Position of the Week:
The Lotus

For body-to-body closeness and eye contact that lingers, look no further than the Lotus. This sex position is all about intimacy, slow burns and deepening your connection with your partner. Expect a slow burn, topped with delicious rocking and grinding.

Why?

The Lotus sex position is a relaxed yet sensual classic that builds intimacy through deep connection and delicious anticipation. With both partners seated face-to-face, the full-body contact allows for skin-to-skin closeness and some seriously sexy eye contact.

As you press your bodies together, you can rock and grind slowly to stimulate external pleasure zones like the clitoris or penis, while also allowing for some shallow penetration. The closeness enhances every touch, kiss, and movement you both make – making the experience feel both calming and insanely erotic.

Make it even easier

If the seated partner needs more support, an angled cushion or a sex wedge behind their back or under their hips can help reduce pressure and make it easier to maintain an upright posture.

The partner on top can relieve any knee or hip pressure by placing a yoga bolster or rolled towel under their legs as they wrap around their lover’s back. You could even adapt this position by straddling your partner on a sturdy armchair or against a padded headboard, which is great for different body types and is just as intimate with less effort.

Make it even better

Open to anal play? A butt plug adds a gentle sense of fullness without interrupting movement or getting in the way. If one or both partners has a penis, a vibrating cock ring can heighten shared pleasure where your bodies meet, especially during grinding.

Combine your toys with plenty of lube for smooth, heightened sensations. To vary intensity and pressure, experiment with the seated partner’s leg position. Whether it’s stretched wider or bent slightly, these small changes can subtly shift the angle of stimulation and enhance sensations for both partners.

Make it even kinkier

Take time to turn each other on by lighting a massage candle and drizzling the melted oil onto each other's chests, nipples or inner thighs – slowly, deliberately, and just where they want it. It’s a gentle yet seductive way to ease into asserting dominance while also sparking anticipation.

Once entwined in the Lotus, add a layer of light bondage by loosely tying the straddled partner’s wrists behind their back with silk ties or bondage tape. As you hold them close, whisper sweet nothings (or filthy insults) into their ears and guide their hips against yours to build up the tension.

This position is great for visual thrills or to act out a roleplay fantasy where one partner’s completely at the other’s mercy. The intimacy of the Lotus makes every command, moan, and shiver feel amplified.

As always, communicate with your partner openly about your boundaries when it comes to kinky sex. Check in with each other regularly during the session to keep it safe and consensual. Get more tips in our guide to BDSM.

Not the position for you?

We're working to make sure that everyone is represented on our website, regardless of who you love, so we'll be using a variety of gender depictions in our Position of the Week posts. This will include straight, gay, lesbian, and gender neutral couples, but all positions will have details in the description of how to make them work for your own relationship dynamic.