1. What is a Fleshlight and How Do You Use One?

    Everything you need to know about Fleshlights

    Everything you need to know about Fleshlights: right here, in one convenient place! Watch our video guide for an introduction to the masturbation sleeves everyone talks about, then read further for help choosing the best Fleshlight for your needs, recommendations on how to make the most of your Fleshlight, and tips on keeping your Fleshlight in top condition.

    Above: Jess Wilde and Sammi Cole debate the virtues of many different types of Fleshlight.


    What is a Fleshlight?

    The Fleshlight is the world's biggest-selling male masturbation toy ever. Fleshlights are made from a soft, pliable, non-vibrating real feel SuperSkin sleeve that's been specially designed to replicate the feel of a partner's skin and the sensation of having penetrative sex.

    These amazing, discreet toys look just like a torch (or flashlight) and their sturdy casing really makes them last. Fleshlights are perfect both for enhancing masturbation and bringing a new dimension to foreplay with a partner.

    Which Fleshlight is the Best?

    1. Flight by Fleshlight

    This one!

    Lovehoney’s #1 best-selling Fleshlight is the Flight by Fleshlight male masturbator. Flight boasts a rating of 4.5 out of 5 across more than 200 independent customer reviews on Lovehoney.

    155 customers rate Flight as a 5 star product.

    Why Our Customers Think Flight is the Best Fleshlight:

    "As for the toy itself, it feels damn good, can't lie. The internal ribs and textures just make it almost impossible not to enjoy." - Velvet Thunder

    "I have had some truly wonderful, body-shaking orgasms from this Fleshlight and I would be happy to buy another any day. The action and vacuum are just enough to deliver those delicate, light sensations when required and also stronger enough for the large bursts at other times." - thecauseofmoonlightshadows

    "The internal texture of the Flight has to be one of my favourites so far. What impressed me is that you can actually feel each section individually." - Incendiaire

    "The smaller size and discreet appearance of the Flight models makes them more ideal for guys needing either discretion or portability (or both!)" - MECub86

    "I was amazed at the difference the end piece makes. Fully open simulates vaginal feel, almost closed gave a more anal feeling, and fully closed gave an excellent blowjob feeling." - johnlow

    "I would highly recommend this toy to other women looking to treat the OH - it's loads of fun!" - TheVoice

    So what are you waiting for?

    Which is the Best Fleshlight? (That isn't Flight!)

    Every Fleshlight offers something different. Scroll down for Lovehoney's top Fleshlight suggestions for increasing your staying power, fulfilling fantasies, playing with a partner, and travelling.

    Best Fleshlight for: Stamina Training

    The Pink Lady STU

    Pink Lady Stamina Training Unit STU Fleshlight

    The Pink Lady Stamina Training Unit Fleshlight does exactly what it says on the tin and builds up your stamina by getting you used to the intense feeling of intercourse, without the pressure of a partner.

    Fleshlights may aid those who suffer with problems regarding lack of sensation from excessive masturbation. If you have been conditioned to orgasm only from hand stimulation, you may find it difficult to climax any other way, but a Fleshlight may be able to help. It has all the manual action of using your hands but feels like your favourite part of your partner, so adding variety to your solo routine with a Fleshlight may help you discover new ways of climaxing.

    The case is the Fleshlight's standard 10 inch case, which means you can use any other standard Fleshlight insert with the Stamina Training Unit case if you fancy a change.

    Best Fleshlight for: Fantasies

    Fleshlight Girls & Fleshjack Boys

    Riley Reid Fleshlight Butt Euphoria

    The Fleshlight Girls and Fleshjack Boys are complete Fleshlights (a case and insert sold together) where the opening of the inserts have been moulded from the bodies of famous porn stars themselves. The inserts also have a more true-to-life colour than the original pink Fleshlight range.

    Popular stars include: Riley Reid, Stoya, Alexis Texas, Janice Griffith, Madison Ivy, Dillion Harper, Brandi Love, Elsa Jean, Adriana Chechik, Eva Lovia and Lena Paul.

    For a tighter fit, why not try some anal? Also moulded from bodies of porn stars, lady rear ends on offer include Riley Reid, Stoya and Adriana Chechik, with blokes Colby Keller, Brent Everett and Levi Karter rounding out the back end.

    The range has a huge variety of exclusive textures — you can indulge your favourite sexual fantasy as you watch them perform.

    Best Fleshlight for: Partners

    Ice Lady Crystal Fleshlight

    Ice Lady Crystal Fleshlight

    The transparent Ice Lady Crystal Fleshlight gives you and your companion a clear view of every thrust. Watch yourself fill up the canal or put the power in the your partner's hands and let them surprise you.

