How to Use a Clitoral Vibrator

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Who says clitoral stimulation is just for foreplay? That soft, intensely erotic sensation that comes with teasing your clit can be all you need to climax – so let’s make it the main event.

For such a tiny area, the clitoris can offer a lot of pleasure. You get variety with this little hot spot, too; it can be licked, rubbed, vibrated or air-pulsed until you’re suitably breathless. It’s the last two you’ll hear about here: how to use a clitoral vibrator to please this key pleasure zone. You’ll also find out how different clitoral vibes work and get tips for using them – both solo and with a partner.

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• The only known purpose of the clitoris is pleasure. The tiny nub you can touch at the top of your labia is the clitoral glans, and it’s linked to a larger clitoral structure inside you.

• Clitoral vibrators offer targeted stimulation to this pleasure zone. Some people find this helps them reach orgasm more easily, especially during penetrative sex. Try holding the vibe to your clit while in Cowgirl or Doggy position.

• You can use a clitoral vibrator all over your body. Tease other erogenous zones like your nipples and labia to build arousal before you touch your clit. (This can make your play session more sensual and satisfying).

• Try a dab of lube. Lube reduces friction, protecting your sensitive clit with a delicious slickness. Use a water-based lube with sex toys, as it’s less likely to damage them.

• Build intensity gradually. Vibes can be powerful, so start on a low intensity if you’re a beginner. Don’t worry if you don’t climax first time. You may just need to get used to your toy – keep exploring!

• Clean your toy after every use. If you clean and dry your toy properly, you’ll keep it in good condition while protecting yourself from harmful bacteria. You’ll find more cleaning and care tips below...

“The clitoris is a network of nerve endings designed entirely for pleasure,” says Annabelle Knight, our sex and relationship expert. In fact, it’s the only human organ whose sole known purpose is pleasure.

The clitoris has over 10,000 nerve endings, at a much higher density than the penis, which helps explain why it can feel so good to touch. Clitoral vibrators tease those nerve endings using tiny vibrating motors, which encourages blood flow to the area and heightens sensitivity.

The internal clitoral structure includes two crura or ‘legs’ as well as two bulbs that extend alongside the vaginal walls. This amazing internal structure could explain why some people find G-spot stimulation so pleasurable; it’s thought that the G-spot could be where the legs and bulbs of the clitoral structure meet behind your front vaginal wall. If you’ve got a rabbit vibrator, for example, this could be pleasuring the clitoris from inside and out.

Getting off isn’t a race! Take your time and let yourself feel the pleasure build. This can be a good time to try edging, too. Bringing yourself close to orgasm, then easing off before building again can lead to even more intense climaxes – while making the journey there even more satisfying. Here are some tips to get you going:

Get to know the settings

These days, a good vibrator will have a few different intensity levels or stimulation patterns you don't want to miss out on. Check the manual to find out how to control your toy, then test it out on your hand or thigh. Switching patterns rather than sticking to the same safe routine might reveal combos that send you over the edge.

Play around before touching your clit

Try your toy on other erogenous zones, like your nipples or perineum (the skin between your butt hole and the opening to your vagina). Just be careful not to insert your toy into your butt – unless it has a flared base and you’re prepared to wash it thoroughly before touching your vulva.

Playing around with your toy will help you get to know the controls before you raise the stakes. Otherwise, it can be so annoying if you fumble a button when you’re almost there...

Warm up with your hands

Some days, you just want to get off quick. But if you’ve got time, take it. Touching your vulva, clitoris, labia, or even softly caressing your breasts and thighs helps build anticipation and increase sensitivity. A slow, teasing build-up makes the eventual buzz of the vibrator feel electric. Get more self-pleasure tips with our guide: How to Masturbate for Women.

Apply lube

A good lube smooths out friction so your toy can glide effortlessly across your skin. Water-based lubes are usually the safest bet for sex toys, as silicone lube can degrade silicone toys over time. Apply a dab of lube to your clitoris, vulva, and the toy itself. You might find the slippery sensation even more sensual.

Start with low intensity

Begin on the gentler settings and let your body respond. You can even leave your knickers on to soften the vibrations, teasing yourself rather than going in with loads of pressure right away.

Try lightly circling the toy around the external part of your clitoris, or trace it along your labia to build your sensitivity. As you get more turned on, you can bring the toy against your clit, dial up the vibration intensity, or even increase the pressure (some people like pressing up firmly against their toy).

Take breaks

If things get too intense, it’s completely normal to pause. You can switch to using a warm palm, grind lightly against your pillow, or just rest for a moment. Taking breaks resets your nerves and often makes the climax even stronger when you return. Alternating between the thrill of vibrations and the grounding feeling of a warm hand adds variety and keeps pleasure fresh. Listen to your body and take your time.

Pair it with internal stimulation

The more turned on you are, the better penetration can feel. And when you combine clitoral stimulation with internal stimulation, things can get really hot. The clitoral network extends internally, which might explain why some people have a ‘G-spot’, i.e. an intense pleasure zone inside the vagina.

Slide a finger or G-spot vibrator into your vagina while your other hand (or vibrator) pleasures your clitoris. When you climax like this, it can feel deeper and more “full body” for some people (it can even help make someone squirt). In the biz, we call this type of orgasm a “blended orgasm”, because you’re blending different kinds of stimulation.

Clean up after

When you’ve finished playing, clean your toy as soon as you can. This stops residue from building up and becoming difficult to clean – and will keep your toy in good condition for longer. Not only that, but it’ll help protect your body from harmful bacteria and infections next time you play. More detail on how to clean and care for your toy below!

