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It’s a comedic trope that we’ve all seen before – the fake orgasm.

Some argue that Meg Ryan’s infamous diner scene in “When Harry Met Sally” takes the cake, but my personal favourite has to be when Elaine comes clean about her orgasms in “Seinfeld”.

The fake orgasm is a simple gag that gets an easy laugh from a television audience. The reality is that the motivating factors for faking an orgasm are far more complex.

So what counts as a fake orgasm? Why do people do it? And how, once you've started, do you stop doing it?

Well, the answers may not be what you would expect...

People enjoy all sorts of weird and wonderful things.

Some enjoy taking part in gruelling tests of physical fitness, like marathons or mountain climbing.

Some people enjoy flinging themselves out of perfectly good aeroplanes for the sheer adrenaline rush (You could not pay me enough to skydive. And I am a strapped-for-cash student).

Some people even enjoy chasing wheels of cheese down frightfully steep hills whilst giving no thought to their personal safety.

So, with all this considered, why do so many of us find the idea of pegging so terrifying?

Bondage is fantastic fun, spectacularly sexy, and often the perfect play to bring any couple closer in quite a number of literal and metaphorical ways.

But when it comes to sharing your love of restraint and sensory deprivation with a new partner, it's not always easy to know how to bring it up.

First impressions of bondage, however, as well as media-reinforced misconceptions, can be far less favourable.

Sharing this kink with a new partner can be highly rewarding, but must be done with due care and sensitivity.

With this in mind, I've created these simple and safe tips to help you introduce your partner to first-time bondage without fear.