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  1. Honeymoon gifts for a pair of shy virgins?

    Nexi [sign in to see picture]
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    My friend is getting married in March and both she and her husband are virgins (she's 32 and he's 33). They're both very shy and she expressed concern to me that she didn't really know how the wedding night would... pan out. Like me, she has some body insecurities and is a pear shaped UK16.

    My girl friends and I are thinking of putting together a little honeymoon care package with little things to gently get their wedding night started. Any suggestions?

    I'm thinking of a sweet and flattering piece of lingerie, a little sex game (like one of the Lovehoney Oh! ones, although I'm not sure which is good) and *maybe* a toy? I'm not sure about the toy. And maybe a bottle of massage oil.

    I haven't been on Lovehoney for about a year and am a little unfamiliar with the new products. So, all product recommendations would be greatly appreciated!

    kelly_michelle [sign in to see picture]
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    What about something like this https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=35346 ? I have it in three of the four colours and love it (although the Ivory is being discontinued and isn’t available in the plus size). It’s really comfortable to sleep in, easy to put on and sexy in a subtle way.

    Maybe coupled with a robe? (Or as an alternative) Lovehoney have either silky ones or lacy ones in red, white or black. Again, they are sexy in a subtle way (particularly the silky ones).

    I’d also recommend checking out the 3 for £15 deal. There is a lot of massage products on there (if you go for a massage candle, add a lighter to the gift package unless they smoke), as well as the Lovehoney games. I’d probably suggest the foreplay dice https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=31306 as they are instructional enough to get the ball rolling without being intimidating or causing too much “am I doing it right” anxiety.

    I’m not sure if a toy is a good idea or not. Might be too much pressure for the first time? That being said, if you do decide to include one, keep it small and simple like a bullet or a finger vibrator.

    You suggested massage oil (good idea), but maybe also some lube as well? If you go for a lickable massage product (and/or the chocolate body paint which is also on the 3 for £15), keep the lube plain but if you don’t go for anything lickable, maybe go for a flavoured lube.

    Senator [sign in to see picture]
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    +1 for the no toy thing. They are shy and most likely both pretty insecure about what will happen, even the act of being naked in someone else's presence will be a leap of faith.

    Does your friend have any experience whatsoever with the male anatomy?

    Have you spoken about what sex is like (ie its normal to take a while to get used to each other's bodies, how it might not blow her socks off the first time etc) a real "nitty gritty" of sex?

    Lube, massage oil, lingerie, scented candles all will help them relax and get used to each other's bodies without the pressure of sex, nature will help take care of the rest

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    Hey Nexi

    What a wonderful and thoughtful idea! I have just purchased this massage bar, it may be an easier option for them than a bottle of oil - it melts pretty quickly with body heat and feels lovely rolled over the body. https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=38384

    A sexy baby doll nighty for her? This looks lovely - plus take advantage of the £20 sexy lingerie weekend! https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=17454 and maybe something for him too? https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=36012

    Don't forget lube...and maybe explain to her beforehand that even with natural wetness down there...lube still improves things very much! This is my fav https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15951 or this if you wanted something a little less pricey https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=31583 - you even get a Bon bullet vibe for just £2 with lube purchases... it may be too soon for a toy, but you could 'throw' it in with a jokey note saying something like "start as you mean to go on!" lol

    and condoms... if they need them!

    ChloJakes [sign in to see picture]
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    This is a really nice idea and very thoughtful!

    Pretty much agree with everything that's above :)

    Massage oil is a simple winner, lube and some simple sexy lingerie! I have to agree to the no toys. I think it might just be too much for their first night.

    The lovehoney dice are also a good shout for a little intro!

    Nexi [sign in to see picture]
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    Some really awesome advice, thanks, you guys! I think I'll skip the vibrator this time (although if I do get her lube, I might just pocket that bullet for myself, here).

    I'll pick up some massage oil and lube for her (and treat the husband to a bottle of massage oil as well, he's been a doll :p). And maybe a baby doll, I haven't decided on which yet though.

    I'm thinking of getting one of the following games (as a kind of ice breaker for them :p)




    But I can't decide on which one yet. I'll have a closer look.

    @Senator: She doesn't like talking too explicitly about sex, so we've never discussed all that. The only thing I know is that his will be the first penis she sees in person (don't know if she watches porn) and that she's nervous about that, and sex in general.

    They won't be needing condoms, I'd think. They both want as many kids as possible, as soon as possible. xD

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    NatandTom [sign in to see picture]
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    ChloJakes wrote:


    This one gets my vote!

    I second this, it’s the most beginner friendly option I think. Games with kink in the title may be a bit intimidating for complete sex newbies!

    Also agree with the rest of the posts above. I wouldn’t get a toy for now. A good quality, vagina-friendly lube is a must have though and massage products will definitely go down well.

    If you’re not sure what specific pieces of lingerie she’d feel most comfortable in then I don’t think you can go wrong with a nice robe - either satin or lace :)

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    I love all NatandTom's suggestions. The Flaunt Me robe is my favourite https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sexy-lingerie/lingerie-sets/robes-kimonos/

    I also think the sex cheques are quite cute https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=31225

    I bought a relative some Jimmyjane candles. I think these are very stylish and not overtly sexy https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/brands/jimmyjane/

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    I’d suggest a book to teach them about their anatomy and how to please each other, but they’ll need it before the honeymoon.

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    For first timers, I would suggest taking turns with a blindfold. Spin a coin for first go.

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