Position of the Week: Looking Glass

You know what they say, couples that masturbate together... have a really hot, satisfying sex life! The Looking Glass sex position makes self-pleasure a two-player activity, bringing you close together while you learn what makes your partner tick.

Who’s the fairest of them all? You are!

How?

Sit facing each other with your knees bent. As you inch closer together, bring one foot over your partner’s hip and plant it behind them. They’ll do the same with the opposite foot, so you're nicely entwined with both knees still bent.

There should be just enough space between you that you can watch each other as you begin to stroke yourself wherever it feels amazing.

Why?

The best sex happens when you know how your lover likes to be touched. This face-to-face position is a comfortable and intimate way to get to know each other, whether you’re in a new or long-term relationship.

The Looking Glass gets you aroused and builds anticipation, so you might find you can’t keep your hands off each other for long. But watching (or being watched) can be so erotic, so try slowing down to really enjoy this moment.

Try

The Looking Glass will be very hot even if it’s just you and your lover, naked together. Want to fan the flames? Wear sexy lingerie or bondage gear like this collar.

This position is all about watching your lover and learning about their body. But you might enjoy the power play of bringing in a blindfold, so only one of you can watch.

Things will get really steamy if you talk to each other while you play. Be curious about your lover’s body and ask things like “are you wet?” or “how does that feel?”. You can even build anticipation by asking “how do you want me to touch you later?”

Make it even easier

If either of you use a wheelchair or mobility aid, you can still explore this position while seated. Position the chair close to a bed or sofa so you’re both on the same level (or bring your chairs close together, if you both have restricted mobility).

You might not find it comfortable to entwine your legs, so hold hands or simply allow the tension to build without touching each other.

If you’re able to get in position but need support for your bum or hips, bring in a pillow or sex position wedge. One of you can even be propped against the headboard with pillows while the other watches on.

Make it even better

You can do it all with your hands or you can watch each other’s legs tremble as you climax under the spell of a powerful toy. We know which one we’d choose!

For people with penises, try a transparent stroker that won’t limit the view too much. If you or your partner have a vulva, a rabbit vibrator will be amazing to watch as it slips inside and tickles the clitoris at the same time.

Whatever your anatomy, water-based lube will take the friction away from masturbation, enhancing your pleasure and keeping you going for longer.

Not the position for you?

We're working to make sure that everyone is represented on our website, regardless of who you love, so we'll be using a variety of gender depictions in our Position of the Week posts. This will include straight, gay, lesbian, and gender neutral couples, but all positions will have details in the description of how to make them work for your own relationship dynamic.