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Does Penis Size Matter?
Stop worrying about measuring up! Whether you’re a grower or shower, it’s not the size of the wave but the motion in the ocean that’s important.
Before we start, let's remember something about penis size: around 75 to 80 percent of women cannot reach orgasm from penetrative sex alone. The feeling of being penetrated can be enjoyable, but it rarely provides the big O on its own.
We’re just putting that out there before you read on!
Despite this, most penis owners think that penis size = better sex, full stop. So it's one of the oldest questions in time: Does bigger feel better?
Here's the science bit. Most of the female anatomical nerves, the important ones in sexual arousal and orgasm, are in the clitoris and the outer one-third of the vagina (near the opening for most women). So this means it's not so much the penis length but the penis girth, which gives a sense of fullness and sufficient stimulation of the clitoris and vaginal nerves.
But we're all different, right? And the anatomy of each woman is unique, and penis length may be significant to some women to achieve orgasm, but research suggests they represent a minority.
The difference between grower vs shower
We all know penises get bigger when they're erect, right? But there is some (and only a little) evidence of what are called "showers" and "growers."
“Showers” are people whose penises are the same length when they’re soft or hard.
“Growers” are people whose penises get significantly longer and sometimes wider when they’re erect.
Essentially (like penis size itself), it boils down to genetics: either you have a relatively small flaccid penis, which gets bigger when it becomes erect, or you have a relatively sizeable flaccid penis, which also gets bigger when it becomes erect (sometimes by a lot and sometimes by a little). So, there is something behind the grower versus shower myth.
What age does your penis stop growing
Just a reminder…Puberty usually begins between the ages of 9 and 14 and lasts up to five years or so, depending on the age at which it starts, obviously. However, here we go… By the time you reach 18 or 19, your penis isn't likely to grow much longer or thicker. Sorry if you were hoping for better news!
How to measure penis length
Most men believe the average excited length is 6 inches (15.24 cm) or greater. However, most studies investigating average male size have involved self-reporting measures such as postal surveys of volunteers. These studies have contributed to the big size myth in current society. More accurate clinical studies show average excited male length is 5.1-5.5 inches (12.95-13.97 cm).
The length of the penis is measured in a fully erect condition. For this, a ruler is held to the penis shaft, starting at the belly, and the distance to the tip is measured. Don't apply intense pressure as the loose application of your ruler also considers the fat layer surrounding the penis shaft and determines the helpful length of the penis. Therefore, the measured result may differ depending on weight gain or loss.
How to measure penis girth
The penis circumference (or girth) is measured on a fully erect penis. For this, a flexible measuring tape is positioned around the penis without solid force but flush directly at the penis shaft.
Learning how to measure the length, width, and girth of your penis may seem unnecessary, but getting accurate measurements helps ensure that you choose a condom that fits correctly.
If a condom doesn't fit right and is too loose, it can fall off in the middle of sex, and you may not even notice. If the condom is too tight, it may not only be uncomfortable but may break or burst.
The best sex positions no matter your penis size
Penis size can alter the positions you choose for maximum pleasure. There is a wealth of sexual positions which can all create different sexual experiences - and different penis sizes make different positions more exciting.
For those on the smaller side, ideally, you may want to go for the maximum penetration positions.
This is perhaps the maximum penetration position out there. Have your partner lie on their back, pull their knees up to their chest, and roll back so their hips lift off the floor. Then you can scooch up in front of your partner and penetrate. If your knees permit, you can squat next to them with your knees moving outside of theirs. It's an incredible position because their hips elevate, and you can control the force of your thrusts.
Oral Sex
We've said it before, and we'll repeat it: clitoral stimulation is the go-to for the Big O, whatever your penis size.
Why not try some new positions for that extra bit of sauciness?
The giving partner lies on their back. The receiving partner straddles their shoulders and positions their thighs on either side of the giving partner's head in a snug embrace. The receiving partner can hold onto the receiving partner's thighs to help guide them closer. Quench gives you an irresistible combination of sensation overload and the exploration of power roles in an up-close-and-personal position.
Nose Dive The receiving partner lies on their front. The giving partner stands on one knee, lifts the receiving partner's waist, and places their thighs on their shoulders. The receiving partner takes most of their body weight on their forearms.
Of course, you can elevate any oral to the next level with oral sex toys - so what's to stop you?
Standing
You can perform standing sex in any number of ways no matter what you are packing in your pants:
Also known as The Bicycle, Stand and Deliver allows incredibly deep penetration. Stand at the edge of a bed or desk while your partner lies back and raises their legs to their chest. Their knees are bent as if they're doing a "bicycling" exercise. From there, grab their ankles and enter them.
