Gentle giant wrote:
Oh fluffy, I love your posts and view, but aggie.w has only posted a hand full of times and she had posted a sexy avatar. There was nothing else to complement her on. This is a forum about sex and sexuality. Just because you hate chivalry not all do. You are obviously an educated and articulate lady who wants to be seen as sexy for who you are and not just your body, that's amazing but not everyone has that ability. Most people post here looking for help or other people's opinions. You are a great source of advice and knowledge and have made me think differently about some topics but just because I gave a simple complaint in no way means I am demeaning or seeking to belittle. I am sorry if this is a little strong in opinion and depth. However that is how your comment felt to me.
Posted as a forum friend who greatly values opinions and views.
I agree, it is a forum on sex and sexuality and from my perspective, I believe I was discussing sex and sexuality. The mind is our most POWERFUL sexual organ after all. Just like sexual procilivites, or sex acts that we all enjoy or want to take part in, there are certain sexual thoughts and beliefs and opinions of the mind too and these are a valid part, if not the most important part of sexuality and sex, to me anyway.
My comments regarding protecting women are my own feelings on the subject and that comment was actually not aimed at you. Having a different idea or a difference of opinion should not be taken as an insult. I don't like certain things and I say I don't like them...you do like them and as I always say with sex topics..."Your kink is not my kink" (or in other words, I don't like what you like) but that doesn't mean I judge you for it. Even if someone rubbed me up the wrong way entirely and were polar opposites of me and my views, I just don't socialise with them. We all gravitate towards people who project similar ideals.
Our opinions differ and we both have a right to our opinions, but please don't try to make out that you are here being the gallant gentleman and I am just scaring people away. You say this often to me when we disagree and that is as much an insult. Its like saying "I am here to protect all these innocent new people and your scaring them away" It's like raising yourself up to put someone else in the naughty corner.
Our opinions will never align. I believe everyone DOES have the ability to be seen for who they are and not just their body. Actually, everyone has the RIGHT to this. Everyone should be treated like this...ALWAYS.
I also stated that I hated chivalry but I was in the minority as most women like it. So we agree on that one and that makes little difference to anything after all.
I also said I understand totally that yours was aimed as a compliment and you said you understood by point of view too...so I have no idea why the sudden.....change. I can only imagine it was the comments about protecting women and I will hold my opinion on that.
I feel that this forum is a place to openly discuss our likes, dislikes and opinions and not all of us will agree on things, but differences are good and not meant as a personal attack. Hearing others differences is what makes us grow. I think.
I have strong opinions yes, but they are never written down as a personal attack. Throughout my comment I talked about "I" and "my" beliefs and opinions but I never said "you" (In the sense of blaming you, calling you disrespectful, attacking you as a person. Basically to insinuate I am butting in, putting off the new people with my opinions when we don't agree is like saying we do this your way or i'm just causing trouble...dont like that! This forum is supposed to be exactly as you said...a place for all differences to come together.
Im not commenting here anymore as I don't want to derail the thread, but if you wanna chat to me Greengiant, you can reach me through my profile. x