Spanking and Whipping for Beginners

Spanking and whipping are tricky skills to master.

Whether you want to increase the sensitivity of your partner’s skin with a slap of your Manline 12 Inch Ouch Spanking Paddle or you want to know how to swing a Bondage Boutique Wrapped Rattan Cane like a true school master, LoveHoney can provide some fabulous advice that will have you whipping them into a frenzy in no time...
 

Spanking

Spanking is when a hand or paddle is slapped against the bottom, producing a sore thud against the skin. Although painful, spanking can be used to complement pleasurable sensations and can often give you the push you need to orgasm!

Erotic spanking can be enjoyed as part of role play, as a punishment in a BDSM scenario or even during intercourse to increase the endorphin rush.

The best way to try out spanking is to use your hands first. Cup your hand slightly, with your fingers together and spank lightly in an upward motion.

Once you have become comfortable with spanking, try doing it harder and more frequently, timing each spank to arrive no later than 3 seconds apart. Cover both cheeks, aiming for the lower, fleshier part and start to increase the force. Vary the pressure, frequency and placement of the slaps.

If you want to take your spanking play even further, invest in a paddle such as the Bondage Boutique Luxury Leather and Suede Paddle. This will allow a greater range of movement and some unique sensations too!

Remember:
- Never spank anywhere other than the bottom.
- Stop instantly if your chosen safe word is used.
- Make sure the skin is properly cared for after a spanking by using a cool moisturiser, such as aloe vera gel.
 

Flogging

Flogging is the act of using a whip with many tails to hit almost anywhere on the body but particularly the back, bottom or thighs. The many tails still produce a thudding kind of pain but at a more intense level.

Start with a flogger made of soft materials, with thick tails and rounded ends. A good example of this is the Bondage Boutique Luxury Two Tone Suede Flogger.

Begin by gently running the tails over the skin to get your partner accustomed to the feel of a flogger. Then start flogging your partner by swinging the whip in a figure of eight. Try using the flogger at different proximities to your partner to figure out the best way to use it.

If you enjoy using a flogger but want a sharper sensation, invest in a whip with fewer, thinner, heavier fronds, such as the Joyce Jones Cat O’ Nine Tails or the Bondage Boutique Hog Hide Twelve Tail Whip.

Remember:
- Always employ your safe word when things become too painful.
- Keep your flogger away from the face and eyes.
 

Whipping

Whips are single-tailed devices designed to target an area of the body with one sharp hit!

The most commonly seen whip is the bull whip and this is incredibly difficult to use.

When done correctly, a bull whip, such as the 6 Foot Fetish Leather Whip, will produce a cracking sound and a sensation that is similar to being cut.

Using a whip is very hard and you should really spend some time practising before you even get close to your partner with one.

Stand in an open space and gently swing your bull whip around you. If the whip gets caught on anything (furniture, trees, etc.) you don’t have enough room! Start with the bull whip in your dominant hand (usually your writing hand) and hold it out to your side. The tail of the whip should be on the ground behind you and your hand should be raised to just above the hip. Following through with your whole body, push the whip forward and arc your hand so the whip naturally swings upwards after it has reached full extension.

Sounds complicated? It is! The best way to learn is to attend a fetish workshop or practice lots in a wide open space.

Remember:
- Practice lots with a whip before you try it out on your partner.
- The pain of a whip is very intense so a safe word is of utmost importance.
- Always shield your eyes with glasses or a hat when using a whip.
-Controlling a whip is difficult so only use it when you are sure you can hit the area you want on your partner.
 

Caning

Ahhh, a good old fashioned caning! What could be better?

Caning, in many ways, is similar to using a single-tail whip. The pain is sharp and intense and it’s likely to leave marks or welts on the skin.

The Bondage Boutique Rattan Hook Cane is a great device for producing a painful yet pleasurable thwack and is perfect for teacher/student role play too!

Hold the cane in your dominant hand and use the lower end (but not the actual tip) to strike your partner’s bottom. Start by ‘flicking’ the cane, taking it just a few inches away from the skin and jolting it forward. Once your partner is used to this, take the cane further and further away, getting a greater swing on the movement.

You should be creating red streaks across their bottom and hitting the fleshy part, as opposed to the slimmer top part.

Remember:
- If the cane is not treated or covered, be careful of splits and splinters.
- Don’t use the tip of the cane against the skin - this is usually very sharp and can hurt more than intended!
- Always listen out for that safe word!