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  1. Anal newbies

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    JGHunter [sign in to see picture]
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    I bet that's a term that doesn't occur often outside fora like these.

    Basically, a few months ago LH (lady Hunter) and I tried anal for the first time over the course of a few nights. LH had always been against it but then got curious and after much angst about how she thought I would perceive it, came out with it one evening that she was interested. So, we tried and I think she actually enjoyed it more than I did. Anyway I've been thinking I might get her something to play with herself (after all, there are always two other places going unused!) so I'm looking into "beginner range" toys suitable her to use during regular sex for double pleasure. Where would you recommend starting?

    much appreciated! JH

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    SquirtyPanda [sign in to see picture]
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    Hello

    Has she tried butt plugs? butt plugs during sex is brilliant. Here are some beginner butt plugs

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/butt-plugs/beginners-butt-plugs/

    Just a tip - mostly people say plugs with a narrow neck are less likely to be 'pushed out' come orgasm (happens to me personally) so something like this

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=35726

    small circumference, narrow neck, pretty interchangable gems.

    Also these look like lots of fun too

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32991

    Lots of toys you can experiment with, also dont forget to take advantage of LHs return policy (up to 1 year refund) if toys dont work out for you. good luck!

    🐼

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    Terri JJ [sign in to see picture]
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    Here's a few ideas......

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=28501 (I have this in the large size and its great and really comfy)

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=31111 (this is so pretty and fairly small))

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=35663 (this is a great set. You can gradually work your way up the sizes and its super comfy)

    I have this which I love....https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14535

    Glass is also lovely as you can use it warmed up or straight from the fridge (my favourite)

    This is also great fun...

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=35791

    Hope this is has given you some ideas xx

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    JGHunter [sign in to see picture]
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    Much appreciated both of you! No she has never had butt plugs. Our try with anal sex was the first time anything had been in there as far as i was aware (maybe she wasn't comfortable saying she had already played, I don't know, she usually tells me that sort of thing). I will compare and have a think.

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    JGHunter [sign in to see picture]
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    Also these look like lots of fun too

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32991

    Yes it does! Looks like I'd get something out of it too!

    Glass is also lovely as you can use it warmed up or straight from the fridge (my favourite)

    As we currently live with my parents (not much longer hopefully, god), leaving it in the fridge long enough is a toss up between difficult and awkward haha.

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    Tiger Dick [sign in to see picture]
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    JGHunter wrote:

    Also these look like lots of fun too

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32991

    Yes it does! Looks like I'd get something out of it too!

    Glass is also lovely as you can use it warmed up or straight from the fridge (my favourite)

    As we currently live with my parents (not much longer hopefully, god), leaving it in the fridge long enough is a toss up between difficult and awkward haha.

    Get a freezer block and wrap them together in a towel for an hour or two, will easily get cold enough in that time

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    Penny26 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hello, yes I agree glass is much better than silicone due to the temperature play, and I find I need less lube with glass.

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    JGHunter [sign in to see picture]
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    Much appreciated! Doesn't a cold dildo make your muscles contract to the point of impenetrability though?

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    Terri JJ [sign in to see picture]
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    JGHunter wrote:

    Much appreciated! Doesn't a cold dildo make your muscles contract to the point of impenetrability though?

    Not if you're really turned on and well lubricated first xx

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    *sexybabe* [sign in to see picture]
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    I want to try butt plugs, I've found one on here which is suitable for beginners as it's tiny. But I like the idea of a glass one (also because I hear it doesn't carry any smells) so I might try one of the glass jewelled ones recommended above!

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    JGHunter [sign in to see picture]
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    Ah fair enough Terri. Thanks.

    Yeah I imagine glass is good for not being "odour stained". Hmm!

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    adamalx [sign in to see picture]
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    I always find it unusual how in straight couples the majority of the time it seems to be only the woman who's encouraged into anal play, especially since men are literally built for it! If she's exploring new things then why don't you try them out with her? Especially if it's new territory for her, there's plenty for you both to try together <3

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    Funlover69 [sign in to see picture]
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    I agree Adamalx,Men who shy away from it miss out on prostate play and the thrilliing sensations it offers.

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    Godxeon [sign in to see picture]
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    Not sure I agree with the 'built for it' term however I have to agree with the his/hers sensation being suggested. I do feel you need to try it out yourself also to get used to the sensations and to anticipate what she might enjoy. There is a time for slow and gentle and a time for hard and fast. Also dont forget the use of condoms over toys/yourself also allows the possibility of exchanges across orifices too. The key is always to TALK. Sounds simple I know but it really is the best aphrodisiac after all. Good luck and play safe ;-)

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    adamalx [sign in to see picture]
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    Godxeon wrote:

    Not sure I agree with the 'built for it' term however I have to agree with the his/hers sensation being suggested. I do feel you need to try it out yourself also to get used to the sensations and to anticipate what she might enjoy. There is a time for slow and gentle and a time for hard and fast. Also dont forget the use of condoms over toys/yourself also allows the possibility of exchanges across orifices too. The key is always to TALK. Sounds simple I know but it really is the best aphrodisiac after all. Good luck and play safe ;-)

    Men literally have the benefit of the prostate over women (in cis-gender terms) so they are ideally more prepared for anal play, and more inclined to receive the benefits, so yes we are built for it. The only thing holding us back is out-dated gender pereceptions.

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    Kaiser [sign in to see picture]
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    I started with this https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=16479 I'm quite the novice with anal toys.

    These are good too: https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30575

    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=29600

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    JGHunter [sign in to see picture]
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    Adam as the prostate has nothing to do with the lower intestine other than being close to it I'm not sure I agree with being built in either. It's just fortunate it's nearby and not all men derive pleasure from it.

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    NaughtyNerd [sign in to see picture]
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    Definitely recommend a small butt plug.

    I first tried anal with my OH but got the below cheap items for when I was playing on my own. The plug is silicone but it is a great starter and a little more forgiving when trying to insert whilst you're getting used to it. To be fair the plug does pop out when I orgasm but that's a really good feeling.
    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=16053
    https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=23981

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    NaughtyNerd [sign in to see picture]
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    Also, some of my glass and steel plugs live in the freezer but if you want to cool them discretely then a glass/cup with water and ice will do the trick

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    JGHunter [sign in to see picture]
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    Cheers for the tips NN :)

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