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Does Body Count Matter?

What Brits Really Think

When it comes to dating, your ‘body count’ is the number of people you’ve slept with. Seem important? Maybe not...

In a recent survey, we asked over 2,000 people in the UK: “Does body count bother you? Or if you haven’t yet had a sexual partner, do you think it would bother you?” The results were intriguing.

We asked sex and relationship expert, Annabelle Knight, to explore the results with us and offer her advice for navigating the body count conversation.


Does body count bother you?

At first glance, the numbers we quite sex positive. 69% of respondents said no, body count doesn’t bother them. 29% said they would be bothered by body count, while the remaining 7% weren’t sure or preferred not to say.

These results point to a cultural shift: more than ever, people seem to be rejecting shame and challenging outdated taboos when it comes to sex. But with nearly a quarter of respondents still saying a partner’s sexual history matters to them, it's a reminder that sexual values are personal – and that’s OK too!

Whether you’re proudly sex-positive or prefer to take things slow, the conversation around body count is clearly still alive and evolving – and at Lovehoney, we’re here for it.

The gender split


Do women care about body count?

A pie chart representing female respondents' answers to 'Do women care about body count?'

When we looked at how women responded, we saw a very similar story – the majority aren’t too worried about their partners’ sexual history.

66% of female respondents said a partner’s body count wouldn’t bother them, embracing the sex-positive sentiment we saw overall. But 26.7% said it would matter, and 7.9% said they weren’t sure or preferred not to say.

So, why do over a quarter of women worry about body count?

These results could reflect a range of things; from personal values to how women are socially conditioned to think about sex and relationships.

Women have long been pitted against one another and judged for their sexuality – perhaps knowing a partner has a high body count emphasises the feeling of having to compete with other women to keep their lover’s attention.


A cropped photograph of Sex & Relationships Expert Annabelle Knight.

"The fact that a slightly higher percentage of women still say body count matters could be tied to cultural conditioning, or even past experiences that shape personal boundaries. And that’s okay; everyone’s allowed to have their own comfort zone."
— Annabelle Knight, sex and relationships expert


Do men care about body count?

A pie chart representing male respondents' answers to 'Do men care about body count?'

When we asked male respondents if a partner’s body count would bother them, a striking 72% said no. Only 22% said yes, and 6% were unsure or preferred not to say.

This actually challenges a long-held stereotype. In pop culture – and even in outdated dating advice – it’s often assumed that men are the ones who care more about a partner’s sexual history. But according to our data, men were more likely than women to say it doesn’t bother them at all.

So what’s going on here?

It could be a reflection of shifts in relationship expectations or just a new generation of men pushing back on the old-school double standards that have long governed dating norms. Men are usually encouraged to have more sexual partners – egged on by their peers and role models – so why should women have less?

Whatever the reason, it’s encouraging to see men showing a more relaxed and progressive attitude toward sexual history. After all, confidence, communication, and mutual respect are far more important than any number – and we love to see that message landing across all genders.

Annabelle's perspective...

"Seeing that men were more likely than women to say a partner’s body count doesn’t bother them might surprise some people, but it’s a really positive sign of changing attitudes," says Annabelle.

"Historically, women have faced more scrutiny when it comes to sex and relationships, while men have often been praised for experience. That kind of double standard creates pressure on both sides – women might feel judged, while men might feel like they have to project a certain image.

"But these results suggest we’re moving past that," Annabelle says. "More men are clearly comfortable rejecting those outdated expectations and prioritising things like emotional connection, trust, and sexual compatibility over someone’s sexual history.

"What’s important is that we keep having these conversations without shame or judgement. There’s no ‘right’ number; just the right communication, honesty, and respect between partners."


The generational gap

Bar chart showing what proportion of Gen Zs, Millennials, Gen Xers, and Boomers care about body count.

42% of Gen Z respondents (aged 18–24) said a partner’s body count would bother them, while just 48% said it wouldn’t. That makes Gen Z the most likely group to say body count matters – and the least likely to say it doesn’t.

Compare that to the over-65s (Silent Generation), where a huge 84% said body count doesn’t bother them – with only 12% saying it does.

In fact, as age increases, concern about a partner’s sexual history steadily declines:

  • Millennials (25–34): 35% said yes, it matters

  • Millennials/Gen X cusp (35–44): 29% said yes

  • Gen X (45–54): 21%

  • Boomers (55–64): 15%

  • Silent Generation (65+): 12%

So… What’s with the clear generational divide? We have a theory or two.

It may be that the older generations have gained perspective with age and wisdom – valuing intimacy, compatibility, and trust far more than the number of partners. They may have also grown more secure in their own sexual identity and are less concerned with comparison or judgement from others.

