Position of the Week: Missionary

by Emma

on 12 Jan 2024

Position of the Week: Missionary | Lovehoney

We’re on a mission to prove missionary is far from boring. In fact, this more traditional sex position is perfect for getting up close and personal, enjoying lots of skin-to-skin contact, and enveloping yourself in some seriously intense love-making. Want our opinion when it comes to missionary? We say it’s definitely a top contender for your romp repertoire.


The receiving partner lies on their back on a bed or the floor, with their legs apart and their arms wrapped around the giving partner’s back. The giving partner lies in between them, and both partners press their bodies firmly into one another. The penetrating partner can be on top, or on the bottom – it really doesn’t matter.


This introductory position allows both partners to maintain eye contact and enhance their emotional connection. Depending on how straight or spread apart your legs are, you can also control the depth and pace of penetration with ease. This position is also perfect for non-penetrative sex, where you can simply enjoy the stimulation and intensity of being close to each other.


If you're the giving partner, try making small, rotating hip movements and grinding against your lover’s pelvis. Add in some orgasm balm or some warming or tingling lubricant for even more thrills.

You can also experiment with the stop/start method, or ‘edging’, to add a little extra excitement. When either of you get close to the Big O, pause, then start again to increase the intensity of your eventual climax.

Make it even better

A vibrating cock ring or bullet vibe can be missionary’s best friend. Designed to deliver direct, targeted stimulation to your erogenous zones, or help you maintain a firmer, longer-lasting erection, these little toys can bring you a whole lot of joy. You can also pop in a vibrating butt plug for some backdoor fun.

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Not the position for you?

We're working to make sure that everyone is represented on our website, regardless of who you love, so we'll be using a variety of gender depictions in our Position of the Week posts. This will include straight, gay, lesbian, and gender neutral couples, but all positions will have details in the description of how to make them work for your own relationship dynamic.

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Written by Emma. Lovehoney Editorial Team
Emma joined Lovehoney in 2022 and is the content team’s Welsh writing wizard. Emma is passionate about gender inclusivity and loves learning about all things lingerie and sex toys. Emma pens the ever-popular ‘Position of the Week’ blogs and can often be found pondering the length of a King Cock dildo.

Originally published on 12 Jan 2024. Updated on 5 Aug 2020