    "So all I can really say is, women, please don't be narrow-minded like me and miss out on this potential. Fleshlights are ridiculously good to use as a couple, and the Ice Crystal is perfect as a toy not just for him, but both of you." - Tihilol

    If you enjoy seeing yourself this way, why not check out the other translucent Fleshlights on offer, like the Fleshlight Flight Aviator or the Fleshlight Go Torque?

    Best Fleshlight for: Travel

    Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage Compact Male Masturbator

    Fleshlight Quickshot Boost Compact Male Masturbator

    For Fleshlight-quality goodness packed into your pocket, look no further than the Fleshlight Quickshot Boost Compact. Being away from home doesn't have to be so hard — pack a Fleshlight Quickshot for easy upgrades to self-satisfaction sessions.

    "Small and discreet, I purchased one of these for my flight carry on. I've made nine trips overseas within the past year and at no point has this raised some eyebrows." - HpB

    If the Quickshot isn't quite enough for you, try the "Go" range, specifically designed for travel. 17% shorter than the original Fleshlight and more compact than the typical Fleshlight, slip the Fleshlight Go Surge into your luggage and enjoy Fleshlight pleasure wherever your travels take you.

    How to use your Fleshlight

    You've taken the plunge and purchased a Fleshlight: now, how do you use this marvellous thing? Follow our instructions for super satisfying sessions, and take a look at some of the creative ways our customers have enjoyed their toy.

    For the best sensations, warm your Fleshlight before you get started. You can do this by either removing the real feel sleeve from the case and submerging it in warm water, or by sliding the Fleshlight onto the Fleshlight USB-Powered Warming Rod. Once the sleeve has reached your desired temperature, simply shake off the excess water and return it to the case, or remove the Fleshlight from the warming rod.

    Get lubed up. For the best experience, you should apply a liberal amount of water-based lubricant to your penis, the sleeve's entrance, and sleeve's internal canal.

    Penetrate the Fleshlight and enjoy yourself!

    Think you've enjoyed the Fleshlight every way you can? Why not try some techniques perfected by our reviewers?

    "I have a nice small vibrator that I put in the other end and it makes the orgasm strength out of this world." - GoodSir

    "I also bought the hands-free shower mount and this really makes the Fleshlight something else for hands-free fun, especially when the wife is pegging me at the same time!" - glymar

    "I think the pre-heating was an essential part of the preparation. If I was blindfolded and someone had used this on me I would have no idea that it was a toy." - Blake3393

    "My GF uses these on me in foreplay all the time to get me really hard. The feel of the Brandi Butt is incredible. A firm grasp around the shaft tightly works the head too." - Drü

    How to clean your Fleshlight

    A little tender loving care will go a long way to ensuring your Fleshlight male sex toy will give enjoyment again and again.

    After use, remove the Fleshlight sleeve from its case and run hot water through the canal to remove any water-based lubricant or bodily fluids. Please note Fleshlight recommend you do not use soap as it can degrade the special SuperSkin material. For thorough cleaning, use a specialist sex toy cleaner like Lovehoney Fresh Sex Toy Cleaner or Fleshlight Fleshwash Sex Toy Cleaner.

    Once the Fleshlight sleeve is rinsed, lay it to dry on a clean towel. The Fleshlight sleeve should be completely dry, inside and out, before it's returned to its case.

    One Lovehoney reviewer has used the plastic tube provided with the Fleshlight and a fan to speed up the drying process. Simply insert the plastic tube about a quarter of the way into the Fleshlight and place a fan on high power at the opposite end of the tube to quickly air dry the sleeve's internal canal.

    After cleaning, the Fleshlight sleeve may feel tacky or sticky to the touch — this is normal. Sprinkle the dry Fleshlight with Fleshlight Renewer Powder to restore its silky-smooth feel.

    In addition to cleaning, there are a few other tips you can keep in mind to keep your Fleshlights feeling fresh:

    • DO store your Fleshlight in its case where possible

    • DON'T use talcum powder on your Fleshlight

    • DON'T use silicone lube on your Fleshlight

    • DON'T use soap or non-specialist cleaners on your Fleshlight

    • DON'T share your Fleshlight with anyone else

    Upgrading Your Fleshlight Game

    If you already own a Fleshlight and love using it or if you're looking to make sure your new toy keeps going as long as you do, consider the following accessories to keep it in great condition and super satisfying for years to come.

    Fleshlight Sex Toy Care Kit

    Fleshlight Accessories Care Kit

    A great investment is the Fleshlight Sex Toy Care Kit which offers a sex toy cleaner, a renewer powder and a bottle of water-based lubricant.

