• Strap-on sex for straight couples

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    killerdisk [sign in to see picture]
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    As a male i love to penetrate my anus and get fantastic sensations like you can never imagine (remeber the male has a very sensitive prostate glad ready to be stroked. I would love to take it a step further and get my girlfriend to help and join in the fun. She has helped once or twice briely with a dildo but does not seem very keen on the idea. From what i read its normally the woman who have problems persauding there man to try strap on sex, so any ideas how i can turn my lady around....She seems to think it will hurt me and thats why she does not want to try it, but i have shown her it very pleasurable.

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    Patg1001 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi Killerdisc
    Strap on's can be fun but there is also everything else needed to enjoy this . You both have to be relaxed and "in the mood " . Have you thought of working your way through some gentle steps first like massage and maybe asking your lady to finger you . You would have to learn to enjoy your body for this as I'v found strap on's a head fuck but not that physically stimulating . If she enjoys giveing you some of the attention she usually recieves from you it could allow her to open up and consider toys becoming part of your sex life too . Of coures a drink or a smoke can loosen inhibitions too but so can talking and spending time to find out what eachother likes . Dont rush it and be patient .

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    killerdisk [sign in to see picture]
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    thanks for all replies, yes communication is always the key to a good relationship and a super sex life. I have no complaints about our love life and relise when we are both comfortable and if communication is kept open thats all you need. I think fear of rejection was an issue but not anymore. As my partner has said no does not mean no everytime or for the future.

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    kerric [sign in to see picture]
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    i have a strap harness which have a dildo 4 u and her u both get enjoyment out of it and i love it this mght help to change her mind

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    ~pixie~ [sign in to see picture]
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    Kerric is right, whilst utterly pissed my girlfriend and I ordered a strap on that has a second smaller dildo that penetrates her while she wears it, apparantly its quite odd, we were both aprehensive of the idea but slowly (im talking 5 monthes slowly) we have become used to it and its becoming more of a refular thing!

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    Lovehoney - Richard [sign in to see picture]
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    The Bend Over Beginners Kit http://www.orgasmarmy.com/product.aspx/-/?productid=1482 seems to be popular with couples trying anal sex for the first time.

    It's a really couple-friendly toy, nicely made and with dildos in different sizes so you don't feel scared by a massive member coming at you!

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    Miss Kitty [sign in to see picture]
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    I don't think it's a case of the right strap on toy, it is that she has a phobia of anal sex and that is transfering to her willingness to perform it and not just take it. She doesn't like it herself and is scared of inflicting what she has been through onto some one else - an irrational fear maybe but that is what phobia's are.

    She is helping already participating rarely with a dildo which is a great start so I would suggest just proceeding slowly in that course, of course without any preasure on her to do something she may not like. One idea is to get a remote control butplug or egg for you to wear and give her the control while out? bring some more indirect fun for her into the bargain

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    oops I pressed the reply button twice!

    One other thought from somebody who bad bad experiences from their ex this way is that by donning a strap on she would be taking control of the anal sex situation and maybe help her get over it?

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    Hi Captain Killerdisk, any update on your story, has your Girlfriend's attitude been changed yet. In many way's I was in her position, but my attitude has been totally changed in the last few amazing weeks. I could'nt believe that slipping 7 inch of hard plastic up my fella's arse could ever be such a turn on for both of us ! I had worry's, concerns' different things going on in my head, but after reading people's experiences I gave it a good go whereas before I just went through the motions and now I too want to progress to the strap-on stage ....just loving it !! Hope you are getting yours good and often if not get your girlfriend to read this and give it a go...odds are she'll end up loving it too ! LOL

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    There is Lesleys - I was hoping you'd chime in on this one, with your erecent experience. Killer, I feel your pain here. I am slowly trying to progress my wife to be a little more keen to anal experimentation. Have you tried wearing a plug during sex? how about talking a bit about prostate stimulation? She may not understand your interest. You mentioned showing her that it is enjoyable, but her perception of the act may be a bit different. If you take initiative, you may begin to get the message across that you desire the experience. My guess is this is not a short process. I am still working on it, and I started this about a year ago.

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    I am interested to know what pleasure the woman gets for fucking her man. Is it something she is just happy to do? Or is there a physical turn on involved too? I am a complete slut for it personally. I guess that's the submissive in me enjoying himself. I've yet to be taken with a strap on and properly fucked though. How many women on here really get off on it?

