7 Ways to Make Your Orgasms More Powerful

by Lovehoney

on 29 Jul 2020

Have your orgasms have been less than spectacular (or maybe even non-existent) of late? Has masturbation or sex left you feeling like 'Oh well', rather than 'Oh yeah!'?

Don't fret, because Lovehoney has your back. Read on, we've got 7 easy tips for making your orgasms more powerful.

1. Take a break

This might not be what you want to hear, but one helpful way to boost the power of your orgasms is to take a short break from masturbating and/or sex.

A self-imposed break can be the reset your body needs, and studies have shown that both men and women report having stronger orgasms after spending some time abstaining from the Big O.

Try not masturbating or having orgasms in general for 3 days, and then see what it feels like when the floodgates next open!

2. Ramp up the foreplay

If you feel as though your orgasms are a bit lacklustre of late, try to focus more on foreplay.

Stampeding towards the finish line can be tonnes of fun, but if it's a mind-blowing orgasm that you're after, you may be better off slowly building to it. If you know you're going to see a partner later on, try sending flirty texts, sneaking in quick make-out sessions throughout the day or even setting a timer for how long you have to spend on foreplay. Not only does doing this help to build tension and encourage your mental and physical arousal, it helps strengthen your emotional connection to your partner which can also make your orgasms feel stellar.

3. Bust the toys out

Your sex toys aren't just for when you're flying solo. By incorporating your favourite vibe or dildo into you and your partner's play, you greatly increase your chances of experiencing a total knee-trembler.

The fact is that roughly 80% of people with vulvas can't orgasm from penetrative intercourse alone. For this vast majority, clitoral stimulation is crucial and that's where toys like vibrators come in handy. That being said, dual stimulation can feel incredible no matter your gender or sex. For people with a prostate, try incorporating a prostate massager or butt plug into your solo or partnered sessions for extra handsfree sensations. If you have a vagina, a vibrating love egg can rumble away inside you while you or your partner take care of the external hot spots. Two words: blended orgasms.

Check out the advice of award-winning sex therapist Chantelle Otten in How to Use Sex Toys with Your Partner.

4. It's not all about the orgasm

This seems like a weird statement to make in the midst of an article about orgasms, but hear us out.

When we make masturbation and sex all about reaching orgasm, we start putting expectations on ourselves and our partners that aren't always realistic. These expectations breed pressure and feeling under pressure is not conducive to having powerful orgasms.

By taking the focus away from orgasming, and just prioritising general pleasure instead, you take that "orgasm pressure" out of the equation.

5. Stay dry

No, we don't mean that you should stop using lube – we mean lay off the booze for a day or two!

Alcohol can decrease the level of pleasure we experience when we start to get down to business. Try sticking to the mocktails and see if that puts the punch back into your orgasms.

6. Ask for what you want

Genies can't read your mind and neither can your partner so sometimes the key to super-charging your orgasm is speaking up. If you know that a certain position or kink is a major turn-on for you, but you don't share that information with you partner, you may be robbing yourself of the opportunity to experience some exceptional orgasms.

Having a conversation about what you want during sex can be an intimidating, and that's only natural but with a bit of trust, you can make it work. That's why we've come up with a guide on How To Communicate Your Desires.

7. Practise self-love

For once we don't mean masturbation – we mean practise being kind and loving to yourself! If you're in the bad habit of putting yourself down about your appearance, your sex appeal, or your performance in bed, how can you expect your orgasms to be at their best?

Breaking these habits and practising self-love is often much easier said than done, but if you want to have top tier orgasms, you have to be willing to do the work.

If you want to make your orgasms more intense, these tips are a great place to start. Let us know which ones worked for you!

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Originally published on 29 Jul 2020. Updated on 7 Jan 2021