    The water-based sex lube enhances your Fleshlight experience with super-slippery sensations whilst being gentle on the skin, hypoallergenic and natural. The antibacterial sex toy cleanser can be sprayed directly onto sex toys to disinfect them after use and the renewer powder keeps your toys in tip top condition.

    If you run out of a specific care item, each can be purchased separately: Fleshlight Fleshlube Water-Based Lubricant, Fleshlight Fleshwash Antibacterial Sex Toy Cleaner, Fleshlight Renewer Powder.

    Fleshlight USB-Powered Warming Rod

    Fleshlight USB Powered Warming Rod

    If you're craving a warmer, more realistic feel then heat your favourite masturbator with this purpose-built warming rod for body-temperature fun.

    This innovative warming rod reaches temperatures of up to 131ºF or 55ºC in 10-15 minutes. The rod is so discreet it could easily be mistaken for part of your computing equipment, so leaving it next to your PC won't raise any suspicions.

    Simply slide the masturbator over the shaft and get ready to plunge into body-temperature play without any mess — until you're finished, that is.

    Fleshlight Shower Mount and Hands-Free Adaptor

    Fleshlight Shower Mount and Hands-Free Adaptor

    Another way to customise your Fleshlight is with the Fleshlight Shower Mount and Hands-Free Adaptor. This suction-based holder can be attached to any flat surface like bathroom tiles, ensuring you get the perfect height and angle for hands-free play.

    If you're hoping to use your Flight model Fleshlight in the shower, make sure to also pick up the Fleshlight Flight to Shower Mount Adaptor.

    Need more help?

    You can Contact Customer Care, who will be able to help you find the right Fleshlight. You can email, telephone or live chat to an experienced advisor 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

    The other great place to look for people's advice on sex toys is on the Lovehoney Forum, where our community is on hand to give their opinions and tips.

    Contact Lovehoney Customer Care | Visit The Lovehoney Forum

    Comments (22)

    • teamer: February 26, 2008 17:36
      I got my fleshlight and a whole new universe of masturbation took off, Its sensual opening almost lifelike gets me in the mood when its loobed it is very tight for me so maybe some bigger sizes to be made available?
    • Richard - LoveHoney: February 27, 2008 12:38
      Did you buy a regular insert? That's the biggest canal size currently available. We'll check with the makers to see if they have plans for a more accomodating canal.

      Nice problem to have ;-)

      How does your Fleshlight compare to other masturbators?

    • paul: August 03, 2008 04:18
      Got one a few months back. Gives me great satisfaction to shoot my sperm in it. I roll 2 blankets/pillow longways and put the flashlight in between. The pillows support your weight while you thrust. Kinda like a hotdog bun
    • Jeff: August 24, 2008 17:41
      Had mine for a year now and have just ordered the ice fleshlight so I can see the action. Should add a new level of enjoyment! Will post when I try it out.
    • Richard - LoveHoney: August 25, 2008 20:19
      Cool, thanks Jeff.

      You can also post in the new LoveHoney forums - lots of people there who'd be interested in what you've got to say!


    • fleshlight sexerman: September 25, 2008 12:57
      i ordered the lia19 fleshlight and i got it today! i fucked it while looking at jana horova... it's warm, welcoming lips cuddling my dick..
    • neil: November 29, 2008 18:19
      Hi all

      Just had my new Ice Butt FL delivered. tried it 4 times already today and it's great. was a little tighter than i expected, and had to have a few goes before i could get my knob in. But it soon loosened up, just like a real arse. :)

      After use was I just let the water run though, but drying was awkward. It nearly hit me in the nose while i was trying to turn it inside out. And as it dried it got incredible sticky. Is it meant to do this?

      All in all it's great. well worth the cash

    • jimbo: March 16, 2009 22:57
      yeh, same with me neil, its very sticky now, is there any way to sort this out? Also, ive had a pink original fleshlight unused for a while now which has turned slightly green on the orifice, how can i sort this out as well? ty
    • Richard - LoveHoney: March 17, 2009 08:02
      You can bring the Fleshlight back to life with a little cornflour (cornstarch) - a light dusting will make the material soft and receptive again.

      You should also wash out (with water, no soap) and completely dry your Fleshlight in between uses.

      If yours has gone green, it might be because it hasn't dried before you put it away.

      There's probably not much you can do to fix the green-ness, but you can stop it getting worse!

