Hiding toys from your parents :)

When I go to uni this time it's gonna be a nightmare! I have so many toys now and a very nosey mother! My best friend still lives with her parents so she can't toy-sit and (to make it even better) my sister may be moving into my flat when I leave it so she's gonna be around too! :-s guess I have a while yet to form a plan of action x

Thank you Wizzie for making me near laugh out my tea at the thought of 'toysitting.' :)

:-) glad I gave you a chuckle x

It depends how many toys you have-if you've got a massive 12 inc dildo's that would be a dilemma :-) Just stick it in a innocuous shoe box-and if you have a wardrobe shelf over head stack it right at the back-blocking it from view or get a metal lockable box. I mean how nosey is your family?

Wizzie86 wrote:

When I go to uni this time it's gonna be a nightmare! I have so many toys now and a very nosey mother! My best friend still lives with her parents so she can't toy-sit and (to make it even better) my sister may be moving into my flat when I leave it so she's gonna be around too! :-s guess I have a while yet to form a plan of action x

Wizzie, have you thought about buying *lots* of lamps

http://homotography.blogspot.com/2009/02/cheeky-bedside-lamp-has-surprise-for.html

don't label the box clothes or bedding or towels - thats the first things mums will unpack

ive got mine in bags inside a supra hi-tops box on the wardrobe at the moment but i do want to find somewhere better - i still live at home and mum is rather repressed (an a raving homophobe but thats a story for another day)

I use on of the boxes that some of my toys arrived in which so far has proved a good place, mainly because i have so much stuff under my bed as it is, one more box goes unnoticed, although i think my brother (who is only 16 months younger than me) might have had a peak in it)

Currently I'm using my top drawer for all my toys but I've already told my mum this and not to look in. I try to hide the man toys at the back just in case she accidentally opens it as the sight of a vibrator will get her to quickly close the drawer without asking me about the two Fleshlights.

Biiiiiig basket under a table...

*Bump bump*

Some great suggestions in here!

ADx

Assorted around my room in bags. Though big toys in closet...scared about those

In my gym bag which just sits in my room. I don't have a wardrobe or any draws or anything in my room (separate room full of wardrobes). Just hope that noone looks in that bag! My bed is a low one and only has like a 2 inch gap, so can't hide stuff under there :-(

Mine are in the bedside drawer, but I get the feeling that I may have to move them, as I seem to be getting quite a few. Would like a nicely decorated wooden box, with lock :) but bedside table it is, just hope no one goes snooping

We have a huge basket under a coffee table that my grandad made!

Adx

I'm starting to run out of space! I have a photocopier paper box and a lovehoney delivery box, plus an old plastic toy box full! I'd really like a nice wooden box with a lock to go on-top of my wardrobe, but buying one would be suspicious.

Just a note of caution: zippers can be opened with a pen and closed up again without leaving any trace; if your hiding place relies on a locked zip, you might want to think about changing it.

EDIT: Whoops! Sorry, I was reading two threads on a similiar topic and meant to post in the recent one. Sorry for bumping this old one!

Lubyanka wrote:

The only thing I can think of is to get a metal box which can lock securely, and keep the key with you at all times. Everybody is entitled to some privacy, and if anybody nags you about what's in it, just tell them it's private. If they insist, then tell them if they really want to know, then they are welcome to try to break the lock.

I think Lubyanka hit the nail on the head. Everyone is entitled to some privacy. Parents rightly keep their sex lives private and would be horrified if their children demanded to search their bedroom for sex toys, lingerie or pornography or watch them having sex.

Obviously parents want to protect their children from keeping things that are harmful or illegal (drugs, weapons etc) but they shouldn't be surprised to find sex toys or pornography if they feel it's necessary to search their childrens' possessions after they reach puberty. If parents are embarrassed by what they see they certainly shouldn't vent those feelings on their children.

As Lubyanka also said, teenagers are probably the group in society who have the most need for pornography and sex toys and they have nothing to be ashamed of. I think some of the prevalent attitudes are a hangover from the days when explicit pornography was illegal (pre 2000 in the UK, I think) and sex toys were less accepted.

The point that really concerns me is the effect this has on our sexuality. It can't be healthy for our very first sexual experiences to be shrouded in shame and furtiveness. Thinking back to my teenage years, shame and secrecy about masturbation definitely affected my sexual attitudes negatively.

Any parents out there who'd like to comment?

londoner wrote:

Lubyanka wrote:

The only thing I can think of is to get a metal box which can lock securely, and keep the key with you at all times. Everybody is entitled to some privacy, and if anybody nags you about what's in it, just tell them it's private. If they insist, then tell them if they really want to know, then they are welcome to try to break the lock.

I think Lubyanka hit the nail on the head. Everyone is entitled to some privacy. Parents rightly keep their sex lives private and would be horrified if their children demanded to search their bedroom for sex toys, lingerie or pornography or watch them having sex.

Obviously parents want to protect their children from keeping things that are harmful or illegal (drugs, weapons etc) but they shouldn't be surprised to find sex toys or pornography if they feel it's necessary to search their childrens' possessions after they reach puberty. If parents are embarrassed by what they see they certainly shouldn't vent those feelings on their children.

As Lubyanka also said, teenagers are probably the group in society who have the most need for pornography and sex toys and they have nothing to be ashamed of. I think some of the prevalent attitudes are a hangover from the days when explicit pornography was illegal (pre 2000 in the UK, I think) and sex toys were less accepted.

The point that really concerns me is the effect this has on our sexuality. It can't be healthy for our very first sexual experiences to be shrouded in shame and furtiveness. Thinking back to my teenage years, shame and secrecy about masturbation definitely affected my sexual attitudes negatively.

Any parents out there who'd like to comment?

extreme or explicit pornography is still illegal. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Section_63_of_the_Criminal_Justice_and_Immigration_Act_2008

in fact videoing things you can do perfectly legally is a crime.

sweetlove666 wrote:

extreme or explicit pornography is still illegal. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Section_63_of_the_Criminal_Justice_and_Immigration_Act_2008

in fact videoing things you can do perfectly legally is a crime.

Interesting information, thanks.

Nothing covered by that has ever floated my boat and I suppose I'm assuming the majority of teenagers wouldn't be interested by it either.

I keep mine in a box under my bed along with condoms/lube/lingerie.

I've had the box since I was about 7, and it used to be full of half finished art projects, so I assume my mother still think that that's what's in there...