Stand facing each other. The receiving partner straddles the giving partner by wrapping their legs around their body (with a little helping hand). The giving partner holds on to the receiving partner's thighs for support while the giving partner wraps their arms around their shoulders.
It's an incredibly intimate position, with direct eye and full-body contact. Take full advantage of a wall for added stability for the giving partner so they can thrust harder and faster and enjoy deliciously deep penetration and G-spot or P-spot stimulation.
Woman On Top
Lots of women on top positions allow for extra stimulation on top of just penetrative sex. Here's a cheeky rundown of some of the best:
The giving partner sits on the floor with their legs spread open. The receiving partner sits on top of the giving partner with their back to them and their legs straight and spread wide apart.
The airplane is a fantastic position for deep vaginal or anal penetration and frees up both partners' hands for mutual masturbation and self-pleasuring.
The giving partner sits in a chair and leans their body back, keeping their knees together with their feet lifted and toes on the floor. The receiving partner straddles the seated partner, facing away from them, with their body leaning slightly forward.
The receiving partner can step into the driving seat, take it nice and slow, or get pulses racing with some bouncing up and down. Whichever pace they decide on, they can prepare for some delicious G-spot or P-spot stimulation, all in the comfort of a chair or sofa.
Of course, all these positions are best when you've reached for your favourite lubes.
How to make your penis bigger naturally
There are lots of ways to maximize the size of your penis. Some are almost instantaneous, whereas others require time, patience, and a few tools for the job.
While most solutions can't permanently change your natural size, they can help your erections to be as firm and full as possible, or, in case of penis extenders, allow you to slip on a few extra inches temporarily.
Here are the effective methods most men can use to make their penis bigger, and for other ideas, pop over to our How to make your penis bigger blog.
Penis Pumps
Penis pumps can instantly enhance the size of your penis by increasing blood flow. The suction increases and encourages blood flow when the airtight cylinder is placed over the shaft. The tissue then expands, giving you a longer, thicker penis. With regular use, penis pumps can have a longer-term impact on your size. If you’re interested in trying a penis pump, we recommend the Tracey Cox EDGE Ultimate Performance Stamina Penis Pump.
Pelvic Floor Exercises
Your pelvic floor muscle group is well placed to push blood into the cavities in your penis, causing a more rigid erection. Therefore, it makes sense to train these muscles to become stronger so that you can get harder erections. In other words, stronger pelvic floor muscles improve circulation, resulting in a slightly bigger penis length.
Pills and Vitamins
Various pills and potions for male sexual enhancement contain natural ingredients such as L-Arginine, Ginseng, and Horny Goat Weed, which may give you a harder erection.
Check out our supplements and pills.
Apply Topical Creams
A load of skin creams and lotions can enhance your erection because they contain compounds that improve the blood circulation in the penis vessels and cavities and help with premature ejaculation. In addition, some contain desensitizing compounds such as delay spray, which, as a bonus, can increase sexual stamina. You can also give our King Size Largo Enhancement Cream a go.
Lose Some Weight
Most men believe they have short penises because they only measure the visible part. So larger men usually have short members because they can't see the base. In other words, if you've packed on a lot of pounds during those long winter months, chances are your penis is longer than what you see when you glance down.
Trim your Pubes
Trimming pubic hair makes it look like your penis is bigger. It won't physically add those inches. However, it does give the appearance of a slightly bigger penis.
Lose Some Weight
Most men believe they have short penises because they only measure the visible part. So larger men usually have short members because they can't see the base. In other words, if you've packed on a lot of pounds during those long winter months, chances are your penis is longer than what you see when you glance down.
Trim your Pubes
Trimming pubic hair makes it look like your penis is bigger. It won't physically add those inches. However, it does give the appearance of a slightly bigger penis.
Surgery
Some surgical techniques change the appearance of your penis. Recently approved in America, one such procedure is the pre-formed penile silicone block (Penuma).
It's a silicone implant, a silicone sleeve about two-thirds the length of the penis, implanted under the skin to make the penis thicker.
Toys
Why not use toys to enlarge your penis? From cock sleeves and extenders to strap-ons, cock rings and more, we've got you covered with 100s of Lovehoney’s Sex Toys.
Whatever your penis size, it's always worth trying the following...
- Using more lubrication if sex feels uncomfortable - plenty of lubes to choose from here
- Spending more time on foreplay
- Using pillows to elevate the partner’s pelvis slightly, which may help if the penis is small or narrow because it allows deeper penetration and more stimulation
- Offering additional stimulation - for example, males with male partners may use their hands to stimulate their partner’s penis, while those who have sex with females can offer clitoral stimulation
- Incorporating oral sex into the session, which may provide more pleasurable stimulation
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