condom troubles ....

okay so me and my OH use protection obv >> but i find that sometimes it can kill the move..

when you getting going but then have to stop to put it on,, advice please on how to stop this happening and what to do if it happens again :) xx

Do you mean that he loses his erection?

It has happened to me a few times in the past. I find it helps if I wait until I am really very hard before trying (as opposed to trying to roll one on as soon as I get an erection)

Also you can help by keeping him turned on; I love it when my wife touches herself and tells me how much she wants it while I put a condom on, much better than just lying there with an impatient look on her face.

Also, have you tried or considered trying a cock ring?

no he still has an erection .... its just we have both agreed that somtimes it can kill the mood were we got so into it but then have to stop to put one on ...

we have tried cock ring and we love them !! but still doesnt really help the mood when he putting one on ... but i will try your tip about eye contact and sexcual touching as that sounds like a good idea ..

i mean i do that anyway but irl try to make it more get him to get involved whilst i put it on ... see if that helps xx

Well firstly I have one ready next to the bed, so there no having to go open the draw and get one.

Then as I'm opening it and putting it on my gf will continue to tease or play with my balls. Otherwise she might put it on, which is also sexy. Try getting the condom in your hand, going down on him then when your ready put it on him and try maintain eye contact as much as possible. If its a flavoured condom you could then continue to go down on him a bit more.

I guess to sum up try and involve putting it on with the foreplay.

Have you tried put them on him? So that it's something that's included in the foreplay. You can do it with your mouth but it's a bit tricky.

Or have you considered a different type of contraception? If he's a long term partner and you both have had a sexual health screen then you couple switch to a hormonal contraception which would not be a mood killer in the bedroom x

i found using condoms can kill the mood as well but as blonde vixen13 says using your mouth can be fun.

again as said another type of contracepton may be better if you are with one partner only and there are no health problems

yeah i put them on him somtimes BV13 and yes doing it with your mouth can be tricky haha ... i was on the injection but i didnt really agree with my body ...

is the pill any good ?? x

hi sexy lady20. pill advice may be behond me lol but my OH has used it for many years and found it to work well. hopefully some of the ladies can be of more help to you.

againstleon wrote:

Well firstly I have one ready next to the bed, so there no having to go open the draw and get one.

Forgot to mention I always do this too; I have it ready, open and the right way up, so as little time is wasted as possible. Nothing worse than having to root around in the drawer!

thanks james and Mitchelle :) xx

I was on the pill for many years. If you can trust yourself to take it everyday then it's a great contraception. It's also the most common one. The great thing about it is that if you are having any side effect the Gp can swap you straight onto a different type. Some people experience weight gain from the pill but I never experienced this.
All hormonal contraceptives can make you a little moody at the start whilst your body adjusts to the new hormones. I have had the coil inserted because I wanted a more permanent contraception after having children. Personally I wish I had stuck with the pill as I have had a lot of side effects from the coil.
You should speak to your nearest family planning clinic about the different options available. While you are there she will also give you some free condoms . So it's worry the visit lol

thanks hun .... think i may try that then ,, as i said not tried that i use to have the injection but i found it really didnt like my body xx

A lot of my friends put on weight with the injection. I personally never had it because there is a link to osteoporosis from long term injection use, so I wanted to avoid that.

If you do choose the pill there will still be times where conforms are required. If you have vomiting or diahorrea or are on an antibiotic. You just use condones for seven days because the pill may not have been absorbed properly in your system. But theft or nurse can explain all of that in better detail x

thanks sweetie a BIG help :D XX

sexylady20 wrote:

thanks james and Mitchelle :) xx

Hi James and Mitchelle , If you leave the condom open and ready is this okay, or does it dry up? As I hate opening them and figuring the right way around, such a pain has killed my erection completely once or twice it's that much of a mood Sorry for the high jack sexylady20

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Topcat07 wrote:

sexylady20 wrote:

thanks james and Mitchelle :) xx

Hi James and Mitchelle , If you leave the condom open and ready is this okay, or does it dry up? As I hate opening them and figuring the right way around, such a pain has killed my erection completely once or twice it's that much of a mood Sorry for the high jack sexylady20

Checking if it's the right way up is quick and easy, just take it out of the wrapper and sit it on the palm of your hand. If it looks like a little sombrero hat it's the right way up.

Me and my OH have had this issue a couple of times and even did the silly thing of going in unprotected, which led to me needing to get the morning after pill.

Wasn't worth the risk and since then we've tried to come up with new ways of keeping it going whilst we get a condom or whilst he puts it on.

As people have said, have one ready on the side so there's no faffing about and whilst he's putting it on kiss him all over! Face, neck, chest, stomach etc. Maybe you could have some solo fun whilst he watches you as he's putting the condom on?

Me and my OH still live with our parents so we have to keep our condoms hidden away for obvious reasons, so when we're at mine whilst I bend over to get a condom it means he can play with me whilst I'm grabbing one and I do the same at his house. Never a bad thing, eh? ;)

Maybe you could both try talking dirty to each other? Like about what you're thinking of, would like to do after he's put the condom on and maybe even discuss new things to try?

If you both like watching porn together stick some on whilst he pops the condom on and then turn off when he's done?

These are just some ideas me and my OH tend to use, as well as some I just came up with. :)

sexylady20 wrote:

thanks hun .... think i may try that then ,, as i said not tried that i use to have the injection but i found it really didnt like my body xx

There are loads of different contraception methods to try if the injection didn't work for you!

http://www.fpa.org.uk/contraception-help/my-contraception-tool

The above is a really useful tool which can help you asses which method can suit you best. Most GUM clinics/ GP's also offer an 'options' service which allows you to go in and discuss changing contraception method with a specially trained family planning nurse too. Worth exploring :)

The pill is great if you remember to take it at the same time every day. It doesn't suit everyone because you have to be regualr with it.

I think its worth thinking about what will work best for you. Not every woman can take pill, some should not even take it and there should be test done before you try it. Also some women find that they bodies do not agree with anything hormonal, regardless of several tries. And there are always side effects.

I would probably advise to talk to a nurse and see what may be best option for you. And what you will want to test.