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    Ezdreamer [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm a male in my 30's and I keep my pubes trimmed, I have totally shaved in the past but my oh says it prickles when it's growing back. My oh keeps hers trimmed but not bald. It's all about feeling happy with what you've got, if you want to trim/shave it should be your decision to make, not the opinion of someone else.

    Hope this helps

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    Lovehoney - Jess Wilde [sign in to see picture]
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    Welcome to the forums!

    Wow! I can't believe someone would be so rude as to comment on something as personal as pubic hair!

    It's entirely your choice how you style your short and curlies, in just the same way as it's your decision how you dress, style your (head) hair and what food you eat. It's not for anyone elses to pass judgment and tell you what you should / shouldn't do.

    If you are interested in experimenting with styles, I wrote a blog a few months ago which you might find useful: The Secret (Lady) Garden: Discover Your Pubic Hairstyles

    I also recommend you read some books and info from Caitlin Moran - she has some wonderful views on this (and other feminine topics), basically backing up the point that it is your decision and no man or woman has a right to tell you how to style yourself!

    Other than that, in this and all areas of your life, do what makes you happy! And sod everyone else! ;)

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    rose hip [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks Janny.

    capricorn13 wrote:

    Both my daughter (a bit older than you) and I suffer from dark hair on our forearms, thighs and

    Dark hair isn't an illness, no matter where it's located. Please be kinder to yourselves.

    This is why the fetish with child-like hairlessness in women (and now men) frustrates me. There's nothing wrong with having hair. Or women who aren't blonde. But the expectations keep getting dragged farther and farther away from what's natural. There is nothing wrong with our bodies as they are.

    Except that absurdly large corporate entities don't sell us as much junk we don't need when we actually like ourselves and our diversity.

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    rose hip wrote:

    Thanks Janny.

    capricorn13 wrote:

    Both my daughter (a bit older than you) and I suffer from dark hair on our forearms, thighs and

    Dark hair isn't an illness, no matter where it's located. Please be kinder to yourselves.

    This is why the fetish with child-like hairlessness in women (and now men) frustrates me. There's nothing wrong with having hair. Or women who aren't blonde. But the expectations keep getting dragged farther and farther away from what's natural. There is nothing wrong with our bodies as they are.

    Except that absurdly large corporate entities don't sell us as much junk we don't need when we actually like ourselves and our diversity.

    Point taken Rosehip; poor choice of wording there and I agree with your sentiments 100%, especially the child-like hairlessness.

    It would be lovely if all differences, body-shapes etc were embraced and celebrated but sadly in today's body conscious society there is peer pressure to conform to the image pushed by the media. This particularly affects young, less confident girls.

    I wanted to offer some practical advice on what I saw as the key issue here which was the pubic hair growing down on the thighs and my suspicion that the OP probably has dark hair in other places too.

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    Poppicat [sign in to see picture]
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    LilMissMardyBum wrote:

    some men like women shaved, some men like women natural every mans turn on and offs are different so because a friend commented it was disgusting to them it might not be disgusting to another,

    as for me i dont shave as i find it very uncomfy and i get itchy when shaving,but i always do make sure that i have a good trim down below and hardly leave any hair, as i like it neat and tidy,

    I am the same, I find that my skin gets sore and itchy when I have shaved my bikini line. have a razor that has a lady shaver built in. When I go swimming or I am dating someone I trim it quite short. I get anoyed that woman are expected to shave or wax. We have pubic hair for a reason.

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    It's hard to believe anyone could be that rude and personal about an area that he really shouldn't be looking at in so much detail in the first place. Ignore him as his opinion isn't that important.

    I agree that there is alot of pressure in todays society to be completely hairless and to have an almost childlike appearance in the pubic region but you need to strong and do what feels comfortable for you.If you like eveything being natural thats fine( there are still men out there who don't mind a bit of extra hair on women) . Personally I like mine trimmed quite short, I have shaved it all off a couple of times and although it feels lovely to start with the itchy stubble soon kicks in and it involves shaving every few days!

    Any future partners should want you for the person you are not how much or little hair you have on your body x

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    How rude to point it out!

