If I've learned anything from my time on Orgasm Army, it's that when there are a whole pile of good reviews or a whole pile of bad reviews, it makes good sense to listen to the wise soldiers.  I've been burned before when I thought I knew better than they, so now I try to make sure that I don't miss out on anything great.  Currently making the Must Be Great pile?  The Fun Factory Reality Sinnflut Rechargeable Vibrator.

With six reviews and still holding strong at five stars, it is definitely a contender for making it onto any sensible toy-buyer's wish list.  Take it away, soldiers:

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In a recent study highlighted in the Metro, they took a look at the life of a sex scientist - which, I can't lie, kind of made me wonder about a career change.  For every story that shows up about how we feel about casual sex and if sex helps depression, there is a group of scientists out there getting the dirty job done in the name of fact finding.  We might think we know all there is to know about sex - after all, how complicated could it be? - but Mary Roach thinks differently:

Researcher and author Mary Roach took a closer look at the laboratories, brothels and, er, pig farms, that feature in such findings. She discovered sex research is a necessity and that, regardless of how advanced medical science is, we still know little about some of the basic mechanics of human sexuality.

The first thing Roach makes clear is that sex researchers aren't weird. 'Most people think they are all perverts,' she says. 'Sorry to disappoint but they're all very nice, normal people.'

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If you ignore the environmental impact, there are benefits to dating men in Europe, rather than staying "closer" to home, apparently.  Since train prices are so darned expensive in the UK and with budget airlines dropping their prices to destinations abroad all the time, you may find that longer distance relationships are easier on your wallet than shorter long distance relationships.

According to the Sun:

A survey has found 20 per cent of British singles have given up looking for love in the UK and are seeking dates with foreign fellas.

And with train fares over here rocketing, it could be CHEAPER for a girl to have a long-distance fling with a man overseas.

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I have recently had the very good fortune to hear back from someone who asked for help on this blog, who wanted to say that my recommendations...well.  Let's just say he was emphatically pleased with his new toys. 

I'll be posting his letter a bit later this week with links to the toys he tried out, but in the meantime, I thought it was a good time to rediscover some of the best toys out there for men who don't like the look of the old fake-vagina toys.

Unlike men, women have a wide range of toys available - women enjoy vibrators, dildos, bullets, lubes, vibrating panties, dual-tipped vibes... on and on and on. Really, there is no end to the range of toys available for women.

But what is out there for men, especially for men who do not like the look of anatomically-representative toys like Fleshlight or dolls or other bits and bobs that are made to look like body parts?

For the man who is a little squigged out by fake pussies, fake anuses, and even fake mouths, It can seem like there isn't much out there.

But do not lose hope, Men Who Hate Pseudo-Body Part Toys! There are toys out there that are much more discreet, more subtle, less cringeworthy! I present to you, the Top 5 Toys for Men Who Like Cool Toys:

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In all the running around on the site to get the new and better toys, all flash, vibration, and multi-speeds, we sometimes overlook the less eye-catching items. But considering some of the reviews they get, we might want to pay closer attention.  As more and more men are grooming their personal putting greens (for which let me officially thank you from the Ladies Coalition), they are starting to realise what women have known for years - shaving frickin' hurts.

Razor burn, ingrown hairs, nicks... you get the works.  And what hurts on your legs and underarms doesn't get better when it is on your personal areas.  I have a bottle of one of the Sliquid lubes and I love it, so I can easily believe some of the reviews that are coming out for the shaving cream:

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How gorgeous is this little puppy?  Having just purchased the Aquarius Pleasure Vibe I can definitely testify that the powdery-finished, translucent orange-pink look is just unbeatably lovely.  I kind of love that you can get more toys in the line with the same colouring - if I didn't already have a silly number of toys, they could almost woo me over to the idea of buying a matching set of toys.

What I think is going to make this toy is the position of the bullet and the shape of the clit-tickling pad.  The only complaint I had about the Aquarius was that the vibration went all up the shaft and didn't really make it out onto the two probes.  But with the bullet on the Pleasure Bumper being so close to the pad, it looks like you should get plenty of vibration where you want it.

I am also thinking that the shape of that pad is going to be fabulous - it looks like you can get plenty of angle for... well.  For want of a better word, grind.  Using two AAA batteries, this should have plenty of power, and that it is multispeed is always a bonus.

