How to Use a Pocket Pussy

In this guide: What is it? | How to use it | How to clean it | Different types | 5 of the best

You won’t always have the energy (or the will) to swipe through the apps to find a hook-up. By the time you’ve filtered out the bots and waited for your matches to actually respond, you could have easily dealt with your boner the old-fashioned way...

When you’re craving alone time or simply in between situationships, a pocket pussy can feel warm, wet, and satisfying – especially if you know what you’re doing. This guide will talk you through how to use your pocket pussy and give you tips on how to clean and store it properly.

Plus, if you’re totally new to this, you’ll also find out how to choose the best realistic stroker toy for your pleasure.

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• A pocket pussy is a handheld sex toy for people with penises. It's made from soft material that feels like skin and looks like a vulva.

• First, apply lube to the toy and your penis. It’ll feel more comfortable and sensual when you insert your penis, since lube reduces friction (the painful kind).

• Insert your erect member into the stroker. Some are quite tight, so you definitely need to be hard and lubed up. Plus, if you’re already aroused, it’ll make the whole experience more satisfying.

• Use your hand to move the toy up and down your shaft. You don’t need us to tell you how that works!

• Wedge it between the sofa cushions. If your pocket pussy has a hard case, try thrusting into it hands-free for an even more realistic sensation.

• Clean your sex toys after every use. Never skip this step as it helps protect your body from infections while prolonging the life of your toy. Warm water and unscented soap usually does the trick.

A pocket pussy is a handheld sex toy for anyone with a penis. Made from soft, supple plastics, these toys are designed to look like a realistic vulva. You can get similar toys designed to look like a mouth, asshole, or even a fantasy alien orifice...

Inside the toy, you’ll find a textured canal which teases your member with ridges, bumps, or even soft “teeth”. The material stretches to accommodate you as you thrust into the toy, for a sensation of light suction or pressure.

Most pocket pussies are quite small and discreet, which you can travel with it or stash it out of sight in a drawer. Try one next time you’re pleasuring yourself – or during phone sex with your partner. It can feel seriously hot!

3 things to know before using your pocket pussy

You can get some pretty advanced male sex toys, but most pocket pussies are literally just a soft, flexible tube that looks and feels quite a lot like a vulva. It’s as easy as using your hand, but there are a couple of things worth knowing first:

1. You don’t need to be alone to use a pocket pussy. You’ll find tips on playing with a partner below. But, if you are playing solo, make sure no one’s about to walk in on you (pick a day when you’re home alone or head into the bathroom and lock the door).

2. You do need water-based lube. It’ll make sliding inside more comfortable (and sensual) and going for something water-based will protect the material of your toy. Lube can also help lean into your fantasy by mimicking the wetness of a real vagina.

3. Orgasm is just a bonus. Hey, we all like to cum, but don’t put pressure on yourself. The whole point of masturbating is to feel good so, if you don’t climax right away, just relax and focus on the feeling of your toy. And if you feel like you came too quick, check out our edging tips below.

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If you already know how to masturbate as a man you’re halfway there. All you really need to do is grab your toy, apply heaps of lube, and slide yourself inside the opening. Here are a few extra tips to make using a pocket pussy feel even better:

Clean it first

When your toy is brand new, you’ll need to clean it thoroughly to get rid of any lint or unsexy plastic smells it came with. Clean and store it properly after every use as well, so it’s always ready for next time (you’ll find more cleaning tips below!).

Get yourself ready

Seducing yourself a little can help you relax, which makes all kinds of sex (solo or otherwise) more fun and satisfying. So, turn down the lights and give your balls or nipples a little rub for foreplay while you slow down your breathing.

Start thinking about your dream date or watch a little porn to get yourself in the mood. Pocket pussies look and feel realistic, so they can make fantasies more immersive. You might also appreciate keeping a few clean-up tools close at hand, so you can just chill post-climax rather than dashing about looking for tissues.

Warm up your toy

Try running your pocket pussy under the warm water tap for a few minutes to gradually warm it up. This can make the experience even more realistic, while encouraging blood flow to your penis and increasing your sensitivity. When you’re extra sensitive, the internal textures of your toy feel more intense.

Avoid hot water, as this will degrade your toy. You should also aim to keep the inner canal dry, as water will just increase friction (in an unsexy way).

Apply lube to yourself and the toy

Pump a generous dollop of water-based lube onto the shaft and head of your penis, as this will help you slide in without painful friction. Get some more lube and rub it into the entrance of your toy. You can make this a sexy part of your fantasy – think about fingering someone special and making them wet in preparation for you.

Slide in and squeeze

Press the head of your erect penis into the toy and slide all the way in until your shaft is enveloped too. If your pocket pussy doesn’t have a hard plastic shell, make the most of this unique feeling by gently squeezing the canal around your shaft with your hand.

Squeezing lightly will introduce you to all the amazing textures inside your toy before you start moving your hand and the toy up and down – just like you would while masturbating.

Change positions

You might feel most comfortable on your back or propped up on pillows. That said, changing things up sometimes can introduce an element of novelty that makes solo sex more interesting.

Try getting on your knees or all fours while you keep moving your toy with your hand. If your pocket pussy has a firm case, you can wedge it between sofa cushions and thrust into it. Simulating the movements you’d make during sex with a partner can send even sexier signals to your brain, which boosts arousal.

Embrace your turn-ons

When you’re playing solo, you don’t need to think about what feels good for anyone besides yourself. It can be really liberating – even relaxing – to focus on your own pleasure.

