How to Have (Great) Sex in the Shower

Fogged up glass, water dripping off perfectly tanned bottoms and spontaneous, 30-second sex where everyone orgasms at the same time – movies and TV make shower sex seem so simple. If you’ve ever tried it though, you know this is far from the truth.

The slippery surfaces, awkward angles and lack of space can often lead to less than desirable results when it comes to sex in the shower. Not to mention ending up with a cold metal tap digging into somewhere it shouldn’t be – it's distracting to say the least.

It doesn’t mean great shower sex is impossible though.

Whether you’re a fan or a hater of the good old fashioned shower romp, we’ve put together some top tips for making bathroom sex infinitely easier and more enjoyable. Shower heads at the ready.

1. Get creative with your pleasure

Safety is important when it comes to bathroom sex, but luckily there are heaps of things you can do which don’t involve getting into tricky positions for penetration (sex is so much more than that anyway).

Try focussing on oral, hand jobs and even mutual masturbation to save space and prevent a slip while in the nude. Incorporate waterproof toys into the mix and you’ll be well on your way to a hot and wet rendezvous in more ways than one.

If you have a bit more room in your shower or bath and you’re in the mood for some penetration with a penis or a strap-on, positions like the Standoff, Bear Hug and Tingle all the Way can be great, safe ways to begin.

If you’re taking a sexy solo trip to the shower or bath, consider a dildo with a suction cup at the base. The smooth, wet surfaces of the bathroom are ideal for toys like the Lifelike Lover Luxe Realistic Colour-Changing Silicone Dildo which provide hands-free thrills.

Suction cup dildos are also amazing for those who like seeing their partner use toys on themselves. Tell your lover to meet you in the shower in 5 minutes for a sexy surprise, steam up the room and when they walk in, turn your shower into the stage and give them a show they’ll get to sit back and watch or (if they’re lucky) get involved with.

2. Getting heady

If aquatic sex is your thing, you’ll want to pay attention to what Womanizer have created with the Wave – a shower head designed for pleasure and function. Three patterns and three intensities bring a serious bit of fun and as it’s always plugged in and ready to go when you are, spontaneous shower sex moments actually can be yours.

A lot of people with vulvas will know all about the wonders of masturbating with their detachable shower head but did you know this strong stream of water also feels great on penises too?

Whilst getting it on in the shower, adjust the temperature of the water to the perfect level and direct the shower head to the underside of the penis – being careful not to spray water in anyone’s face. This stimulates the sensitive frenulum (the banjo string, to a lot of us) and can also encourage blood flow. You might like to stroke the shaft or play with the balls as you do this for even more sweet attention.

One of the biggest factors which can hold people with vulvas back when it comes to squirting (A.K.A. female ejaculation) is the worry of getting the bed wet and the mental block accompanying it. This is why some people might find that squirting and showers go hand-in-hand – no big clean up and all the tools to help you lean into the feeling and gush away until your heart’s content.

Using a firm dildo (like this glass one from Lovehoney) or your partner’s penis or strap-on, you can please your G-spot while spraying your clit with the shower head. Get into position from the front or behind and let the waves of stimulation get you lost in the moment. Need some more inspo? Check out our blog on the best sex positions to try in the shower here.

A note for anyone with a vagina: while your clitoris is alright with a fair amount of water, spraying a stream upwards into your vagina can upset the delicate pH balance it naturally produces and thus, is a no-no.

3. Good vibrations

Don’t worry about dampening the vibes, we have heaps of waterproof toys at Lovehoney perfect for getting wet and wild as well.

A strong but quiet palm-sized vibrator like this is an excellent choice for discreet shower play whether you are solo or have company. Its ergonomic design is made to stimulate all over and fit between your bodies during play so you can explore every inch of each other. Plus, its petite size makes it easy to hide on the trip between bathroom and bedroom.

Don’t leave your booty high and dry. Slather some anal lube on to a titillating butt plug or a pulsating prostate massager and insert for next-level booty-tingling arousal when you’re getting it on in the bath or shower. Prefer to use your shower time as foreplay time? Wear your anal toy while you’re going through your normal washing routine. By the time you get out, the vibrations should have you ready to get it on.

4. Lube up

For the best shower sex, don’t make the mistake of thinking you don’t need lube. Despite being wet, water is the fastest way to make sure your sex runs drier than the Sahara Desert.

Why? Because the natural lubricant your body produces gets washed away quickly, leaving only the thin liquid of water and a whole lot of friction especially if you are in it for the long haul. Ouch.

For water-resistant, long-lasting lubrication, the silicone variation is your best option when using barriers like condoms. Remember, silicone lube is not compatible with silicone toys, but finding a thicker, water-based type should do the trick for your fave dildo or vibe – you may just need to reapply.

Say it with us: water is wetter but lube is better.