How to Have a Prostate Orgasm

In this guide: What is a prostate orgasm? | Where is the prostate? | How to have a prostate orgasm | Sex positions to try | Tips if you’re struggling

Maybe you’ve heard whispers about the male G spot; that massaging it can give you full-body orgasms that are even more toe-curling than the ones you’re used to... Well, we’ve got good news: the rumours are true.

Once you know how to hit that fabled hot spot, you can build it into your sex life in all kinds of delicious ways. Team it with oral sex, try all kinds of incredible anal sex toys, or explore different sex positions that hit the P-spot just right.

Whatever your vibe, we’ve got you: here’s everything you need to know about how to have a prostate orgasm.

Only got time for a quickie?

• The prostate is a walnut-sized gland just inside the anus. Think of it as a hidden sexual pleasure hotspot, waiting to be discovered and explored.

• It’s packed with nerve endings. Stimulating the prostate during anal play can lead to longer, deeper orgasms – and, for some, multiple climaxes that make a regular finish feel like a warm-up!

• You can start with fingers, toys, or partnered play. Solo anal masturbation sessions are great for getting to know your P-spot. When you’re ready, a partner can help you find new ways to hit the sweet spot.

• Relaxation and lube are essential. The anus doesn’t self-lubricate and can tense up when you’re nervous. Slathering on anal lubricant, teasing the rim, massaging the perineum, or stroking your penis first – it all helps anal play feel smooth, comfortable, and deliciously pleasurable.

• Take your time. Prostate orgasms don’t always happen right away, but patience pays off – once you hit the sweet spot, the sensations can be mind-blowing. Even without an orgasm, massaging this erogenous zone is intensely pleasurable in a unique way.

A prostate orgasm is an intense type of climax you can have when you stimulate the prostate gland through anal sex or masturbation. The prostate is a part of the male reproductive system, which adds fluids to semen and plays a part in ejaculation. So, only people born with male anatomy can experience the legendary ‘P-spot’ orgasm.

“Stimulating the prostate can result in mind-blowing and sometimes multiple orgasms,” says sex and relationships expert Annabelle Knight. Unlike a typical penile orgasm, which might feel quick and focused, a prostate orgasm is often longer lasting and more ‘full body’. You might hear it compared to deep waves of pleasure that roll through the body with strong contractions. That’s why the prostate is often called the ‘male G-spot’ or ‘P-spot’.

Sometimes, prostate massage can release prostatic fluid, which exits through the urethra just like semen. But you won’t always ejaculate when you have prostate-induced orgasms; this is known as a ‘dry orgasm’.

To tap into prostate pleasure, you need to get to know where the prostate is and how to reach it. Here's your P-spot roadmap.

Many people believe that regular prostate massage has health benefits and may even help with erectile dysfunction, but most of these claims are anecdotal. What we do know is this: if you’re gentle and take your time, it’s a safe, intensely pleasurable way to explore your body.

How to stimulate the prostate?

“The prostate responds terrifically well to stimulation and can lead to intense male orgasms,” says Annabelle.

“Once you’ve located the raised area on the front wall of the anus, try experimenting with fingers or prostate toys during masturbation.”

You can stimulate the prostate using fingers, prostate massager toys, or through penetrative sex. Some people call this ‘prostate massage’ or ‘prostate milking’. You can combine it with masturbating your penis for heightened pleasure – or focus purely on internal stimulation. (Get more tips on all of that below).

You might experience a prostate orgasm in minutes the first time you try. But most people find it takes a few sessions of exploration to get used to the feeling. Go slow, stay calm, and let things build naturally – we'll give you more tips for prostate pleasure below.

You might prefer to explore solo first to get comfortable with the sensations of prostate play and learn what feels good. But you can also try prostate massage with a partner for a seriously steamy way to feel intimate and connected. Both are great options – your call!

Get clean first

Anal play can be intensely pleasurable, but it can also cause tiny tears and bleeding in the rectum, which puts you at a slightly increased risk of infections. That’s why it’s important to wash your hands, anal toys, and anal area before you play. Feeling clean will also help you relax and enjoy the moment.

