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  1. Anal Sex for beginners, any advice?

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    besty [sign in to see picture]
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    its my boyfriends birthday next week and i want to forfill one of his fantasys which is anal sex - i've only tried it once before and it was a disasterous drunken mess lol, and didn't really work

    He's rather well endowed and is much bigger than any guy i have ever seen - he's long and girthy which is great, but im worried about anal - i've convinced myself its going to hurt and thats putting me off!

    Im looking at this kit - is it the best out there?

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=9758

    i want to be as prepared as possible so it doesn't hurt and that he has a good time, so my bum has to be ready - one friend has sugested having a warm bath - and another has suggested being drunk to desensitise myself - anyone have any more tips

    my boyfriend also wants to cum in my ass without a comdom, is this safe? he want me to push it out while he watches - any tips on this

    sorry for all the questions, im only young and new to this!!

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    besty [sign in to see picture]
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    thanks for the reply carly!

    im just having a read through the thread, its making me feel a bit better about things, im still nervous though lol

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    besty [sign in to see picture]
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    thank you so much you've really helped my confidence, i think im going to have to order a bucket or lube

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    sublimelonglegs [sign in to see picture]
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    Hey besty,

    Good luck. Please don't put pressure on yourself and you will make it a great experience for both of you when the time is right.

    Carly is right, as much as it may not be ideal for him, using a condom will make it much more comfortable for you whilst you get used to it. The lip of his helmet can feel sore until you are used to it so the condom makes his whole cock much smoother. Although I've tried lubes specifically for anal sex I still find Liquid Silk by far the best as many will agree on this site.

    My advice, have a glass of wine, use loads and loads of lube and take it easy, don't rush.

    Ideally you should experiment with anal play until it feels right to go all the way, especially if your man is beautifully proportioned. Time spent in preparation and patience will be rewarded in the long run.

    Take care,

    Legs xx

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    mama [sign in to see picture]
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    honest chuck i'd use a butt plug for a while first... and do a bit of butt training this way you'll be confident of sucess...i know many here have just gone straight to cock.. but if your even a little bit nervous it might not go well... and that would be a shame because anal is great!.. just take it steady and prepare,, thats fun too!!!

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    mama [sign in to see picture]
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    honest chuck i'd use a butt plug for a while first... and do a bit of butt training this way you'll be confident of sucess...i know many here have just gone straight to cock.. but if your even a little bit nervous it might not go well... and that would be a shame because anal is great!.. just take it steady and prepare,, thats fun too!!!

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    sublimelonglegs [sign in to see picture]
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    That is the best advice you'll get.

    Mama knows best!

    Enjoy the build up, prolong the anticipation and you will both enjoy every step.

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    walrus [sign in to see picture]
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    Speaking as a man who has had anal sex with one of my girl friends, she was always telling me to "be gentle". The thing is, if you are in e.g. doggy position, a man's natural urge is to just go for it and thrust away too fast at the start. I found it quite hard to control myself and be gentle in this position, perhaps you need to explain that to your man. After you have got into it, it kind of opens up and it's different.

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    tallboy247 [sign in to see picture]
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    Luckily Mrs T already well down this road when we met up, fabbie, doesn't much mind which l slip into, sometimes get there unintentionally, heaven !!

    Would think girl on top preferable to a right royal and unexpected bum fuck by horny stud, get to take it at own pace then!!

    TB

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    GumBooty [sign in to see picture]
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    Actually yes. I just posted a thread about a guide that helped me overcome any anal problems. It's at http://tns.bbssm.com and it's called TheNastyStallion's Guide to Maximum Anal Accommodation. Give it a good read and practice and you'll do fine!

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    mama [sign in to see picture]
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    what a great guide.. love that nasty stallion...