“It's not uncommon for men to feel ashamed of masturbating or that they shouldn't be doing it,” says Dr Ben Davis, men's health GP and CORST-registered sex therapist. “But taking your time to enjoy your body, to learn what you like, what feels good, is a really great way to look after yourself and give yourself pleasure. It can also help you enjoy sex more with a partner, when you know what turns you on and what feels good.”

So, embrace your curiosity and try something new, like gently tugging on your balls or fingering yourself anally using a clean, lubed up finger. You don’t need to be shy about what you like here.

Bring in anal play

Your butthole is home to a load of nerve-endings, which is partly why anal sex and masturbation can feel so good. Dr Ben Davis explains that anal penetration can also “create intense pelvic floor engagement” while putting pressure on the “penile root and bulb” internally. That’s why anal play might make your orgasms feel even more intense.

For an easy way to start, grab a butt plug with a slim neck and tapered tip, like the Lovehoney Butt Tingler. Butt plugs offer a pleasing sense of fullness, putting pressure on the prostate from with (the Butt Tinger even vibrates, which sends more zingy pleasure through your lower body).

Again, you’ll need a load of lube to ease the plug into your anus – and being relaxed and turned on helps too. Always choose an anal toy with a large, flared base so it can’t get lost inside you. Check out our anal sex toy guides for more tips.

Try edging

Edging is a technique where you get yourself right to the edge of orgasm, then slow down or stop before you actually come. This technique can build anticipation, which might make your orgasm feel more satisfying when you finally let go. It’s worth a shot if you find masturbation feels less fulfilling and more functional lately.

Sometimes, edging also works when you swap one sensation for another. For example, you could press a bullet vibrator to the underside of your penis, tracing up to the frenulum (the sensitive spot under the head). Let the vibration tease you until you’re getting close, before thrusting yourself inside a warm, wet, pocket pussy. It might help you slow down your climax – or tip you over the edge! Either way, you’ll have a good time.

You might also hear people recommend edging as way to improve your sexual stamina. There’s not much research into this method, but the logic is sound: you practice getting close to orgasm and holding off until you’re better able to control when you climax. Worth a shot!

Try it with a cock ring

If you struggle to maintain an erection, you might find a cock ring helps you stay hard for your pocket pussy. Cock rings slightly restrict blood flowing away from the penis, which some people find keeps them erect.

Just be warned that some people find cock rings actually increase sensitivity, making them come faster. You won’t know until you try it! Just be sure not to wear your cock ring for too long (no more than 30 minutes at a time).

You can also get rings that circle the balls, which you might like if you enjoy the feeling of having your balls squeezed or tugged. Pairing this with your pocket pussy could feel phenomenal.

Share it with a partner

Sure, not everyone wants to see their partner penetrate some other vagina (even if it’s a fake one). But some do! Plus, masturbating in front of your partner can be thrilling for both you and the one watching.

Dr Ben Davis explains why this is: “Seeing your partner as their own autonomous, pleasure-seeking person, rather than just your other half is actually one of the biggest drivers of desire.” Plus, letting go in front of each other can deepen your bond by showing how much you trust each other.

Ask your partner if they’d find it sexy to use the pocket pussy on you (or watch you use it yourself) and reassure them that it’s totally OK if the answer is ‘no’. There are other toys you can try together if this isn’t their cup of tea.

Clean your pocket pussy straight away after you’ve used it to stop bacteria from growing and giving you an infection. It’s easy and only takes five minutes. Here’s what you need to do:

1. Rinse your pocket pussy thoroughly with warm water, then spray it with sex toy cleaner. If you don’t have toy cleaner, just use a mild, unscented soap and be sure to rinse off the residue after.

2. Turn it inside out to wash the inner canal carefully. Pocket pussies are flexible, so you can easily turn them inside out to get rid of all the lube and spunk.

3. Shake off any excess water or pat it with a clean towel. Avoid rubbing or scrubbing your toy too harshly, as this will damage the material.

4. Let your toy air dry completely. Don’t put it in direct sunlight or a warm radiator (you don’t want to know what a melted pocket pussy looks like).

5. Dust it with renewal powder. This maintains the “real feel” texture of toys made from soft plastics like TPE.

6. Store your pocket pussy in a breathable container. Cotton or satin bags are better than plastic, as the fabric will let your toy breathe. Keeping toys in their own bags stops the materials from reacting to each other (which can also result in a melty mess).

Caring for and storing your toy properly will prolong its life and keep it looking (and smelling) fresh – no mould, discolouration, or degrading over time.

Your classic pocket pussy is a small stroker that looks a lot like a real vagina, but you can get variations on this absolute classic. When choosing yours, consider these types:

• Closed-ended. You might feel more suction on your schlong, plus the lube won’t dribble out the end...

• Open-ended. Easy to clean and works beautifully when you ask someone to suck on your head while the toy takes care of the shaft.

• With a case. Easy to mount in the shower or wedge between cushions for a hands-free experience. Check out Fleshlight for realistic sex toys housed in a discreet, durable storage case.

• Mouth-shaped. Yep, just like a pocket pussy but with lips and a tongue instead.

• Butt-shaped. You can get a small, handheld one – or something more advanced with luscious, smackable butt cheeks.

• Fantasy-shaped. Inspired by mythical creatures, with fantastical colours and intriguing textures to match.

No matter what you choose, it’s all about finding something that works for your body and makes you feel sensational.

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