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    Ron Burgundy [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi all.

    I'm going to buy the lovehoney magic wand for my wand as she needs a LOT of clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. This question mind sound ridiculous but given the strength of the vibrations, is it possible to desensitize a womans clit from over use. The thought occurred to me whilst reading all the reviews.

    It actually sounds daft as im typing this but I would be interested to hear your thoughts.

    Ron Burgundy [sign in to see picture]
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    Obviously that should have said wife (she is magic though)

    rubysoho [sign in to see picture]
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    Ron Burgundy wrote:

    Obviously that should have said wife (she is magic though)

    awww sweet correction :)

    tattooed lotus [sign in to see picture]
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    I think it would be more likely to become over sensitised,which then can lead to discomfort.I expericene this often with my SO.He is a wonderfully enthusiatic player,sucker,licker,toy user of my clit but there are times I know I am not going to be able to come and his continued stimulation just gets way to much and I need to indicate I have had enough.

    It's a bit like the extra sensitivity a man feels on his cock after he has cum,I have never met a man who wants continued extensive stimulation of their cock immediately after coming.It just gets a bit too much.

    boobaloo [sign in to see picture]
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    sort of, I know that if I use vibes a lot (I mean like everyday) that it gets harder for me to reach orgasm and almost impossible for me to do it manually without a vibe.

    I try and leave a few days every now and again to reset my body so to speak and the sensitvinity comes right back, so it must really depend on how much you use them.

    The wand is lovely btw, but my favourite one is the lelo wand or the palm mini wand

    BDSM [sign in to see picture]
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    i agree with both of the last two posts.

    no long term damage though :

    livvie [sign in to see picture]
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    I use a magic wand about 2 times a day, its not the LH one though, *removed by moderator* and my clit is perfectly fine. I orgasm with fingers, bullets, the OH's tounge. your wife shouldnt have any problems (:

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    Yes it is possible in much the same way a man may get used to a quick, firm wank as a teen and then find it harder to reach orgasm later with a slower gentler sensation. It is possible for a woman to get 'too used' to needing intense, or one kind of stimulation. As long as you do not get lazy and use the wand every single time for months, years etc it should be ok though. As long as you mix it up and she learns diferent ways to orgasm too (Fingers, tongue, sex, rubbing against something...etc) So not desensitised as such, its more that you could train her into cumming through one kind of stim thereby making it harder to cum in other ways eventually.

    As Boobaloo and Livvie said, if you mix it up and dont rely on one thing and you should be fine x

    laurarebecca [sign in to see picture]
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    I quite fancy a wand myself!! See if i can handle all that power! as the others said desensitisation is more than likely, I can get this from small bullets even! Key I find is to give a bit of vibe on my clit, partners tongue to tease me then vibe... With him being in control! Amazing!

    Minxbaby [sign in to see picture]
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    I find that using a normal vibe, I do go numb and sensitive but with the wand I can carry on.

    I was using the wand the other night and did go numb eventually but that was after extended use

    The wand we have was bought from Amazon and wasn't expensive and it's mains powered but I find it's more of a tickle type vibration different to a normal vibe.

    Just love it

    Ron Burgundy [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks for all the comments. I guess I was just worried that with the wand having so much power, my wife might find it hard to get off from my touch.

    Minxbaby [sign in to see picture]
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    then don't use it for long.

    I find with the wand, I don't even move it - it just sort of lies below my clit - the power is turned up quite high but that's because then it doesn't vibrate as much in my hand which is nicer.

    I find as well, that with using the wand it doesn't take me long to come at all and because it doesn't make me sensitive and it's a different sort of feeling, hubby can still play with me after and I can come again.

    But everyone is different - that's just me......you just have to see how it goes and if you do get one, use it and find that she doesn't get off on you afterwards, then use it differently - ie use it but don't try to get her off - just enjoy seeing her get off on it. Then next time, don't use the wand so you do the work

    Ron Burgundy [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks minxbaby, maybe I shouldn't over think it.

    Minxbaby [sign in to see picture]
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    no you shouldn't, if everyone over thought stuff we wouldn't get different feelings or experiences as we would be too "scared" or "apprehensive"

    We have ordered a pussy pump and although at first I was all for it, I am now a little apprehensive about it - looking at clips with them (ok, you're talking the over inflated porn clips) it makes me wonder and worry about my bits and whether they will be ok after - they will of course, but I am trying not to think that they won't - see that's me overthinking it because if they were bad, then LH wouldn't sell them would they!

    However I will see it through (when it eventually arrives) and hopefully like it enough to use it more than once and therefore not be a waste of money ha ha

    But it's the same thing - you have to try and then experiment with things to get the balance right.

    There are no rules that say that you have to use the wand every time you have sex (although if she likes it that much you may have to hide it from her lol).

    Just go with it and experiment

    eugeneishot [sign in to see picture]
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    Never overuse a sex toy or a sex position or a masturbation technique. The body tends to get used to it and it's hard to go back.

    Have fun!

    Labyrinth [sign in to see picture]
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    Each persons body will react differently to different sensations.

    So long as you don't overuse it so she becomes dependant on the feeling of one thing over another then you should be fine. Mix things up in the bedroom =)

    chunkyg [sign in to see picture]
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    I think you will be fine as you vary the speed you use it at......my wife complained of numbness after a session with it but I did have it on full for a little too long. The fantastic thing about them is how well and quickly you can control the vibrations............she loves it :-)

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