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    Alicia D'amore [sign in to see picture]
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    I must say we don't use WandA's together enough! But it is fun for play together - I like sucking his balls whilst using it on him or him using it himself. It's also nice to take the stress off my joints.

    Only downside is all the cleaniing required.

    Adx

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    I purchased a super stroker and a tenga egg for my fella last christmas as stocking fillers as i have loads of toys (as the majority of you know from my blog and pics lol) and since then ive purchased him another egg and 5/6 other strokers just for variation including the new stroker from tracey cox for his stocking this year. I use them on him, usually tie him up with the under bed restraints and blindfold him and combine a toy with oral and sex. Seems to do the job nicely x

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    sxe_couple21 [sign in to see picture]
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    They're not 'that' cheap if you consider they're disposable but I can completely understand being on a budget. The head honcho seems to be the exception to the cheap sleeves rule but I can't comment specifically.

    I can't really relate to the banning porn etc. aspects as its so different to the situation I'm in so I think I'm fairly useless from hereon, sorry.

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    Pixieking [sign in to see picture]
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    Personally, if I bought a tenga egg (which is tempting) i'd use it as many times as I could before it fell to pieces. The reviews seem to indicate that if you look after it it'l last a good while.

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    Just realized also that there would be nothing stopping a woman buying one, turning it insides out and using it as a clit stimultor. Hmm, interesting idea.

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    WandA wrote:

    sxe_couple21 wrote:

    Simply avoid the cheap sleeves.

    SOOOOO this!

    Great thing for couples to do... Some oral loving on the testicles while using them, yum!

    Or using one while giving, very enjoyable.

    I wouldnt say always avoid the cheap sleeves. While I can't speak for all of them, I bought my OH a Flip Hole and a Tracey Cox stroker, and he likes the TC one so much he barely uses his Tenga. Of course, reviews are important, wouldnt buy a cheap sleeve if it didnt have great reviews.

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    I've had the TC one (pink one), thought it was average at best, and it doesn't even compare to things like my Fleshlight Jenna Haze Forbidden.

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    Haven't used them together...yet! May be able to tell you more this weekend. Just received the new TC stroker and had a solo play. It has good and bad points, and I get the feeling that something like a fleshlight might be better.

    Trouble is, Mrs M is totally against fleshlights. They creep her out (and to be honest, make me feel a little weird too) and she refuses to buy one. She's even mentioned the Tenga Flip as being OK, but said that a Fleshlight is off the cards.

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    Pixieking [sign in to see picture]
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    Even the stealth models? http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=1825

    I can understand how the other ones could be creepy. Especially the live molded ones. =S

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    Mr Monster wrote:

    Haven't used them together...yet! May be able to tell you more this weekend. Just received the new TC stroker and had a solo play. It has good and bad points, and I get the feeling that something like a fleshlight might be better.

    Trouble is, Mrs M is totally against fleshlights. They creep her out (and to be honest, make me feel a little weird too) and she refuses to buy one. She's even mentioned the Tenga Flip as being OK, but said that a Fleshlight is off the cards.

    Hey Monster, have you considered the non-lady-bits Fleshlights? I really didn't like the look of the ones modelled on females, and my Husband wasn't keen either. We opted for the Succu Dry one with a mouth opening, but there are the 'Discreet' versions with just a slit for entry.

    I wasn't sure if a Fleshlight would be worth the money, but the softness of the material is amazing - wish I had the necessary bits to try it out!

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    And there are several inner textures available in that design...

    MrsP x

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    AA, I got myself a tenga egg the other day, and its pretty good actually. No reason why it can't be cleaned properly and put away again to use another day.

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    toycar69 wrote:

    AA, I got myself a tenga egg the other day, and its pretty good actually. No reason why it can't be cleaned properly and put away again to use another day.

    very true! i've had a few and they lasted aaages without any trouble! as long as you clean them well and don't go mad with the stretching they are fine!

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    LoveHoney - Hella Rouge wrote:

    I'm writing up a piece on male sex toys at the moment and wanted to *bump* this thread. I'm disappointed that there aren't already more replies :(

    Please share your first time experiences with using male sex toys in a couples environment, the internet needs more of this kind of stuff! Doing research on male sex toys in relationships has been like looking for a pussy in a cock stack. x

    Hi, technically speaking my experience was with a unisex toy, but for what it's worth, here it is.

    Several years ago I was seeing a wonderful gf who was very open minded and we both enjoyed trying new things together. I bought my first sex toy with a view to enhancing our adventures; a semi-rigid set of vibrating beads (the anavibe). I still have one, it's really versetile and gets plenty of use. Anyway, I tried it out on my own first, and was not dissappointed. So the next time she came over (and after a thorough cleaning) we spent a very enjoyable evening experimenting with me using it on her. I wished I had bought two so we could have used them for simultaneous mutual stimulation.

    Anyway, we both got a lot of enjoyment from it. Prior to this, my only experience with toys had been a previous gf who used to penetrate me anally with various discarded items from her own large collection of vaginal toys. That was also great fun, but it's definitely better to use the right toy for the job.