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    Redpan [sign in to see picture]
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    My wife says it depends on the dildo. We have a Tantus one which she can insert into her vagina, and I get to take the business end. She knows she is pleasing me, but the thrusting action presses against her clitoris so that she gets to feel the benefits too. We use the dildo for role play too as she gets me to "play with her cock". Just by moving it and stroking it, the inserted end presses against her G spot too.

    We have been married 20+ years and are very comfortable around each other. Anal play and sexual role play is just another progression we have made in our love life.

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    I think it can be a power thing as well that's the turn on. I've never done it personally, but as I'm generally submissive, I rather like the idea of being the dominating one, and adding a vibe or other dildo sounds like it would make it extra fun for the woman.

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    have you tried the strap on were thier are two dildo,s attached to it,that way ,while she,s penertrating you ,she can also get penertrated at the same time,that way you both are getting satisfaction at the same time.you never know ,if your lucky ,you might get your arse slapped ,if she,s get carried away.

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    Hi, mind fuck it certainly is, after three bangs a normal dildo can be like waving a wand in the Albert Hall, looking for a biggie !!

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    Anyone out there help, looking for harness mounted but with the stiffness, and possibly double headed aspect to take us both to heaven and back !! Thanks campers xxx

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    Gyrator53 [sign in to see picture]
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    Well, our researches in this area have taken ages and cost a fortune! (bedside cabinet worth more than the car) Nothing we have tried is perfect but we now use a regular feeldoe:-
    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=3852

    With an extension sleeve:-
    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=61

    And the 'nubs' for the clit enhanced with one of these:-
    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=2377

    All held on with one of these harnesses:-
    http://www.stockroom.com/Ultimate-4-Strap-Dildo-Harness-P299.aspx

    The result does look a little like it contravenes some arms limitation treaty but the effect on both of us is pretty fantastic. The extension is needed for us because we really like the face-to-face positions and the feeldoe does not really have enough length for these (there is a new Feeldoe 'More' with extra length out sometime but we don't know when)

    Its still not perfect and we think we will try to make our own (something for the DIY sex toys thread perhaps). It would be great if the clit stimulation was not just some ridges on the shaft as any downward pull on the end of the dildo pulls these away loosing stimulation. A quite distinct clit stimulator not so directly attached to the shaft would be better. A dual density construction would also lend it stiffness with some 'give'. We find a much bigger toy can be taken if it is slightly softer and gives when you tense up.

    Good luck! hope you find your perfect 'weapon' - the search is still a lot of fun :-)

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    nigganot [sign in to see picture]
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    iget so wet and turned on when i fuck my mans arse ido to him anything i want .when i'm fucking him with a big strap on and his hole is stretched wide i have complete power over him.it is the amazing how horny it is.i like to have my hair pulled when a getting a hard pounding,so i do it to him. to use his arse how i want is the biz the more he takes the better for us both.to see your fjst going in is such a sight,we like to see each other stretched andwell used

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    let me tell you all of an event that happened to me recently.

    It started quite a few years ago when an ex girlfriend was giving me one of he EXPERT blowjobs, damn she was good at them!, whilst she was doing this she was playing with her own pussy and rubbing her juices around my perenium and hole, unexpectedly she slipped a wet finger right up there and I literally exploded instantly in what was, up to then the most mind blowing orgasm I''d ever had. Since then I've always fantasised about being the receiver, only from a woman mind you.

    I'd mentioned it to a few partners since but even my now ex wife who was very liberal in the bedroom found the idea gross even though she herself loved it up the bum. I thought it would always remain as a fantasy.

    Fast forward to a few weeks ago I popped into my local one saturday evening and saw a friend that I hadn't seen for best part of 9 years. I'd always had the hots for her back then but never considered us anything more than just friends. So we were chattering away just like old times, catching up and generally having a laugh. We both ended up getting quite pissed and in hysterics. Being the gent that I am I ordered a cab at the end of a really fun evening and escorted her home and not wishing to take advantage of her inebriation (and mine) I made sure she got in safely, we agreed to meet for lunch the following wednesday as we were both off and I went home.

