How to Squirt: A Beginner’s Guide

Curious about squirting and want to learn how to squirt?

There’s a lot of misinformation about squirting and it’s difficult to tell what’s real and what's a misconception. Coupled with porn’s often unrealistic portrayal of squirting, it’s understandable to feel confused. Here, you'll find out everything you need to know about squirting as well as tips for trying it out yourself.

Before we dive in, remember that not everyone with a vulva can squirt. But learning some tips for squirting and ways of experiencing pleasure can be fun, so read on and enjoy exploring your body.

Squirting is the involuntary expulsion of clear, usually thin fluid from the bladder during firm G-spot stimulation. There’s a small amount of urine in squirt fluid but it’s not strictly pee. It also contains glucose and sometimes PSA (prostate-specific antigens) from the Skene’s glands on either side of the urethra, surrounding the G-spot.

The term “squirting” is sometimes used interchangeably with “female ejaculation” though they're not the same thing. Female ejaculate has a thicker consistency and a milkier colour than squirt fluid. It also occurs at the same time as orgasm, whereas squirting isn’t necessarily accompanied by orgasm. A recent study reported that only 20% of participants “always” experienced squirting and climax together.

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60% of people who have squirted say they find it “very or somewhat pleasurable”. It’s also typically associated with longer lasting and more satisfying orgasms. But just because someone can squirt, it doesn’t mean they necessarily have a more fulfilling sex life; it’s all down to personal preference.

For example, Lara, 32, who's single, says squirting hasn't necessarily improved her sex life. "When I'm with a new partner, sometimes I worry about squirting and what they'll think. It can detract from the moment."

Bear in mind that most of the research into squirting examines only a few participants, so what’s considered “normal” in one experiment may not represent everyone who can squirt. There’s no right way to squirt and we need more research to understand this exciting sexual phenomenon.

That said, most people agree that applying firm pressure to the front of the vaginal wall is an effective way to learn how to squirt.

Want to know more about other people's squirting expriences? If you want to hear from others who can squirt or share your thoughts on how squirting affects your sex life, join the discussion on the Lovehoney Forum.

If you want to make yourself squirt, a good way to begin is by exploring your body through solo masturbation. Squirting with a partner can be fun but if you’re a little nervous about whether you’ll squirt or wet the bed, allow yourself time to discover what works for you.

1. Create a relaxing environment

Think about the times you’ve particularly enjoyed masturbating. Did you have plenty of time before dimming the lights? Did you play your sexiest playlist and light some candles? This squirting session is for you, so set your ideal scene.

Remember that squirting can take practice so don’t pressure yourself or feel despondent if your first time isn’t a success. Self-exploration is supposed to be fun.

Squirting can feel like urinating so if you’re worried about soaking the bed, go to the bathroom first and lay down a towel or a waterproof sheet before you begin. Not feeling anxious about peeing will help relax your pelvic floor muscles, making it more likely you’ll squirt. It may seem counter-intuitive but make sure you’re hydrated before embarking on your squirting quest – though resist the urge to down a pint of water immediately beforehand.

Tips for couples: When learning how to squirt with your partner, speak with them beforehand about what you’re trying to achieve and how they can help you feel sexy. This will help you feel safe, relaxed and confident.

2. Get really turned on

Touch the parts of your body that make you feel good; play with your nipples, stroke your neck – seduce yourself before playing with your vulva. You’ll find it easier to locate your G-spot (more on that in a moment) if you’re feeling turned on.

When trying to squirt, the wetter the better, so reach for your favourite lube. Water-based lubricant is compatible with all types of sex toys but remember to continue applying throughout your play as water-based lubes can dry up.

Dr Emily Morse, Doctor of Human Sexuality and host of the Sex With Emily podcast, recommends simultaneous external, clitoral stimulation and internal G-spot stimulation. She also says some folks are more likely to squirt if they have a clitoral orgasm before firm G-spot stimulation because it helps them feel super turned on. To encourage climaxing, orgasm gels, balms, lubes, and supplements can be effective orgasm boosters and work well in both solo and partnered play.

Top tip for partners: Use your mouth, fingers or a toy to stimulate your partner’s clitoris during foreplay before sliding your fingers or a vibrator inside. (Treat her to one of the best sex toys for women to enhance her pleasure).

3. Stimulate your G-spot

Get into a comfortable position which allows you to locate your G-spot. Some people find lying on their back with a pillow under their bum works well. To find your G-spot, insert one or two lube-covered fingers inside your vagina and curl them towards your belly button in a “come hither” motion. You’re feeling for a fleshy, ridged area on the front wall, about two to three inches inside your vagina. This area is more pronounced if you’re turned on.