    :)

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    Mr Monster wrote:

    Haven't used them together...yet! May be able to tell you more this weekend. Just received the new TC stroker and had a solo play. It has good and bad points, and I get the feeling that something like a fleshlight might be better.

    Trouble is, Mrs M is totally against fleshlights. They creep her out (and to be honest, make me feel a little weird too) and she refuses to buy one. She's even mentioned the Tenga Flip as being OK, but said that a Fleshlight is off the cards.

    I find the FLs a bit creepy sometimes but the anal ones look the least creepy to me.

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    LoveHoney - Hella Rouge wrote:

    Ahhhhhhhh! Wonderful stuff guys, thank you!

    Why do you think it is that we automatically reach for a female toy when we opt for couples toys? And why are guys less likely to spend money on sex toys themselves than women?

    I'm always genuinely surprised when a girlfriend tells me that she's never owned a vibrator (and of course, me being me...I buy them one!). Do you think it's because guys generally talk about sex less, as lads mags would have us believe that sex and football are pretty much the lads chat full array.

    I think because female toys vibrate they're a bit more inclusive, you can use them on both people. It's also generally a bit more difficult for ladies to cum, it can take the pressure off for her.

    Why are guys less likely to spend so much? Few reasons. Male toys are less inventive, they always feel pretty similar to each other as opposed to all the funky things lady toys do. This is why the Cobra Libre peaked my interest. For plenty of fellas it is still seen as a bit odd, something pervy men do.

    I talk a fair bit about sex with my mates so I'm not quite sure how far other fellas go but I guess men are often more likely to ridicule someone so it's avoided through fear!

    Perhaps it's best if a normal bloke answers this...

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    LoveHoney - Hella Rouge wrote:

    Ahhhhhhhh! Wonderful stuff guys, thank you!

    Why do you think it is that we automatically reach for a female toy when we opt for couples toys? And why are guys less likely to spend money on sex toys themselves than women?

    I'm always genuinely surprised when a girlfriend tells me that she's never owned a vibrator (and of course, me being me...I buy them one!). Do you think it's because guys generally talk about sex less, as lads mags would have us believe that sex and football are pretty much the lads chat full array.

    We play with his toys together, more than we play with my toys together.

    I personally don't think it's a case of men wanting to spend less, I just think there are less choice. I also think there's not much available in the £5-£10 range for men (that's worth having!), whereas us girls have Ladyfingers and bullets etc.

    Though we are quite open as a couple and honest and graphic in want we want/enjoy/think about, I don't have any friends that I'd talk to about sex or sex toys and I know my husband's the same. I guess that's where the OA fits in nicely!!!

    I know when we first talked about buying our first sex toys as a couple (my Husband knew I had a drawer full of them when I met him, but stupidly, rather than share them, I chucked them!) I think there was a fleeting moment when he thought 'Is what we're doing not good enough?' and it was never, ever about that, but as good as he is, there's only so many bits he can stimulate at once! In my opinion, I think that guys *might* see toys as a solution to a problem, rather than a tool for enhancing their/your sex life and taking things to another level and therefore maybe there's a bit of a stigma to it.

    I think the main reason though, for us at least, is affordability as a lot of the things Hubs is interested in are far more expensive when compared with the best selling products in my wishlist.

    Maybe I'm missing something, but I didn't think LH had that much selection in the £5-£10 price bracket for male solo play. I wouldn't rule out 'cheap' toys per say, in fact I'd be more likely to try cheaper toys because you've less to loose, but somehow splashing out £60 on one sex toy seems too extravagant for us.

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    Paddy89 [sign in to see picture]
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    I have a fleshlight which I bought a couple months back. I enjoy it and it's the only toy I have.

    Whilst I don't have a girlfriend, I really don't know why I'd use it with a partner. I can understand using vibrators and such as a couple since it's a different sensation. Fleshlights and the other strokers though - in my opinion - seem to be more of a (temporary!) replacement for a partner, rather than an addition.

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    I do think a Fleshlight is more of a solo toy because of the bulk of them and the fact you cannot see of feel what's going on inside, but some of the strokers that are soft and squidgy allow me to vary a handjob, whist still feeling like I'm holding him... Whilst my Husband says he prefers me to a toy, during the build up it seems to go down well to vary the textural experiences on his cock (ie some strokers are bumpy, some are ribbed etc) along with my tounge and fingers/hands, so they really can be used to great effect.

    Another element which no one has mentioned is that case of 'the more you do it, the more you want it'. My Husband gets up before me and I am dead to the world in the mornings. He's a morning guy, I'm an afternoon kinda girl. I see no problem with our collection of toys in the bathroom and if he chooses to play first thing to keep the embers burning whilst I'm snoring away, that's win-win in my opinion, because it's true that the more you do it, the more you want it. And same with me - I normally get some alone time in the afternoon's, so until he gets home and I can enjoy the real thing, I keep the embers burning my end too! Replacement = bad, Addition = great!

    So in that respect I think they're healthy in a relationship!

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