1. Thoughts on large sex toys for significant other

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    BigE358 [sign in to see picture]
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    Wanted some feedback. I just ordered a large 9” long 7” circumference dildo for my wife. I am above average in size, but would really get turned on seeing my wife take something a bit bigger. I was wondering if A.) do you think she will enjoy it? And B.) May she enjoy it too much and not enjoy me as much after. It was my idea and showed her what I purchased and I couldn’t read her response when I asked her if she’s excited she said she will be excited when it gets here.

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    NatandTom [sign in to see picture]
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    A) That depends. She might, she might not. I don't know her so I couldn't answer for her. I would say that she wouldn't enjoy something that's much larger than you as it will probably be uncomfortable and maybe even painful for her. I wouldn't increase girth by more than 0.5 inches at a time.

    It might be a turn on for you to see her take something bigger than you but how do you know it will be something she wants to explore? Her response is hard to read without looking at body language. It might sound fine to her in theory but be a complete turn off once it arrives, she might be fine with it after lots of warm-up with you and a good coating of lubricant or she might say she's excited because she doesn't want to disappoint you. I would have shopped with her so she could have made the decisions about shape, dimensions and material herself. After all, she knows better than anyone what her preferences and capabilities are.

    B) This is a common misconception. Penises and sex toys are not even comparable in my opinion. They feel completely different. Some insertables may feel better than others but this is generally due to technique rather than size :-)

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    BigE358 [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks for the response. We have been experimenting with new toys and she wanted me to get a fleshlight to enjoy while I watch her use the rabbit vibrator she has. But we have been trying so many new things lately I thought it would spice it up even more with something a little larger than myself.

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    KingGrthy [sign in to see picture]
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    What did you buy?

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    OddThomas [sign in to see picture]
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    We have https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32792 which is about the maximum girth that my wife can manage inserted vaginally and that's after a very good warmup so 7 inches would be a stretch too far. 5 to 6 inches deep is also about as far as she is comfortable with. We are looking for the next toy now that needs to slightly bigger in girth but under 6 inches long so we can continue our play working towards her being able to eventually take an entire fist in her vagina.

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    BigE358 [sign in to see picture]
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    I bought a king cock 9.5 inch girthy realistic dildo.

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    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=34688

    Do you mean this? I have this, it is huge, good luck, if she can take this she will be close to able to take your hand.

    My lady describes it as a “rediculous” dildo.

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    BigE358 [sign in to see picture]
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    Yes i did mean that toy. The biggest thing she has had inside her so far besides giving birth is my penis. Do you think with foreplay and a lot of lube she will enjoy this?

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    Hi,

    Wow, you've jumped in at the deep end ... but it might be a turn on for her too, i'd advise take it slow and easy.

    We some time ago got this https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=31081 which seems to be comparable in length but the girth might be a bit more manageable. The OH certainly enjoyed it as did I in "giving" it to her but has always maintained its different and certainly doesn't opt for it all the time perferring the "real thing" more often than not.

    Have lots of fun, and get lots of lube :)

    Al

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    KingGrthy [sign in to see picture]
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    I don’t think she’s gonna go from your penis to that without some work. Your likely to need something in between unless your very large, but you’ll see what I mean soon enough lol.

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    BigE358 wrote:

    Yes i did mean that toy. The biggest thing she has had inside her so far besides giving birth is my penis. Do you think with foreplay and a lot of lube she will enjoy this?

    I think she will need to use something between your size and this one first. It seems like quite a large jump to make and could cause discomfort.

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    In all honesty I'd put that particular dildo on hold until you've tried something in between your own man bits and it. See how you both feel once it arrives but it is a pretty large toy.

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    To be honest, it is very hard to answer that.

    A) We do not know anything about your wife and it is really not possible to answer it. Some women like it, some dont. I for once am very tight and even getting average sized man inside me is tricky, so I doubt I would be able to accomodate it and enjoy it. But your wife may be different. How would we know?

    B) Again, hard to say yes or no. Sex is more than just insertion and for me no dildo matches the feel of man inside me, so I would still prefer a guy to a toy, but i guess some women love big toys and may struggle with average sized guy afterwards.I would say most women would prefer the guy, but i guess exceptions may exist.

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    Get her a strapon harness too. Then you might be able to empathise if it is too big!

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    BigE358 [sign in to see picture]
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    Well I am 7.5 inches in length and 5.5 in girth. Is that still big of a jump?

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    Yes

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    NatandTom [sign in to see picture]
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    Definitely, there’s a big difference between 5.5 inches and 8 inches in circumference.

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    BigE358 [sign in to see picture]
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    Sorry, my mistake the dildo I purchased is 9 inches in length and 6.5 inch in girth. Not 8 inches in girth.

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    BigE358 [sign in to see picture]
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    So is an inch increase in girth too big of a jump or should she be fine.

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    Oh that is much more reasonable.

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