1. How to Use Butt Plugs - A Beginner's Guide

    Butt Plugs

    Unlike other insertable sex toys, a butt plug is an anal sex toy that's designed to be inserted and left in place.

    Generally speaking, butt plugs are conical-shaped, starting small and gently graduating in size. They usually feature a slimmer 'neck' at the bottom and a flared base for safety.

    So why do people use butt plugs, we hear you cry?

    A butt plug gently stretches the anus, creating a sensation of fullness and pressure, and stimulating the sensitive internal and external nerve endings.

    When the pelvic muscles contract during an orgasm, a butt plug can intensify the sensation, as you're squeezing against something. Using one as part of your sexual repertoire can lead to intense anal fulfilment and amazing orgasms.

    It's a fabulous way to explore anal play for the first time, either through solo masturbation or with a partner.

    Our Top-Rated Beginner's Butt Plugs

    What's the Best Butt Plug for a Beginner?

    Butt Plugs

    The best butt plugs for beginners are made from bendy, flexible material like silicone, with a smooth tapered tip for gentle insertion, and a slender girth.

    The Tracey Cox Supersex Beginner's Butt Plug is ideal for first-timers as it is small, flexible and easy to use. Another good option is the BASICS Slimline Butt Plug which is long and slim, making it ideal for easy insertion.

    If you're hoping to work up to something a little bigger, a butt plug training kit is great.

    The BASICS Triple Butt Plug Training Set starts with a teeny 2.5 inch plug with a circumference of 3 inches at the widest part, and builds up to a larger plug with 4.5 inches insertable length and 3.5 inches in circumference.

    Take a look at our Beginner's Butt Plugs section for lots of other anal play options.

    And remember - ALL anal toys should feature a flared base to prevent over-insertion.

    How Do I Insert a Butt Plug?

    Butt Plugs

    You might find warming up first helps - try stroking around the anus with a well-lubed finger, a little penetration with the same finger, or rimming if you're playing with a partner.

    Climaxing before anal play can really help relax you, too.

    Cover your plug in water-based anal lubricant, then position yourself comfortably, either:

    1. Bent over on all fours (aka doggy).
    2. On your back with a cushion under your butt and legs spread.
    3. Squatting over the butt plug on your feet or knees.

    Holding both the base and shaft, position the tip at the opening of the anus, angled slightly towards your stomach, then gently push. You should feel the very tip enter you.

    When you feel comfortable, push a little more of the plug in, moving your hand off the shaft and using just the base of the butt plug to provide any motion. If you’re still feeling comfortable, push further and let the slim neck of the plug sit inside you with the flared base resting externally.

    What Do I Do When the Plug is Inserted?

    Butt Plugs

    Once your butt plug is inserted, you can enjoy other forms of stimulation or intercourse whilst the plug rests inside you, or you might like to try grinding against it for extra sensations.

    Alternatively, try moving the plug in and out of you, using the flared base.

    You can leave your butt plug in for varying periods of time, ranging from 30 minutes to several hours, however we recommend that you take it out at least every hour to reapply lubricant. This way, you won't experience any discomfort when moving around.

    Ready For the Next Step?

    Lovehoney Pleasure Probe 10 Function Vibrating Prostate Massager

    So you've tried beginner's butt plugs, and you're ready for the next level in anal play.

    Add vibrations with a buzzing butt plug like the Lovehoney Butt Tingler 10 Function Vibrating Butt Plug Small.

    Stimulate your P-spot with the Lovehoney Booty Buddy Silicone Butt Plug, which delivers pleasurable pressure to the prostate gland.

    Progress to bigger things with the Lovehoney Pleasure Probe 5 Function Vibrating Prostate Massager or the Lovehoney Classic Silicone Medium Plug.

    Above: Brand new to butt plugs? Jess Wilde tells you everything you need to know about using a butt plug for the first time in our handy video guide above.

    Above: Want to know all about anal sex? Jess Wilde and Sammi Cole are here to help!

    Need more help?

    You can Contact Customer Care, who will be able to help you find the perfect anal sex toy. You can email, telephone or live chat to an experienced advisor 24/7.

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    Comments (8)

    • ollie jones: May 06, 2009 10:31
      i love the range of but plugs that you have on show it makes me very erosed and i really like them. I have got all of the ones you are showing though so would like for you to get some more in to give me some ideas on wich one to buy text. I would quite like a nice big one maybe 5 or 6ft. Thanks alot babe yorkie. A.k.a ollie jones.
    • steve: May 06, 2009 10:34
      hey ollie... you won't go wrong with this beauty... !


    • Will Blair: September 25, 2009 13:50
      Am using Super Slim Butt Plug for first time.
      Oh Boy !!!
      Suggestions pse.for one a little larger with vibrator if possible
    • LoveHoney - Carly: September 26, 2009 08:48
      Hi Will!

      How about taking a look at the M2M Nitrile Butt Plug? The Medium size sounds ideal: www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14471

      You might also like the best selling Butt Tingler: www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=8436
      It's a little larger and it vibrates too!

    • metalman: November 11, 2009 13:41
      Why do you list most of the dildos and butt plugs using circumference and not Diameter...Diameter gives a much easier measurement to relate to. All your round objects should have the diameter shown. To figure out if a product would fit one sees immediately what the size across would be. Circumference is a much more complicated thing to visualise, get a tape that bends round into a circle, measure a long piece of paper and then bend it round......oh dear ..please list the diameter.
    • LoveHoney - Carly: November 11, 2009 17:45
      Hi there metalman

      We list circumference as many sex toys aren't perfectly cilindrical, making the diameter a bit of a tricky subject!

      Using the diameter would mean that we then have to list the diameter of the smallest part, the widest part and any other part which is insertable but not covered by this.

      As we have discovered, listing too many measurements tends to confuse people so we stick to the simple 'the circumference at the widest part' formula.

      However, for quick and easy reference you can check out our size guides which include both circumference and length in a really useful visual format: www.lovehoney.co.uk/blog/2008/06/11/vibrator-size-guide/

      I hope this helps!

    • Joe: February 19, 2015 19:05
      Hi my girlfriend and I talking about anal plug, we never done before and what your suggestion should remove bowel cleaning first? and what size for first time use anal plug. Glass or metal? Also she want two anal plug and how long can leave in anal ? Thanks
    • Lovehoney Nicole: February 20, 2015 14:44
      Hi Joe,

      Check out our anal sex toy guides which have plenty of information on butt plugs and douches: www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/buyers-guide/

      You can see our top recommend butt plugs for beginners here: www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/butt-plugs/beginners-butt-plugs/

      Hope that helps!