. But be warned: rubber, realistic-feel (sometimes labelled TPR or TPE), and silicone toys should only be paired with water-based lubricant to protect your sex toy from degrading over time.

If you’re taking a waterproof vibe into the bath or shower, grab a silicone lube. It’s waterproof, so you can keep the good vibrations going for as long as you like.

Once you add a lubed-up bullet to your masturbation routine, we bet you’ll never go back. Take it from those who’ve been there. Two of our customers — a couple looking to spice things up — have been loving their bullet vibrator: “It’s amazing for nipple teasing, cock caressing, and, well, frankly anywhere else on your anatomy you fancy pointing it at. Laced with a little water-based lube, it becomes an all-over body toy for us both to enjoy”.

2. Discover new pleasure spots

Masturbation is the perfect time to explore your pleasure and discover what feels good to you. By gliding a bullet vibrator over your inner thighs, clitoris, labia, or perineum, you can experiment with how to use a bullet vibrator in a way that’s tailored to your pleasure.

Try using the bullet’s tapered tip to add intensity or lying it on its side for gentler vibrations.

While vibrating bullets can’t safely be used for internal play, because they don’t have a handle or flared base, there are plenty of safe-to-insert sex toys that feature a bullet-sized pocket. That means a bullet vibrator could turn your favourite insertable toys into vibrating dildos, butt plugs or even g-spot vibrators — as customer PhilJones discovered: “The vibrations travel right through the plug all the way to the tip, so you don't lose any of the power of the bullet: when I clenched my bum I even felt it on my prostate!”

3. Switch up the intensity

Most bullet vibrators come with a range of speed and vibration-pattern options. If you’re new to vibrators, start with the slowest setting and experiment with how that feels first.

If the vibrations are too intense — or if you’re after a softer, slower tease — keep your knickers on while you play.

Switch between the settings to find your favourites; you might discover that one speed feels best when you’re tracing your inner thighs or nipples, while another feels incredible around your anus or perineum. But remember to use toy cleaner to clean your bullet vibrator between using it on your anus and vulva, just to make sure that bacteria can’t spread between the two.

For an intense and speedy orgasm, you can use the bullet’s tip directly on the clitoris. However, you might find you prefer holding the vibe just above or around the clitoris — so try using the bullet to circle your vulva and clitoral hood to discover your sweet spots. Plus: holding the bullet on its side decreases the intensity of the vibrations, which is perfect if you prefer less stimulation.

4. Try it hands free

Once you’ve mastered the vibration and pattern settings, try slipping your vibrating bullet into your underwear. Then, see if you can find ways to pleasure yourself as much as possible without touching the bullet with your hands. Try sitting on a chair and grinding against it, lying on the bed with a pillow between your legs to add pressure or pulling up your waistband for even deeper vibrations. When it all gets too much, it’s time to take hold of the bullet again and use it to vibe your way to climax.

How to use a bullet vibrator for couples’ play

Once you’ve taken time to enjoy your vibrating bullet solo, try sharing it with your partner. It’s worth keeping in mind that while bullets are popular for women, they work well as male vibrators too. “I know this might be mainly for clitoral stimulation,” says a customer, The Real Mr Grey. “But for guys it has a fantastic feel, particularly if held at the top of the shaft just under the head.”

The powerful vibrations can add an extra buzz to oral sex as well; if your partner has a penis, try softly smoothing the bullet vibe up and down its length while you suck the head.

1. Treat your lover to a massage

This can be a great way to build excitement during foreplay. Once your partner has chosen a vibration setting they like, take the vibe and ask them to sit on the edge of the bed or on a chair. Sit on their lap to straddle them, then run the vibe slowly along your partner’s shoulders, neck, chest, thighs and anywhere else you think might feel good to them — but try to avoid their main erogenous zones for as long as you can. Wait until the playful teasing becomes a little too much, before treating them to a more intimate massage.

2. Choose the right positions

Use your bullet to stimulate the clitoris during penetration, and you and your partner could climax together through the shared vibrations. While missionary and doggy style make it easy to hold the vibe where both partners can benefit from the buzz, there are lots of other positions that could work well too. We’ve got plenty of ideas in our blog; why not see which positions could be even better with a bullet vibe?

3. Slip your vibe inside a strap-on

When you’re ready to step things up a notch by inserting your bullet vibe into a larger sex toy, we suggest finding a strap-on with space for a bullet in the base. Some of our customers have tried this during partner play, and loved the results. Like these two: “The best thing we've bought as a lesbian couple. So much more comfortable than regular strap-ons and gives more pleasure to the wearer, as well as increasing skin-to-skin contact and intimacy. The bullet is so strong and powerful too, and we often use the bullet on its own, or the strap without the bullet — so versatile!”

4. Let the receiver take control

Teach your partner how to please you with the vibe. If they’re using the toy to pleasure you, gently guide their hand to glide the bullet vibrator over the sensitive areas that feel best for you and alter the settings and the pressure to show them exactly what gets you off.

Then, when you’re ready, swap over and let them guide your hand and the bullet around their body’s hottest erogenous zones too. Thanks to this sex toy’s compact size, it’s ideal for passing back and forth between you in the heat of the moment.

Once you’ve mastered the art of turning each other on with the bullet vibe, try adding a blindfold (or simply closing your eyes) as your partner traces your body with the toy. Restricting your sight increases your awareness of your other senses, while blocking out distractions and helping to build a sexy sense of anticipation.

Are bullet vibrators good?

If you’re after a small, versatile sex toy that’s as fun to use during solo play as it is with a partner, we think you’ll be a big fan of bullet vibrators. They make it easy to explore your external hot spots and tease your way to climax. Bullet vibrators are perfect if you’re experimenting with sex toys for the first time, or if you’re looking for a mini multi-tasker to add to your collection. Just pick a bullet that suits you, and it’s good vibes all the way! That said, if you’re looking for a toy to target your g-spot or to stimulate penetrative sex, a bullet isn’t the best option for you.

Frequently asked questions about bullet vibrators

How loud are bullet vibrators?

They’re discreet in more ways than one; most of these tiny toys are reassuringly quiet. You may find that they become louder if used inside another toy, though, or on their highest vibration setting. To check how loud (and intense) your vibrating bullet is going to be ahead of playtime, find somewhere private to test it out on your arm or palm first. Or, when you’re shopping with Lovehoney, look out for our Whisper Quiet toys.

Can you insert a bullet vibrator?

These small vibrators shouldn’t be inserted, because they don’t have a flared base and so can’t be safely removed. If you’re after the type of vibrator that mimics penetrative sex, check out our range of rabbit vibrators (perfect for targeting your g-spot) and insertable anal toys. We’ve got something to get everybody going!