Position of the Week: Pleasure Bound

Feel like bringing some BDSM into your sex life could be fun, but not ready to go full 50 Shades just yet? Pleasure Bound has the extra heat you’re looking for: enjoy the thrill of power play as you and your partner take it in turns to be tied up in a pleasingly compromised position. Let the sexy games begin!

How?

Let’s say you’re the one playing the dominant role first. Ask your partner to lie on their back with their legs bent (knees pointing up to the ceiling) and their feet flat on the floor, with their heels tucked behind their bum.

It’s now up to you to attach the restraints: first cuffing their ankles, attaching the larger straps around their thighs and then restraining their wrists. The Purple Reins Thigh, Wrist and Ankle Restraint is a great option for this position.

Check the restraints are comfortable for your partner, then connect the wrist cuffs to the ankle straps using the clips and O-rings. Then, you’re ready to explore their body and take control – licking, sucking, teasing and thrusting wherever you choose.

Why?

Part of the fun of BDSM is playing with power dynamics — and it doesn’t always have to be the cuffed partner who takes the submissive role.

Try having the untied partner obey the cuffed partner’s every request; let them give exact commands on exactly how to touch, lick and suck them to get them off. Or have the untied lover take control, teasing the cuffed partner’s hot spots one by one, pleasuring them but always leaving them wanting more — before finally bringing them all the way to climax.

Consent is key, though: before you get started, take time to discuss what you’re each comfortable with first. Come up with a safe word you can use if you need to, as well.

Try

Slipping a silk blindfold onto the cuffed partner will heighten their senses, and make even the gentlest touch feel intensely erotic. Try using your hands, tongue, a bullet vibrator or a feather tickler to keep them guessing (and gasping!); all that stimulation will leave them tingling with expectation.

If tantalising your restrained partner has put you on a bit of a power trip, why not try some dirty talk or role play? Lean into your Dom/sub roles: maybe they’ve been naughty, and it's your job to punish them by teasing them but not allowing them to climax (not at first, anyway...). Get creative, and see where it takes you.

Make it even easier

If you find yourself without your restraints but really want to recreate this position, simply have one partner assume the same position: lying on their back with their knees bent, and their feet flat on the bed behind their bottom. But instead of adding cuffs, they can just hold onto their ankles. Same saucy position, and all the fun that comes with it — but much faster.

This option also works well if keeping your knees bent for a while is difficult or painful for you. If you need to take a break, let go of your ankles and stretch out your legs until you’re ready to get back into position again.

Make it even better

With the cuffed partner’s genitals so exposed, this position is begging for a butt plug. Coat their anus and the plug with plenty of anal lube, slip it in for that incredible full-up feeling.

If your partner has a vulva, use orgasm balm to massage their nipples and clitoris for a seriously intense O-moment. Or, if your partner has a penis, drizzle it with flavoured lube and go for a long, slow blow job. They’ll thank you later, once they’ve got their breath back.

Anal beads could really up the ante here, too: cover them in lube, and insert them slowly, one by one. Start to move the beads carefully in and out of their anus, while teasing their vulva with a bullet vibe or their penis with a male masturbator. There’s another next-level orgasm waiting to happen!