You might be put off by the idea of encountering a bit of poo, but if you’ve been to the toilet an hour before play, there’s no need to worry. And douching is optional – not essential. (If you would like to, we’ve got a handy guide on how to use an anal douche; check it out, then head back here!)

Relax and get aroused

“For many, prostate play is a totally new sensation. So, remember to take it slow and make sure you’re relaxed,” says Annabelle. Your butt might tense up when you’re nervous, which makes anal play much less pleasurable.

But the more turned on you are, the more your muscles relax – which makes easier to slide inside the anus without discomfort. Whether you’re flying solo or with a partner, think: foreplay. Stroke your penis, tease the perineum (that sensitive spot between your balls and bum), or circle the rim of your anus.

Some people like edging themselves towards orgasm solely with prostate massage – and only touching their penis when they’re ready for the big finale. Save this technique for when you’re more experienced with anal play. Until then, get more tips for jacking off in our guide on how to masturbate for men.

Never skip lube

The anus doesn’t self-lubricate, so lube really is your best friend here. It’ll allow your fingers or toys slide in with less discomfort, while helping prevent minor fissures. For short sessions which only involve a finger, any lube will do. But as you get more confident with toys or penetrative sex, go for anal lube as it’ll be thicker and longer lasting.

Let your body adjust

Your butt hole needs a little time to get used to penetration, so start small – with a single finger or slim beginner’s toy – and build up at your own pace. You might not climax the first time you try, but that’s OK. Just relax and enjoy getting to know your body. If penetration feels difficult, you might be too tense. Next time, try having a relaxing bath first (or treat yourself to a full body massage!) and use more lube than you think you need.

Massage your prostate with a finger

Coat your forefinger with anal lube and rub the rim of your anus. Apply more lube to the finger insert it carefully inside. To get the angle right, imagine your fingertip is pointing through your body towards your belly button. Curl your finger in a beckoning motion – and when you feel a firm, rounded mound, you’re there!

Use the flat of your fingertip to apply gentle pressure; stroking or rubbing in tiny circles can build a new, powerful kind of arousal. “You should never feel any pain,” says Annabelle. “If it does feel a little uncomfortable, just slow it down or stop and come back to it when you feel ready.”

Play with anal toys

Prostate toys are designed with curved tips that naturally press against the gland. “If you’re trying to find your own P-spot, you might find it easier to use a specially shaped prostate massager,” says Annabelle. “These handy toys are curved to put pressure on the front wall of the anus.” Check out our article on how to use a prostate massager for more tips.

“The Lovehoney Booty Buddy is great for beginners because it’s slimline, it’s not very girthy, and it’s not very long,” says Annabelle. “It also has a flared base, which is something you definitely want in any anal sex toy.”

If you mastered slimline toys already, try working up to more advanced toys; choose from longer, broader options, or try temperature play with stainless steel options like the njoy Pure Wand (pop it in the fridge or heat in warm water for thrilling new sensations). Vibrating toys like the adjustable We-Vibe Vector+ can add extra intensity, offering a targeted prostate massage at two different speeds.

Tidy up after

When the fun’s over, clean your toys as soon as possible to prevent bacteria from harbouring there. (Don’t forget to wash your hands too!) Most toys can be washed with warm water and mild, unscented soap or a toy-safe cleaner, but it is recommended to sterilize anal toys once in a while too. Pop your toys in separate bags or containers so they’re fresh, clean, and ready for round two.

Wanna explore prostate play through partnered sex? Whether you’re playing with someone who has a penis or not, there are plenty of ways to play. Whether with fingers, toys, or strap-ons, these anal penetration positions are great for P-spot pleasure.

Not everyone hits the P-spot jackpot on the first try – and that’s perfectly normal. It can take time to relax, explore, and learn what works for your body. It’s worth experimenting with your finger before investing in any sex toys, but remember that prostate massagers are designed to target your P-spot, so it might be easier to climax that way. All you need to do is have fun and take breaks when your body needs it. Just remember: prostate play isn’t only about the orgasm – it’s about unlocking brand-new sensations you didn’t even know you could feel.