    So wednesday comes and we meet up at one of my fave restaurants in the town where we both (now) live. After the first bottle of wine we had both loosened up some and, as it does, the conversation turned to partners. Turns out she's recently come out of a long, but sadly, unhappy relationship with "a fucking prude". Now whilst she is undoubtedly extremely sexy she's always come across as a bit, you know, someone that possibly wouldn't be very 'exciting' when it comes to rumpy pumpy. OH HOW WRONG WAS I !!!!!

    She delighted in telling me that her ex was about as adventurous as ordering a prawn cocktail starter in a Harvester pub, and as such she had built up a HUGE, her word, collection of toys that she had kept hidden from him so as not to upset him. Anyway, he was having a big clean up at their house and found her toys. Cue massive arguments, the 'you shouldn't use these when you have me' line etc etc. So she told him what she actually thought of him.

    So I'm sitting there listening intently thinking, "hello, this could be fun!" and seeing her in a completely different light. She was well into her flow now and who was I to stop her?

    She went on about a couple of flings with women, a few one night stands just so she could get "a good proper fucking" and how she had BEGGED him one night to do her up the arse. Apparently that would make him gay, he believed.

    "So you've never had it up the bum then?" I asked

    "No! But my god I want to! There is SO much I want to try now I'm not with him anymore!"

    I thought I'd come straight out with it "Would you fuck a bloke up the arse with a strap on?"

    "Are you kidding me?" whoops, gone to far here I thought, "that's been one of my fantasies since I saw it on a porno a few years ago, but it was never going to happen with him was it?"

    Bingo.

    I leant across the table "That's one of my fantasies"

    "what do you have planned for the rest of the day?" she asked and I kid you not, I could see her getting very flushed!

    We polished off the second bottle and walked back to her apartment. As we stepped through the door into what can only be described as a truly beautiful place we were kissing passionately.

    She led me to her bedroom, the centrepiece being a simply enormous bed with a huge wrought iron head frame.

    "Wait there" she pointed at the bed, she disappeared into her adjoining dressing room and came out a couple of minutes later wearing just a pair of very expensive looking thigh length leather boots. My god her figure was literally like something from a dream and she had the neatest patch of muff in the shape of a small heart. She was everything a guy could possibly ever hope for!

    "Stand up" she ordered, I liked the way this was going, I guess it was appealing to my submissive side and I just LOVE it when a woman takes control of a situation like this. "Take off your shirt.", I obliged, "Shoes..........(and socks obviously but socks are just SO unsexy)........Trousers", as I stepped out of them she pointed at my boxer shorts which were doing a very poor job of concealing my now rock hard cock, "Leave them on. I'll decide when that comes out. Now sit down"

    I had the feeling that she'd been wanting to act this role for years and just never had the chance. Now she had she was going to do it exactly how she wanted. could I complain??????

    She walked towards me, turned around so I had her perfectly formed arse in front of my face and bent forward double, I could have just dived in and started munching on her gorgeous pussy right there and then! Instead she pulled her cheeks apart revealing a delightful little bum hole and said "You are going to fuck that. But not until I say you're ready. Understood? Now lie down"

    From under the bed she pulled out a large, huge in fact, wooden trunk and pulled out a set of cuffs. I'm very open minded but I really don't like that, so I told her. "Fine, no probs. But you will use them on me later"

    I looked in the box and I ain't joking, it looked like she'd ram raided Love Honey's warehouse! All manner of things in there! Excellent.

    She then slowly slid down my shorts dragging a very sharp finger nail down each thigh as she did so which sent wonderful shivers up my spine. As my, now aching, cock sprang free her eyes widened in anticipation. Remember, this was both of us about to live out a fantasy.

    As she knelt on the bed, her pert bum alongside my head I went to stroke it, to touch it to feel that apparently perfect unblemished skin, she slapped my hand away. "No touching. Yet", guess that's why she wanted the cuffs? For the next few minutes she just knelt there running a fingernail up and down my cock, from the base of my balls to the tip, not saying a word, just looking at it, stroking it. AS she took the head into her mouth she started swirling her tongue round the base of it which I find INCREDIBLY horny before she went further down and took as much of me in her mouth as she could. As she came up she just said "Hmmm. that's going to feel great. Yup"

    She reached into the box again and came out with strap on harness with a fair old sized cock on it and a pump of some expensively packaged lube. Oh my god, it's actually going to happen! I didn't know whether that was going to be too big for me to handle to be honest as I've only played with pretty small plugs before. She seemed to sense my anxiety as she donned the harness, "Don't worry, I've had this one up my bum before, I'm sure you'll be just fine." Gulp.

