Position of the Week: Standby Lover

by Emma

on 17 May 2024

Position of the Week: Standby Lover | Lovehoney

You can be more than just Standby Lovers with this steamy solo sex position. Treat yourself to a soothing shower or elevate the experience with a Womanizer Wave shower head, and combine this with your favourite suction-cup dildo for a sensational all-over pleasure session.


It couldn’t be easier, simply position the suction-cup dildo to the shower wall at the appropriate height for your body. Face away and bend over slightly, as you gently guide your dildo into place. Turn on the water and lather up to enjoy an incredibly sensual aquatic adventure.


This position is ideal for independently controlling the depth and pace of penetration to suit your mood at the time. Using a suction-cup dildo with a curved shaft and tapered tip creates a satisfying angle and perfect positioning for precise and targeted G-spot or P-spot stimulation.


With this hands-free position, you can add a waterproof bullet vibrator for external thrills, lavishing your clitoris or balls with delicious vibes. Or give your nipples some love with a pair of silicone nipple suckers. Ideal for nipple-play beginners and enthusiasts, they adhere to the skin using gentle suction for increased sensitivity.

Make it even easier

If you use a mobility aid, this position can be adapted by leaning on a shower stool. Ensure you have a non-slip bath/shower mat installed ready, and that you have your waterproof toys and plenty of water-based lubricant for extra slip ‘n’ slide.

Make it even better

Opt in for a textured, veined toy like the Lovehoney Lifelike Lover 6 Inch Dildo to relish the real-feel sensations of penetrative stimulation. With a realistic shaft, raised veins and firm balls at the base, your Standby Lover fantasy can come true.

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We're working to make sure that everyone is represented on our website, regardless of who you love, so we'll be using a variety of gender depictions in our Position of the Week posts. This will include straight, gay, lesbian, and gender neutral couples, but all positions will have details in the description of how to make them work for your own relationship dynamic.

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Written by Emma. Lovehoney Editorial Team
Emma joined Lovehoney in 2022 and is the content team’s Welsh writing wizard. Emma is passionate about gender inclusivity and loves learning about all things lingerie and sex toys. Emma pens the ever-popular ‘Position of the Week’ blogs and can often be found pondering the length of a King Cock dildo.

Originally published on 17 May 2024. Updated on 20 Sep 2022