Fifty Shades of Grey Trust Me Adjustable Spreader Bar and Cuff Set

This is it. This is what I've always imagined a spreader bar to be like. Strong enough to hold someone in place, attractive enough to not be intimidating, long enough to leave a partner feeling powerless. This spreader bar is impeccable, and I would recommend it to anyone who has ever been interested in bondage.

As is always the case with Lovehoney, the product arrived unbelievably quickly in super discreet packaging so that nobody would have any idea what was inside; which is great news as my neighbours received it for me as I was not home.

The spreader bar was contained in a long glossy black box, with the outer 'sleeve' designed in accordance with the Fifty Shades of Grey range. There was nothing tacky or classless about it. It was simply decorated with some brief instructions, an abstract illustration and some quotes from Fifty Shades of Grey. Though I have certainly had classier packaging, this cannot be faulted in any way whatsoever.

Aesthetically, the bar is attractive. It is silver metal and black leather with several holes to adjust its length (even the smallest gives a substantial 'stretch') which are controlled by 2 removable silver pins. Even just looking at it I got aroused; it screams 'kinky'. Though it is certainly well made, I worry that the leather may eventually start to peel away from the bar, although this certainly hasn't happened yet. The cuffs are attractive silver and black, incredibly comfortable wear, even for long periods of time, with need stitching, and are strong enough that they can't be broken free from- even with lots of struggling. They are also removable, which is a massive bonus!

In use, this spreader bar was absolutely incredible. Beyond amazing. What I really wanted was a bar that left the person wearing it completely spread so they were helpless, and this bar certainly delivered. Closing your knees is impossible, even if you have very long legs so the wearer is truly at your mercy; exactly what you want from a bondage product. The pins used to adjust the length of the bar have a ring to attach more cuffs to which was a great idea, but as the pins can simply be pulled out to adjust the length of the bar, it means the person bound could easily escape by pulling the pins out if they were attached to them- this is the products biggest letdown, but with a bit of creativity it is easy to think of other ways to tie up their hands.

Overall, I would recommend this product to anyone looking at moving beyond ordinary handcuffs or Velcro restraints: you will not be disappointed!

Beautiful immobilisation.

This beautifully presented spreader bar is my second item from the Fifty Shades collection. And it does not disappoint!

As with the other item in this range I received, the quality is outstanding. I will be honest, I wasn't expecting much from this range, simply because it has been inspired by the movie. I really thought it was going to be a cheap made brand, with high price tags, simply because the name would sell itself.

I was very wrong!

Inside the box, you not only get your gorgeous spreader bar and cuffs, but you also get a nice little black blindfold and a laminated door hanger, much like a 'do not disturb' sign you would find on a hotel room door.

The bar itself is adjustable, so your partner can easily keep you widely spread and exposed, anticipating their actions. It is very sturdy, clearly good quality, and not flimsy in the slightest.

On the shortest setting. I was still able to close my legs from the knees up. Giving you the feeling of being shackled. but not so exposed.

The cuffs attach to the bar using clips similar to those you would find on a dog's leash. They are padded for comfort and they fasten with Velcro - very strong Velcro. There is no escaping these cuffs, without using your hands. You cannot wriggle yourself free. I did try this to the best of my ability without any success.

You can use these with existing restraints you already own - rope, tape, cuffs or metal cuffs. All can be used to bind your arms to the spreader. If you want to do this and do not already own restraints, you will need to buy some or at least spare cuffs as this bar only comes with one pair.

I am looking forward to ordering other items in the range.

So far? Pure luxury. Thank you, Fifty Shades. And most of all, thank you Lovehoney. :)

My secret tester arrived in discreet packaging. When I opened the box, it was packaged in a high gloss box in dark shades of grey and black with a picture.

On opening the smooth gloss box the excitement peaked as there was another black box to open. The anticipation of wishing for a spreader bar and wanting to see this was so exciting. I was like a child at a 'pass the parcel' party and haven’t felt this much excitement with a parcel for years.

The mysterious presentation had me hooked. Instead of ripping the box open, I opened the second layer very carefully expecting to see a much wanted spreader bar. Oh the glee, still the anticipation built as each part was wrapped in white foam.

At this stage, all I could see were the silver grey ankle cuffs with a discreet Fifty Shades of Grey tag, a black elasticated blindfold and a door hanger - “Mr Grey is busy” and “Mr Grey will see you now.” Oh my gosh, I wish every gift was presented like this. There was more unwrapping as I still hadn’t seen the spreader bar.

Undoing the foam surrounds, I gasped. It's not a plain bland spreader bar, but is soft black leather padded on both ends, with the metal interconnecting bar and lock keys.

Everything about this gives a feeling of expense and luxury.

No instructions are needed. It is so simple to put together. Slide the metal pole between the two leather sides, choose a size anywhere between 55cm to 85cm, and insert the position lock keys with a good push the ankle cuffs clip onto the rings both sides of the bar.

The black leather bars and silver cuffs screamed to me, but I had to wait another 2 days until my partner was home. I packaged it all up again, so he would feel the same excitement when he saw it.

The testing night arrived. I was so excited, I changed the clocks in the house an hour forward, so I could get the children to bed early. I then presented the re-boxed spreader bar to my other half.

As he opened all the layers of packaging a smile crossed his face, “You had better be very very good.” “Yes Sir”. It was going to be a good night. Being a man he then squashed all the packaging - men never get the same thrill as a woman in presentation, and he also disposed of the door hanger.

As we are not fans of the books or films, that was fine by me and I rather have my Mr B any day over Mr Grey. He even joked maybe we should copy that and say “Mr B is busy or Mr B will see you now." So I now have homework for another day. Inspirational.

The spreader bar was ready to go in seconds and I was soon following orders with it strapped to my ankles. Needless to say, it was an amazing night and even brought life back to some old wrist restraints, which were at one stage also attached to each end of the bar.

It was amazingly comfortable to wear and looks so inviting to use. This is my most favourite restraint in the world. I even joked that I’d take it to my grave. “It had better be a large coffin then” was his reply.

Who would like this? Anyone who ever wanted one, but wary, anyone advancing in BDSM. If you are buying for a female this is the one, as she will appreciate the layers of packaging and the girl in a sweet shop syndrome. Would I recommend this - well what do you think? Absolutely.

I have no idea of the cost, but it definitely looks and feels a high end purchase. It's also shown me to expect a great product when it comes to the brand of Fifty Shades of Grey. As I write this review I still can’t believe how lucky I am.