    Now I'd always assumed I'd adopt the 'hands and knees' position for this but instead, she kept me lying on my back, grabbed one of the pillows and shoved it under my bum raising my pelvis up nice and high. Makes sense really.

    again, she reached into the box and pulled out one shiny pvc elbow length glove and slipped it onto her right hand, which I was pleased about as her nails could have caused some nasty damage up 'there', positioning herself in between my legs she pumped a good dollop of lube onto her forefinger and started rubbing it around my arsehole before sliding it it nice and gently and slowly. Fuck me that felt good. She started to massage around, loosening me up. I reached down to my cock but again, my hand was slapped away, ok I get the hint. This was going to be tough!

    after a couple of minutes of massaging one finger, another little dollop on the second finger and that slipped it's way inside me too. This was getting pretty intense. Those two probably weren't much different in size to the plug I'd recently bought so was finding it fine at the time, VERY intense but not in the least bit uncomfortable. I really thought I was going to just explode but somehow, somehow I held it back which just intensified the feelings. In fact I'm pretty sure that I had orgasmed, just not ejaculated. she saw my predicament and with her left hand gripped firmly round the base of my knob as she kept working the two fingers around my now very slippery hole.

    She looked me in the eye with a wicked, and oh so sexy, glint, "Ready? I think you are."

    OK, moment of truth, just what the hell was it going to feel like???? As she smeared a liberal amount of lube over the plastic cock I started to sweat! "Now or never" I said. AS the tip pushed against my hole I instinctively clenched but then immediately relaxed again, the top slowly pushed its way into me, it felt too big......just relax. When the whole, very realistically shaped, knob eased it's way into me I pressed a hand to her thigh, just to hold her back a sec to let me get used to this strange, wonderful, sensation. As I eased off she slowly, ever so gently pushed a little further, then slowly withdrew until again the knob part was just inside me. Again, slowly, but more dertermindly she eased forward again, getting a little bit more in than before, and again, pull back. My head was spinning! Not just at the sensation but the realisation that I was ACTUALLY living out a long standing fantasy, with a beautiful, adventurous, incredibly sexy woman with a body to die for!

    AS if reading my mind she slowly built up a steady rythym and started to properly fuck me, oh my fucking god, this was simply ASTONISHING! Then she started the filthy talk which is a massive turn on for me "I'm going to fuck you good and proper you slut" (me? A slut???), "I'm gonna fuck you till you can't take anymore, then I'm going to swallow every last drop of your cum". After just a few minutes of getting a good pounding I really was fit to burst! She just grabbed my cock again and squeezed, HARD! My god I nearly passed out!

    she slowed the pace down a little as she really got into the fact that she too was living out a fantasy and wanted to watch herself and what she was doing. Fucking hell this was a moment! I was now DESPERATE to come! She could see this and in one fluid movement, she quickly pulled out dropped her head onto my cock just as I exploded! Without doubt THE most intense orgasm I have ever, or AM ever likely to experience! My whole body was literally shaking from it. My arse felt like it was pulsing and my cock was just tingling beautifully as she sucked me dry. An amazing feeling!

    She looked up at me, made an exaggerated gulp then seductively liked her lips, she undid the harness and discarded the plastic cock on the floor, then crawled up the bed and kissed me full on. Not something that I've ever particularly enjoyed after coming in a womans mouth but I was at the mercy of this incredible woman.

    And it was nowhere near over yet!

    AS she knelt beside me, she grabbed my hand to her pussy which was absolutely soaking! she allowed a finger to slip inside her before removing my hand, putting it up to my own mouth and making me taste her. Is there a better taste in life? I think not.

    "Sit up and go and sit at that end of the bed," she instructed, the dominating attitude returning again, "now you watch"

    Again she delved into her box of toys and pulled out a rabbit and a beautiful glass dildo. Not one i've seen on LH but it was as good as a Lalique sculpture!

    AS she reclined on the bed, her beautiful legs spreading, she turned on the rabbit, the quiet buzzing breaking up the only noise of both of us breathing deeply. She pressed it against her clit, closed her eyes and just held it there. Just minutes after orgasm I could feel myself getting hard again, watching a woman play with herself has always turned me on. She held the rabbit in place, her breathing becoming deeper, and slower and picked up the glass toy without even looking for it.