Sex toys aren't just for solo time. Using a toy together can add a sense of novelty to your sex life, which can help deepen intimacy between you. Here’s how to incorporate a clitoral vibrator into sex:

Talk about toys with your partner

Bring it up casually: “I’ve been wondering about trying this during sex” or “I saw this toy that might be fun, and feel really good for both of us”.

The conversation itself can be a kind of foreplay, as you chat about what excites you and what you each want to explore. That said, it can be helpful to bring toys up in a neutral space, e.g. out on a walk, rather than in bed. Otherwise, you might feel too vulnerable and end up taking suggestions as criticism.

You could browse toys together online, or describe your fantasies. Stay open and non-judgmental, while being calmly clear with your boundaries; that way, you’ll both feel safe and excited to share.

Tease different erogenous zones

Use your clitoral vibe to tease each other’s erogenous zones – nipples, inner thighs, perineum, balls, or the underside of the penis (if either of you have one). Gentle brushes, slow circles, and alternating pressure can heighten arousal and make sensations feel more layered. Don’t forget behind-the-knee, ears, or the small of the back too – these areas can be surprisingly sensitive.

Get your partner to watch

Invite your partner to watch while you use a vibrator on yourself, or try teasing yourself with it while going down on them – seeing you enjoy yourself can be very arousing. It’s a playful, safe way to explore a little exhibitionism together, and makes climaxes feel even more connected and exciting for both of you.

Try toy-friendly sex positions

There are lots of sex positions for stimulating the clit, whether that’s through body-to-body contact or leaving room for a vibrator between you. Doggy Style leaves plenty of room for the bottom partner to hold the toy in place. Cowgirl (receiver on top) works well too; you can hold the toy against the clitoris while keeping that steamy eye contact going.

Choose hand free toys

With your hands free, you can focus on kissing, touching, or giving oral – making sex feel more fluid and adventurous for you both. Wearable vibrators, like the We-Vibe Chorus Pro, sit snugly between the labia and clitoris, keeping the buzz going while keeping both your hands free. If you’re into trying anal play, vibrating butt plugs can be a lot of fun too.

Check the manufacturer's instructions to know how to clean and care for your toy properly, as different materials have different care needs.

In most cases, you can wash waterproof toys with warm water and a mild, unscented soap. If your toy is only splashproof (or not water-resistant at all), you can use sex toy wipes or a spritz of sex toy cleaner and a clean, damp cloth. For the more hard-to-clean areas (like seams or around buttons), a cotton bud or sex toy wipe can help you to get things spotless.

Finally, make sure your toy is completely dry before storing. You can always gently pat dry with a clean towel, but we’d recommend leaving your vibrator in a well-ventilated area to dry completely before you store it away.

Keep your vibrator somewhere cool and out of direct sunlight – avoiding places like warm radiators or windowsills to protect the material. Storing it in a breathable pouch or separate compartment will also keep it dust-free and in great condition, ready whenever you are.

If you’re new to vibrators, there are quite a few varieties to explore. “You’ll often find clitoral vibrators are slim enough to fit between two partners, with a pointed or rounded tip to provide precise stimulation,” says Annabelle. But it’s helpful to know what makes each type unique before you add to your collection:

• Bullet vibrator: Tiny but mighty, bullet vibrators give you precise clitoral stimulation. Their compact size means they’re perfect for weekends away and easy to slip between you and your lover during sex. Since they tend to vibrate on a higher frequency, they can result in quicker orgasms.

• Wand vibrator: Known for their deep, rumbling power, wand vibrators use a larger head to spread sensation across the vulva. Ideal if you prefer broader stimulation rather than pinpoint vibrations, which some people too intense.

• Clitoral suction vibrator: Using pulses of air instead of traditional vibration, clitoral suction toys envelop the clitoris with a pulsing sensation. The rhythmic, indirect stimulation builds gradually and can feel satisfying without overwhelming you.

• Wearable vibrator: Designed for hands-free pleasure, wearable vibrators (like the ones by We-Vibe) tuck inside and against the vulva. You can often wear them during penetrative sex, for blended stimulation without awkwardly needing to hold a toy in place.

• Rabbit vibrator. Also known as “dual stimulation” toys, these vibrators have an internal arm for your G-spot, as well as an external arm that stimulates your clit. Traditional rabbit toys snuggle the clit between two flexible “ears” that transmit vibrations beautifully.

The best clitoral stimulator toys are made from body-safe materials with high quality motors and charging capabilities. Pick a trusted sex toy retailer that offers easy returns and good customer care – so you know what to do if you’re not happy with your toy. Here’s a few recommended toys:

• Womanizer Enhance: This toy blends Womanizer’s renowned suction technology with high quality vibrating motors. The broad stimulation head envelopes the clitoris with silky soft silicone, and you can easily switch between settings or use suction and vibration together. It’s Womanizer’s first toy to get 100% orgasm rate in user testing, too.

• Lovehoney Mini Thrill: This pocket-sized bullet vibe is made from ultra hygienic, body-safe silicone, with a tapered tip for precise, toe-curling stimulation. It’s got simple controls and is USB rechargeable, so there’s no need to faff with a hundred settings or hunt for batteries before you play.

• Lovehoney Power Play Dual Wand: The broad stimulation head and flexible neck works just as well for a tension relieving massage as it does for clitoral stimulation. You can also slather the other end with lube and use it as a G-spot toy, which is ideal if you like switching between pleasure zones (or want to slide it inside your partner while you grind on the head).

At Lovehoney, we’ve been testing and designing sex toys for years! We’ve also got thousands of reviews from real customers that show exactly which toys and features people love. That’s why we can say with confidence that these are some of the best clitoral vibrators in the game.