On the other hand, younger generations are having to navigate dating and romance in a very different world – one that has become shaped by dating apps, social media, and often unrealistic relationship expectations. Body count might be seen as less of a moral issue, and more about insecurity, perceived gaps in experience, or the pressure to “keep up”.

Annabelle’s perspective…

There’s often this assumption that younger people are the most open-minded when it comes to sex, but these results appear to challenge that.

"Younger generations like Gen Z are growing up in a digital age, where comparisons are constant and dating can feel transactional. This could lead to more anxiety around sex, and more focus on numbers rather than genuine connection," says Annabelle.

"On the flip side, older generations have lived through those messy, meaningful, long-term experiences – and for many of them – body count doesn’t even come into the equation anymore," she adds.

"What this tells us is that sexual openness doesn’t always correlate neatly to age. Confidence, communication, and emotional maturity grow over time, and with it, a much healthier perspective on what really matters in a relationship."

How many partners is acceptable?

Sticking with the same theme, we posed a new question: ‘How many previous sexual partners would you say it’s acceptable for a new partner to have had?”

The most popular answer? “Don’t care.”

26% of respondents said a partner’s past doesn’t matter to them: full stop. That’s a powerful statement about sexual acceptance, suggesting that for many, it's not about how many, but how they connect with you now.

But the rest of the results show just how diverse (and occasionally cautious) opinions still are.

What’s an acceptable number of previous sexual partners?

  • 22% said 3–5 previous partners felt acceptable

  • 17% said 5–10

  • 16% said 1–2

  • 5% said 11–25

  • 2% said 25–50

  • Only 1% said they’d accept 50+

  • And 3% actually preferred zero

So while over a quarter of Brits are leading the way to sex positivity, it’s clear that some of us are more cautious or traditional.

The gender split


What number do women prefer?

A pie chart representing female participants' responses to 'What number do women prefer?' about body counts.

When asked how many previous partners is “acceptable”, nearly a quarter of women said they don’t care (23%), suggesting a consistent trend of open mindedness.

What number do men prefer?

A pie chart representing male participants' responses to 'What number do men prefer?' about body counts.

When it comes to the number of previous partners, men’s responses were very similar to women’s, with a good chunk of respondents still showing a preference for low numbers, but a significant 28% saying they don’t care about their partner’s sexual history.

Here’s how the numbers break down at a quick glance:

  • 24% of women said 3-5 previous partners was acceptable

  • 18% said 5-10

  • 16% said 1-2

  • 5% said 11-25

  • 3% said they’d prefer zero!

  • Just 1% said 25-50 partners

So, while many women still prefer lower numbers, the fact that nearly one in four are completely unconcerned with a partner’s past highlights a shift away from shame or judgement, and a stronger focus on emotional connection and trust over history.

Let's compare that to men:

  • 19% of men were comfortable with 3–5

  • 16% said 1–2

  • 15% said 5–10

  • 6% said 11–25

  • 4% of men said zero partners would be ideal

  • 2% said 25–50

  • 1% said 50+

Similar to women, men are showing a growing trend toward focusing less on numbers and more on emotional connection – though some still have clear preferences about their partner’s past.

Annabelle’s perspective…

"It’s interesting to see how closely aligned men and women are when it comes to how many previous partners they find ‘acceptable’ in a new relationship," says Annabelle. Both genders show a strong preference for relatively low numbers, but what really stands out is that around a quarter of both men and women say they simply don’t care about their partner’s past – and Annabelle thinks that’s a very encouraging sign.

"This tells us that more people than ever are moving away from the judgement and stigma that the numbers conversation brings, and are focusing instead on what really matters: the quality of the connection they have right now," she says.

"Of course, personal boundaries are important, and it’s natural for some to have preferences about a partner’s sexual history. The key is open communication - knowing what you’re comfortable with and sharing that honestly with your partner, without shame or pressure."


The generational gap

Bar chart showing what number of previous partners different generations find acceptable

When we break down the results by generation, the numbers are intriguing! While every age group has its preferences, younger people appear both the most idealistic, and the most open-minded… Depending on how you look at it.

Gen Z (1824)

  • This generation’s most common response was 35 partners (32%)

  • 25% chose 12, while 4% said they’d prefer their partner had no experience at all

  • Yet 28% – the joint highest of any age group – said “don’t care”

So Gen Z appears split: some want limited experience in a partner, while just as many are entirely unfazed.

