scarab9 wrote:
As above, whether you mention it is dependent on how she's going to take it .... but also on why you are telling her!
Without getting in the complexities of cheating (which this isn't) there's the arguement of "just because something needs to be said, doesn't mean it needs to be heard".
In this case I'd say that arguement is greater though. Fluffbags said "he gets told off in the mornings :D", and while that might be (I dunno...maybe you're vicious Fluffbags :-p) jokey I can certainly say one girl I went out with a few years back was really jealous and used to go in a bad mood with me for a day or two quite regularly because she'd dreamt I'd done something. You could really upset your partner by mentioning this.
I think the important bit to address though, is why do you feel guilty? If it's really just a dream while you're asleep and that's it then there's absolutely no reason to feel guilty. Dreams are complex and aren't as easily understood as we'd like, a dream doesn't even necessarily suggest you have an attraction to her mate (or whatever else you feel it makes you guilty of).
Next! Why should you feel guilty if you ARE attracted to her best friend? You're allowed to be! You're also allowed to be attracted to the lass who serves you coffee, the one who you work with, the stranger on the bus, hell the alluring shaped potplant in the office if it does it for you! If you're in a 'traditional' type of relationship you probably aren't allowed to hit on or fool around with the friend, but that stuff is a choice you make - attraction isn't, it's just chemistry. As long as it stays a dream/fantasy then you don't need to feel guilty.
Most definitely jokey! lol We do it to each other. I honestly cannot fathom in the slightest, why someone would ACTUALLY have a dream that their partner did something and then go in a real mood with them about it! What is this? Tell you what, if someone did that to me and actually made me feel bad because of a dream they had, i'd laugh in their face and say BU BYE THEN, because those people will not be suitable for me.
I mean, if you flip out at someone because of your own dreams, technically, what you are doing is making someone else feel rubbish, for something YOU did, which neither of you had any control over and if they are gunna get arsey about something like that, god help them when real problems hit! They just might have a meltdown lol.