Position of the Week: Looking Glass

by Lucy

on 19 Nov 2021

The Looking Glass position is wonderfully intimate and gives each partner a direct line of communication about the what, why and where of intimate pleasure. Self-pleasuring is often thought of as a one-person activity, but inviting each other to watch as you masturbate opens up a whole new world of teaching your partner about yourself and what it takes to get you to that special place.

What will you discover when you look through this Looking Glass?



Both partners sit facing each other with their legs bent in a straddling position. Edge towards each other while maintaining enough of a distance to be able to watch each other indulge in self-pleasuring.


Masturbating in front of a partner can be highly erotic, as well as one of the most effective lessons in the art of learning about what makes your partner tick. The face-to-face positioning and gentle embrace of each other’s bodies make for a comfortable and intimate way of getting to know each other, whether you’re in a new or long-term relationship.


Introduce your chosen toy to your shared solo session and show your partner exactly how you like to use it. Whether it’s a vibrator, stroker or an anal toy, you’ll both have the perfect view of it being used, which will be an incredible turn-on for both of you. You can then take it in turns to use the toys on each other to demonstrate what you have learned from watching each other play.

Make it even better

If either partner feels a little shy about the intimacy of the Looking Glass position, wearing a blindfold could help them feel more comfortable and less inhibited by the feeling of being watched.

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Written by Lucy. Lovehoney Editorial Team
If you think that an exciting sex life starts and ends with Missionary then Lucy, who has worked at Lovehoney for over a decade, is here to enlighten you with her ever-popular ‘Position of the Week’ blogs.
Lucy also loves making the world of sex and sex toys easy to learn about, and you'll often find her with her head in a book researching her latest A to Z guide

Originally published on 19 Nov 2021. Updated on 15 Nov 2021