Millennials (2534)

  • Slightly more relaxed than their younger counterparts, with fewer choosing 12 (18%) and more open to 1125 (7%)

  • “Don’t care” still going strong at 23%

Gen X (35–54)

  • Spread out more evenly across categories…

  • Preference for 310 partners was consistent across both 3544 and 4554 groups

  • Interestingly, the lowest “don’t care” score came from 3544s (12%), suggesting this may be the most “numbers-aware” group

Boomers (5564) and Silent Generation (65+)

  • Very similar responses for the older generations

  • Strong support for 310 partners

  • “Don’t care” rose again: 24% for 5564s, 23% for 65+

Annabelle’s perspective…

"What really stands out to me is that younger people – especially Gen Z – seem to be navigating a tension between ideals and acceptance," says Annabelle.

Many say they’d prefer a partner with limited experience, but at the same time, they’re just as likely as older generations to say they ‘don’t care’ about body count. "This shows a shift towards emotional openness, even if those traditional ideas around ‘acceptable’ still linger," she adds.

"Interestingly, the 35–44 age group – who are most likely to be in long-term relationships or raising families – appear to be the most cautious. Fewer people in this category chose ‘don’t care’ and seemed more likely to gravitate towards a specific comfort zone," says Annabelle.

"But as we move into the older generations, we see something refreshing: Boomers and over-65s seem to mellow out about body count. With experience comes perspective, and more of them are saying, ‘It’s not about the number, it’s about the person."


Busting myths about body count


A banner card with a pink and purple background that says Myth 1... People with high body count don't value intimacy

Reality

Experience doesn’t cancel out emotional depth. As a matter of fact, it can often build it. Being open to pleasure doesn’t mean someone is closed off to connection.

Sexual experience can often mean better communication and self-awareness – both of which can be huge intimacy boosters. Every relationship is different - some couples will bond quickly, others slowly – and body count doesn’t dictate that journey.

A banner card with light and dark orange background that says Myth 2... High body count = promiscuity. Low body count = purity

Reality

These labels are steeped in outdated and judgemental thinking. Someone’s sexual history doesn’t equate to a moral scoreboard; it’s just history.

Everyone explores their sexuality at their own pace, and there’s no “right” number. What matters is how you feel, not what fits a stereotype.

A banner card with a pink spotty background that says Myth 3... Women with higher body counts have “loose vaginas”

Reality

Let’s shut this one down immediately. Vaginas are muscles, and simply don’t “stretch out” from sex. They flex, adapt, and bounce back - whether someone has had two partners or 200. This one is simple biology.

A banner card with a blue spiral background that says Myth 4... Knowing your partner’s body count is key to a healthy relationship

Reality

If knowing your partner’s body count feels like a big issue to you, it’s important to understand why. What should matter is how someone relates to their past, rather than the number of people in it.

Some couples will want to share their sexual history openly, whereas others won’t, and both options are completely valid. A healthy relationship is built on respect, not scorekeeping.

A banner card with a green zig zag background that says Myth 5... Body count determines risk

Reality

The real risk factor is unprotected sex – not the number of partners. Someone with one unsafe encounter is more at risk than someone with 10 protected ones. Practicing safe sex, partaking in regular testing, and maintaining an open dialogue are the real keys to staying healthy.

A banner card with a purple swirl background that says Myth 1... Body count predicts a relationship’s success

Reality

There’s no proven link between someone’s sexual history – or lack thereof – and how well they’ll love someone, commit to them, and show up in that relationship. Success comes from emotional intelligence, compatibility, and mutual effort.


How to navigate the body count conversation

"Whether your number is one, none, or well into the double digits, the truth is this: your body count doesn’t define your value, your desirability, or your capacity to love and be loved," says Annabelle Knight. "We all bring different experiences to the bedroom – and that’s something to celebrate, not judge."

Here's Annabelle's advice on navigating conversations around previous sexual partners.


Across the survey results, we saw some differences between genders and generations, which is only natural.

Younger people might still be exploring boundaries, while older generations often show greater sexual confidence and openness. And while men and women may approach the conversation differently, we’re clearly shifting towards a more sex-positive and less judgemental culture.

According to Annabelle, "what really matters is how we treat each other: with kindness, respect, and openness."

Healthy relationships thrive on communication, not comparison, and that means being honest when it feels right, asking questions without judgement, and understanding that every couple has their own version of what ‘normal’ looks like.

"So if you find yourself thinking about your number - or someone else’s - remember: it’s not about the past, it’s about the connection you’re building now," she adds.

Sources

All statistics mentioned in this article are from a Lovehoney UK survey with Cint; 2,016 nationally representative respondents, UK adults over the age of 18 (June 2025)