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Finally, we're moving away from all sex toys for women looking like a castaway penises (or penii) - and how grateful for that are we, really? 

Nowadays you can get vibrators and dildos (and more) in a wide range of sizes, shapes, and functions - there is sure to be something out there to suit all tastes.

Some of the best toys are stepping away from basic flesh coloured, genital simulators. Not only do these toys rock because they reach areas that others miss, but you can leave them out for guests to appreciate your "art" collection. 

Also, gentlemen, if I may point out... these are the toys you want to reach for when you're hoping to surprise a lady with a new sex toy.  She'll be all hot and bothered, but not turned off by something that appears a bit skeevy to her.  That is a win for both of you.

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The other day a friend was asking me what the strangest toy I've tested and enjoyed in the line of duty - this is not an unusual conversation, to be honest, I could just about print out response cards - and they were quite surprised when I said that I found a clit clamp as being the most unexpectedly enjoyable.

Had I never seen a clamp on sale, I never would have picked it up, so I'm happy to spread the word to people who might otherwise think they're not for them.  Rather than being excruciatingly painful and awkward to use, I found that it really increased sensation in a most enjoyable way.  And as is nearly always the case, the good soldiers over at the Orgasm Army have tips galore:

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I have recently had the good fortune to speak on the phone with Dr. Laura Berman, of the Berman Institute, to get her opinion on all things sex toy related.  She was just as warm and intelligent as you would assume from a woman who is head of one of the most couple-friendly, woman-centred sex toy companies.  Look for the interview to show up next week, but in the meantime, I thought I would focus this week on four hidden gems from the Berman Institute line - no reviews have popped up for these toys yet, so they are just begging to become our next favourite toy. 

This week: Berman Center Dilator Set

I thought the Dilator Set would be a nice following piece to yesterday's blog on the Juno Weighted Pelvic Exerciser.   Because while we talk more and more about the importance of strengthening your pelvic floor muscles with kegel exercises (I'm doing them right now! I kid, I kid.  No, really, I'm doing them right now), but we tend to talk less about women who struggle to stretch more comfortably.  Whether you are just naturally small, or if you tense up during intercourse for fear of pain (especially if you've experienced pain in the past), the Dilator Set can help you gently work up to having greater sensation and comfort - and for your peace of mind, you can do it in the privacy of your own bed, rather than trying it... out in the field, so to speak.

The set comes with the small shaft with multispeed vibrations, three graduated sleeves going up to 4.5 inch circumference,  and a nubbly little silicone sleeve that helps to enhance your internal sensations.  That... is another phrase that I didn't really know how to reword in a way that sounded less clinical icky.  Though, really, clinical icky is probably better than the more simplistic "helps you enjoy sex more".

Huh.  Actually, that is the far superior way to sum it up.  So here you go:  The Berman Center Dilator Set helps you enjoy sex more.  Now doesn't that sound good?

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I have recently had the good fortune to speak on the phone with Dr. Laura Berman, of the Berman Institute, to get her opinion on all things sex toy related.  She was just as warm and intelligent as you would assume from a woman who is head of one of the most couple-friendly, woman-centred sex toy companies.  Look for the interview to show up next week, but in the meantime, I thought I would focus this week on four hidden gems from the Berman Institute line - no reviews have popped up for these toys yet, so they are just begging to become our next favourite toy. 

This week:  Berman Center Juno Weighted Pelvic Exerciser

A slightly sneaky addition to the list of hidden gems with this one, because this is actually on my Buy Soon list.  I already own the Isis Beginner Pelvic Exerciser, and I love it.  So I know from which I speak when I tell you that it's a good bet to grab a pelvic exerciser from this line.  The Isis is unweighted and makes for a challenging workout on its own, so I am quite intrigued to see what the Juno can do.  I'm thinking that after a couple of weeks of using it, you should be able to open beer bottles without using your hands.  Unrealistic?  Maybe.  But we should all have goals.

Like the other toys in this line, the Juno comes with full instructions (including jolly diagrams) and a lovely lavender bag that makes it possible to leave this little guy out in plain view without anyone knowing you've been lifting weights in your spare time.

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