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    kinkylove [sign in to see picture]
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    the best way to help you out on theis problem is to by some putt plugs of diffrent sizes or better still buy a blow up butt plug.use plendy of lube and be carefull how you insurt it.once in pump it up to you feel comfortable with it and leave it in for about an hour.this will give your anus time to to except the plug.and it will also strech out your anus.try it every day for about a week each time pump the plug up i little bit more than the night before.by this time your anus will take larger items.when you are ready to have anal with you partner.get ready about an hour berfore your love making.also making shure that your anus is lubed enogh

    then you will ba able to take him with out any pain.REMBER THE FIRST GOLDEN RULE IS TO RELAX.AND DONT TENCE UP OR IT WILL BE PAIN FULL .JUST ENJOY YOUR ANAL..AND THE MORE YOU DO IT THE BETTER IT WILL GET

    GOOD LUCK TO YOU BOTH

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    Lubyanka [sign in to see picture]
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    kinkylove wrote:

    the best way to help you out on theis problem is to [...] buy a blow up butt plug. [...] it will also strech out your anus. [...] then you will ba able to take him with out any pain.

    By the way, the anus pretty much remains the same with most inflatable butt plugs, because most of those plugs expand inside the rectum, past the anus. The rectum has few nerve endings and aside from a feeling of fullness, the rectum itself is fairly devoid of sensation. Most of the nerve endings are in the anus, so that is where almost all of the sensations of anal sex are felt, including pain. So your initial experiences of anal sex are likely to remain the same no matter how much you use an inflatable butt plug at the beginning.

    Many beginnings can be a challenge.

    Ok, I'll stop now, that's my cheery note for the day. :p

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    Mucky Duck [sign in to see picture]
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    Taking it up the dung chute is a challenge that requires patience & practice. It's well worth all the effort required. Rush & you hurt yourself, spoil the experience & be put off for life. Start small & work up until you a happy, relaxed & confident your partner should be no different to your toys.

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    bri_n_sus [sign in to see picture]
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    My partner and I decided we would both like to try anal sex and ordered the smoothly anal prober. It arrived yesterday and he rushed home from work so we could try it out. He was a little unsure and so we decided to try it on my first. It was quite painful at first while using the beads and we almost gave up as I didn't want to be in agony for the rest of the night!! Instead he suggested turning it around and using the other end. I cringed a bit at the thought of it cause it is bigger than the beads but I found because it was smoother that it went in easier. As to be expected there were a vew occassions were he pushed a little too hard too quick and caused me to yelp but as soon as i did he would pull out and we would start again. I found it best when I was on all fours and he was behind me. I decided to use my silver bullet to stimulate my clit and this took my mind off the dildo.

    It was still a little bit uncomfortable but got the both of us very worked up. I'm still a little bit apprehensive about doing it again though. I hoping that it will just take time for me to get used to it.

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    aww bri_n_sus

    it does just take time, the first time i found it slightly painful, since then though it increasingly got better and i do sometimes prefer it up the arse ()

    staying relaxed is the key, and if you dont get on with it and you really still want to, have you tried the de sensitizing sprays/lubes you can buy off here? could help you out

    PPB

    xx

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    bri_n_sus [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks PPB we haven't tried any of those lubes, I had never even heard of them until I started readin this forum!!! We are kind of new to this sort of thing

    We are going to kep trying cause it is something we want. But I just am not sure if i'll be able too. Although after reading so many of the post I am starting to realise it should get easier with time and pratice, I'm pretty sure it will be well worth it in the end!!

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    Naughty40 [sign in to see picture]
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    Gotta say - half way there tonight.....an loving it all the way.

    Not gonna be long till he takes me Im sure. Cos hes just realised what DP can do for me.

    Grrr....

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    bri_n_sus [sign in to see picture]
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    Well sadly my last post on this issue was the first and last encounter. Partly due to be knackered all the time and partly because the thought of it being sore is putting me off. I do know that it is something I want because that one time did give me a lil taster and I feel it could be amazing for us but i just do not know how to relax.

    Can anyone give me any advice as to how to prepare myself so that when I'm with my OH i'm more ready for it. He is away for the weekend and I'm home alone so I think it would be good if I could surprise him when he gets home???

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    bigbrownblowjobeyes [sign in to see picture]
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    Well on your own is probably the best place to start :)

    Pick a time you're truly relaxed, after a hot bath works for me. Use just your finger for now, lots of lube and go slowly. Stop if you feel yourself tensing and wait for it to pass. Once you are used to this a slim butt plug could be the next step. Then when you DO start with your partner, start the same way, fingers first, no need to rush into the whole thing first time. I think it was literally months between the first time we played and actual full anal, and yes I was probably ready sooner, but it was a good thing we built up to it. Just make sure he knows you are setting the pace.

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