      If all else fails, treat yourself to a new insert ;-)

    • Mrt: April 28, 2009 12:31
      I'd like to know is it ok to use potato starch instead of cornstarch. They're quite similar and potato starch is much more common where I live.
      My Fleshlight should arrive shortly and I'd like to take the best care of it as I can.
    • Richard - LoveHoney: April 28, 2009 13:33
      Hi Mrt,
      I've never tried to be honest, but I've seen some Fleshlight lube recipes that include potato starch so I think you'd be OK using it.
    • Steve: July 04, 2009 02:23
      I'm thinking about getting my first FL. I'm cut and not that sensitive so I don't know what insert size to order, does it matter if it's too small? Can someone who maybe is the same as me give me some advice.

      Ta very much.

    • Richard - LoveHoney: July 06, 2009 09:23
      Hi Steve,
      The regular Pink Lady Fleshlight is the best place for start:

      There won't be a problem with tightness on that one (unless you're HUGE!).

      You can see more detail on the different inserts and sensations in this post:

      If you start with the Pink Lady, which has a smooth canal, then you can decide which textured or tighter insert to move on to next.

      Let us know how you get on!

    • PHIL: November 09, 2009 18:05
      I first purchased a Vanilla Deville Fleshlight about a year ago. That decision was based on the look of the orifice, I didn't want anything too fleshy, but that is just personal preference, and I quite liked the look of her too. As it goes, I never think of or look at pics of her when I am using it. That model came with a Wonder Wave canal. It made me wonder alright, why I hadn't bought one before!
      It was very,very good especially when it was brand new. I soon discovered that with the right amount of lube and suction it actually brought my foreskin back over the glans on the backstroke, as long as I didn't go at it too enthusiastically! Something I have never found a real vagina could do and incredibly stimulating.
      However, it did get regular use (every night) and there came a point where it didn't perform quite as well. Although I was very careful with the cleaning, a few small splits appeared at the orifice opening and this affected it. I can't really blame the product, I might have been a bit too scrupulous with the cleaning.
      This, of course, led me to 'needing' a new Fleshlight. I did some research and decided I wanted something completely different, so I went for the see through Ice Mouth with Vortex canal. A good decision, very different experience and very sexy! This is the one that I tend to use most often, although I like to use the Wonderwave occasionally, just for a change. Let's be honest, we men like that.
      If I had any criticism of the Icemouth it would be that the lips are really quite large, nice in it's own way, but I am not hugely endowed (happy enough) and the Vortex has a succession of 'chambers' and I just wish I could get another half inch further in.
      I am, more than, eagerly awaiting the delivery of a Tenga Fliphole. It should arrive tomorrow. It is true to say that I am a little bit excited!
    • Richard: November 10, 2009 09:46
      Thanks Phil - good to know that you got some good use out of Vanilla ;-)

      Don't forget that you can add your review of the Ice Mouth Vortex here: www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/reviews/write-a-review.html?p=15406

      Looking forward to hearing what you've got to say about the Flip Hole - did you go for White or Black?

    • Phil: November 10, 2009 14:40
      I went for white. Unless I missed a trick, it was £10 cheaper, and otherwise the same?
      Too late now, it arrived this morning. I have opened the box to make sure all is ok. Now there is only the irritation of being at work for several more hours yet. I am trying not to think about it, yeah like!
    • Richard: November 10, 2009 14:43
      lol The sensations in black and white are different, but if you've never had either you might as well start with the 10 quid cheaper one... Good call!

      Not long til home time... ;-)

    • chals: December 29, 2009 11:45
      hai vewers i want to buy this fleshlite and want to enjoy
      i am here in KUWAIT (MIDLE EAST) how mouch cost have this fleshlight to delivery here(INCLUDING SHIPPING AND TAX)PLS INFORM ME
    • LoveHoney - Carly: December 29, 2009 11:57
      Hi Chals,

      Unfortunately we do not deliver to Kuwait at this time. You can see a list of countries we do deliver to here: www.lovehoney.co.uk/help/delivery/

      Sorry we can't be of more help on this occasion!
    • Christian: August 09, 2011 12:07
      Is there any chance that I can find a vendor that sells Fleshlights at kuwait? Because I searched for a very long time now for Fleshlights at kuwait and I still couldn't find any. =(
    • Christian: August 09, 2011 12:08
      And yes .. Shipping will be a tough risk at kuwait ;P
    • Dennis Nigel: November 06, 2013 18:02
      Hey guy's i have had plenty of sex toys, about 6 to be exact, but i have a huge problem all of them tear, and i do not know why, i have had my flesh light for about 1 year now my first flesh light and it is working great, but even this one have gotten a small tear at the insert point, and i am afraid it will get worse over time of use. Any tips on how i can overcome this problem in the future?