• Toy material preference completely changed after toy abstinence?

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    VirginAngel [sign in to see picture]
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    Only began masturbating about 3 and a half years ago. Stopped 18 months ago after the break up of my long term relationship.
    Previously my preference was for glass toys as they were easy clean, and easy enough to insert as i only use toys in the shower and so lube wasn't an option.
    Being a virgin i can't use even "standard" girths of softer toys and glass is typically more slender.
    However, after my abstinence, i had a few sexual dreams in the past few weeks, in which i masturbate, but it's penetration only no clitoral stimulation. I know my mind doesn't know the difference between the two, but it made me curious about vaginal rather than clitoral orgasms.
    The problem i'm facing in trying to explore a vaginal orgasm is that glass is too hard and rigid and rather than being pleasurable, it just hurts. It's made me realise, that all these glass toys ever really did was add a full feeling, i've never actually "used" them in the sense of anything other than fully inserting and leaving it there, and that actually hinders rather than aids my clitoral orgasms.
    I own 6 or 7 glass toys that now just seem useless. Is it usual for your preference of how to use toys and the type of toy to completely change like this? I don't want to throw them out (and replacing with jelly style toys isn't an option money wise atm anyway) just to find softer materials doesn't fulfil what i'm looking for and my preference to change back again.

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    NaughtyNerd [sign in to see picture]
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    Think your toy preference changes with you body and mind. If you are a Virginal and haven't used toy in a while you will need to work back up from something smaller and softer. Make sure you're relaxed too.

    Definitely don't throw them though. It's highly likely you'll be able to work back up to them as long as there is no medical reason behind the pain.

    Glass toys really are fabulous so good luck.

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    NatandTom [sign in to see picture]
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    I wouldn't get rid of them, as your preferences can change depending on your mood, how often you're being sexually active and masturbating, how aroused you were, the lube you were using etc.

    I would look into a small silicone dildo like the Tantus Silk medium as it's really quite flexible and the measurements are minimalistic.

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    Just Jenson [sign in to see picture]
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    Definitely don't throw them out! My preference changes as time goes on, but nothing to rule out that they may change back again

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    EleanorGoneWild [sign in to see picture]
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    Don't throw!!! I had a dildo before - the first I ever bought when I was a virgin, and it was miles too big so I threw it away. Regret it now, as I have later found a partner and have had to re-buy bigger dildos and virbrators to satisfy my new needs :O

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    cobra1987 [sign in to see picture]
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    Don't through them away as they are good in the feature. Mebe buy rabbit or alternative toy that can simulate coitus and gspot and can be used to penetrate you. Keep your current toy and try to build up from there and use plenty of lube. Never through any sex toy away as they will come handy in future. I hope this helps if not then I am sorry.

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    Vanessa8 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hun I am not a big thruster with glass either due to the unfogiving surface. I think it is probably normal your tastes evolve and change... I would not BIN them at this point but it ok to try different things to see what works better for you!

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