    She rubbed it up and down her perfect lips a couple of times, coating it in her juices and then it slipped, rather glided, effortlessly into her pussy, she kept it deep inside her and I could see her muscles contracting around it and squeezing it, all the while the old rabbit buzzing away at her clit.

    It took no more than a minute of this and she screamed out a fabulous orgasm! her breath coming now in short sharp bursts, eyes closed, enjoying. "fucking you like that turned me on so much, I probably didn't even need the toys. Now come here and lick my clit" She again, had that glint in her eye as the big glass toy slipped from her soaking pussy. she raised it to her mouth and slowly licked it's entire length.

    I leant forward and buried my face savouring the heady aroma of her orgasm. I dabbed at her clit, visibly throbbing, with the tip of my tongue, she flinched, grabbed my head firmly and held me there. "MORE. MORE" she ordered in a really sexy, gutteral, almost animalistic voice. A few more strokes of my tongue and she was at it again as another orgasm ripped through her. She really was something else!

    She eased off for a few minutes, getting her breath back as i softly stroked the inside of her thighs with my fingertip.

    Once she had calmed down the orders started again. "Get a condom on now and fuck me. I need to have you inside me"

    AS I reached down to get one from my wallet, I used to be a cub scout so always prepared, she rolled onto her front and pushed her perfect arse into the air, god I love that sight! I slipped it on and bent my head down to lick her pussy, one nice long stroke up to her tiny puckered hole. I knelt up and she reached behind her to take hold of my cock as she guided me inside her soaking cunt. within three strokes I was all the way inside her and I could feel her gripping me in the same way she had gripped the glass toy. As I slid in and out of her she was building up to yet another orgasm as one hand played with her clit. BANG, it was there again! "Don't stop, don't you DARE fucking stop!" she barked "HARDER. MORE". Insatiable.

    Again, as she calmed we were fucking sweetly, a beautiful rythym as I held her hips and we rocked back and forth. she sucked on one finger "spread by bum cheeks", she then reached behind her again and worked a finger round her tiny hole before slipping it inside up to the first knuckle. "You're going to need to do some work so you can get that cock in there. So get to it. NOW"

    I reached behind for the tube of lube and pumped some onto her her hole, working my finger around the edge before slipping inside, just as she had done to me, soon followed by another, then for good measure a third. I worked at it whilst still deep in her pussy, removed my fingers and coated the glass toy which I then gently slid into her bum. slowly back and forth once more working on her tight butt.

    she turned to me, "Do me. Fuck my arse now like I fucked yours"

    I positioned my cock at the edge of her arse and used yet more lube (well she was gentle with me, had to return the favour) and my cock nudged into her "FUCK ME THAT FEELS HUGE!!!!" she yelled out, "you have gotta go REAL slow, that thing's a fucking monster in my arse!"

    After some real slow manouvering she had nearly my whole cock inside her bum, and she was loving it! As she had done to me I picked up the pace once she had got used to me inside her and she then really got into it! humping back on me letting her do the work so she could decide how much and when.

    I slipped a finger back in her pussy and massaged the back wall, i could feel my cock in her bum through the wall of her pussy. This drove her completely over the brink and she screamed out loud that she was coming again, her whole body tensed, her arse muscles clamped rigidly around my cock, she buried her head in the pillow as she shook to her orgasm. At the same time I couldn't hold back anymore and came whilst completely embedded inside her.

    We both collapsed onto the bed. She kept me inside until my erection subsided and I slowly eased out of her and lay next to her.

    "Thank you" she said " I needed that"

    "I think we both did"

    That little session had taken up 4 hours. Four of the most memorable hours in my life, hence why I can remember all the details, all the words, the sensations. As anyone here who has lived out their fantasies, you forget very little.

    We then shared a bath and washed each other all over, prepared some supper, ate, and returned to the bedroom where the night was spent fucking, not making love, good old fucking.

    Saw a side to her that i never knew existed, we both indulged ourselves and thoroughly enjoyed it.

    Neither of us want a relationship but what a girl to have as a fuck buddy!

    Hope you enjoy my recollection of a truly brilliant afternoon.

    And guys, if you're in ANY doubt about trying it out, DO IT! Just give it a go!

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    Lubyanka [sign in to see picture]
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    Should this have gone in the Erotic Fiction section?

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