Curved dildos and G-spot vibrators made from firm materials like glass or metal are ideal for internal stimulation. Choosing a sex toy with a bulbous tip will also increase the likelihood of squirting because the greater surface area will make more contact with your G-spot. If you want a sex toy that mimics the motion needed for G-spot stimulation, try a thrusting dildo. This way, you can concentrate on achieving your perfect depth and angle of stimulation.

Tip for sex toy users: Keep your sex toys squeaky clean, even if it’s just you who uses them.

Some people experience squirting through firm clitoral stimulation in tandem with G-spot stimulation, so using a rabbit vibrator or a G-spot and clitoris stimulator can target two pleasure areas at once. For those seeking a more intense sensation, a multispeed magic wand that plugs into the mains will deliver the clitoral pressure needed to increase your chances of squirting.

According to Dr Emily, “When you place [the magic wand] over your pubic mound externally, there’s indirect stimulation to your G-spot… and some people can squirt that way.” A magic wand can be powerful and not everyone finds it pleasurable, so try different power settings to learn what sort of pressure you enjoy.

Tips for how to squirt during sex: Stimulate the G-spot with either a penis, penis extender, strap-on or fingers and get into a sex position that allows for direct and firm stimulation.

You could try missionary position where the receiving partner’s legs are over the penetrating partner’s shoulders or in doggy style where the receiving partner is penetrated from behind. Reverse cowgirl is another great position for G-spot stimulation and allows easy access to the clitoris. The penetrating partner lies down on their back with the receiving partner on top, facing away.

4. Push through the sensation of needing a wee

When it feels like you’re bursting for a wee, it’s your body’s way of indicating you’re about to squirt. At this point, it’s understandable to want to stop playing, worried about peeing. But, to squirt, you need to continue stimulating your G-spot and push through the sensation. To do this, take a deep breath and bear down on your pelvic floor to relax your pelvic floor muscles.

Having a strong pelvic floor can help you squirt so try regularly doing pelvic floor exercises before getting down and squirty. You could also try kegel balls, which sit inside your vagina, working out your pelvic floor with minimal thought and effort.

If you don’t squirt the first time, don’t worry. Instead, take it as a fun masturbation session and a great opportunity to learn more about your body.

Top tip for partners: If your partner has squirted, remember they may not have climaxed. So, check in and ask if they’d like you to continue stimulating them.

Can anyone squirt?

No, not everyone with a vagina can squirt but squirting is real. All the mechanics are there but for one reason or another, some people can’t (science is still working out why).

According to WebMD, studies show that between 10% and 54% of people with vaginas can squirt. Pretty broad, right? But don’t let that put you off. If you haven’t squirted before and want to learn how, you might discover you’re one of the people who can and, either way, you’ll have a fun time trying!

The same way not all masturbation techniques work for everyone with the same anatomical parts, the ways that lead some people to squirt won’t work for others. Even people who can squirt don’t necessarily squirt every time they stimulate their G-spot and the volume of fluid they expel will vary. Also, what worked one day might not work the next.

How do you know if you squirted?

The porn industry would have us believe that when someone squirts, she’s releasing tonnes of liquid from her vulva – but not everyone has this experience. The amount of involuntary fluid secreted varies from person to person, ranging from a small trickle to over a litre. Lola Jean, a sex educator, holds the World Record for the volume of squirt produced at 1.25 litres, though the typical volume of fluid squirted is over 10ml (according to this study).

How much liquid you’ve produced isn’t connected with how much pleasure you’ve felt or how “good” at squirting you are. Everyone squirts differently and, over time, you might discover that you’ll squirt more or less depending on your state of mind.

What to do if you can’t squirt

Don’t feel ashamed or worried if you can’t squirt; not everybody can. Porn presents unrealistic expectations of so many aspects of sex, including squirting. Being unable to squirt doesn’t make you any less good at sex.

Plus, in Want, Gillian Anderson's collection of real women's sexual fantasies, squirting only features in seven out of 174 fantasies. Squirting isn't the height of sexual prowess and not everyone's thinking about it or doing it!

That said, trying new techniques and exploring sensations in the bedroom should be fun, so enjoy discovering all the ways you experience pleasure. If you can’t feel anything when you’re stimulating your G-spot or don’t find the sensation pleasurable, that’s fine, there’s nothing wrong with you. There are different strokes for different folks.

Likewise, if you’ve tried to get your partner to squirt and are unsuccessful, there’s no need to feel concerned about your sexual skills (and you shouldn’t make your partner feel bad).

Final thoughts on squirting

• Don’t worry if you can’t squirt – many people can’t

• Try stimulating your G-spot and clitoris at the same time – but use plenty of lube!

• If you’ve been unable to make your partner squirt during sex, don’t make your partner feel bad or guilty

• Enjoy exploring new sensations and forms of pleasure

• Ask Lovehoney’s A.I.ssistant for help on any aspect of your sex life – including tips for squirting