    But I agree with what everyone else has said do what makes you feel nice and comfortable.
    I personally shave with all of has does my partner but I'm hoping to make it into a heart soon =D

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    PinkPolkaDot wrote:

    FrozenAngel wrote:

    PinkPolkaDot wrote:

    FrumCouple wrote:

    FrozenAngel wrote:

    Honestly, I get annoyed that women (I'm going to assume you're a woman- sorry if I'm mistaken) are expected to shave/wax and yet men aren't expected to, it riles me up a little .

    While I hear where you're coming from, I don't expect my OH to lick/suck/nibble my pubic hair. If I had hair actually growing from my penis I would definitely get rid of it before expecting anyone to go down on me.

    Hair doesn't grow on the clitoris or the inner labia. If you're getting hair in your mouth, then you're obviously licking the wrong part.

    I agree hair doesn't grow on those parts, and as hair doesn't grow on the penis shaft either it still grows on the bottom and when giving oral you can still get hair in your mouth.

    . o ( giving oral and then feeling like you've got a hair stuck in your throat for hours)

    I just think it shouldn't be Expected that women shave/wax, as it is not expected that men do it. And No one (especially someone elses BF - If my BF pointed out that someone else had hair on their vagina I'd of smacked him upside the head so quick he wouldn't of had time to mention it was disguisting) has any right to tell someone that their vagina is disguisting because it has hair on it.

    Hair is natural on a vagina, as much as it is a penis. Why are we the ones expected to get rid of our hair?!

    I always shave when I'm sexually active so I wouldn't know, but is getting hair in your mouth really that common?! One of my partners didn't shave and I have never, EVER gotten any hair in my mouth when giving oral. Also, I really can't imagine hair getting in your mouth if you're eating out a woman, unless you bite down on it and pull. Please enlighten me if I'm wrong, I just feel like its a silly excuse people make up to make someone else feel bad about their pubic hair so they get rid of it.

    I've had a fair few hairs in my mouth from giving oral to unshaven men. But I'm not really a squeamish person so I just take it out my mouth and carry on. It really doesn't bother me, so I've never requested any man shave to stop it from happening.

    I think the crux of the original post is "I have never shaved my pubic hair and it is totally natural. It is quite long and curley and I was always quite proud of it."

    You should do whatever you want with your own body, and whatever makes you feel proud. If you are proud of your pubes then leave them be, and if you're ever in the bedroom with someone who is grossed out by it then they are not right for you.

    Remember, life is about finding people to suit you as you are at your happiest, not changing your inherent belief system to suit them.

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    mitzy millar [sign in to see picture]
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    my bf and i both trim "downstairs" but not totally shaven i personally think its sexier to have a bit of hair! i think it quite rude for your friends bf to have said anything in the first place if he had been my bf he'd be in the doghouse for sure!!! as you get older (im over twice your age) you tend to get hairer (in all the places u dont want) so need a trim !

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    pleasepickme1969 wrote:

    Hello I am 19 and still a virgin.

    I have never shaved my pubic hair and it is totally natural. It is quite long and curley and I was always quite proud of it.

    However last weekend I went to a health spa with my friends and some of their boyfriends. When I go to the beach on hholiday and things I always cover my pubic hair up with a sarong as quite a bit of it goes down the inner side of my legs. Anyway I went to the health spa and forgot the sarong so just went in the pool in my bikini. When I was on the side of the jacuzzi one of the boyfriends said that he could see it and that it was discusting and that I needed to take a shave. If im honest I never even knew that people shaved it ! Im not sure if he saw it because I was wearing a white bikini or whether it was the bits going down my leg

    I have never had any kind of sexual contact with a man or a woman so please can you help me before II get into that situation.

    Is shaving what most people do? Is natural a real turn off? Please be honest

    Lisa Sky

    This makes me feel really sad. I'm 20 and have had 2 partners and still feel hung up on the same kind of situation. When I met my first boyfriend I had never shaved and had never seen the need to, I felt comfortable and happy in the way I was and assumed he would be happy with me too. Unfortunately he had the cruelty and cheek to refer to my pubic hair as "revolting" and made me feel so bad about it that I resorted to shaving it all off, and spent the whole relationship suffering from razor burn, soreness, itching, just for the sake of "pleasing" him. His attitude towards my pubic hair seemed to resonate through every other area of our relationship and we split up as a result of his constant put-downs and snarky comments. Pleasepickme1969, the guy who insulted you sounds much the same, and definitely not worth listening to. Any man who judges you on whether or not you have pubic hair is immature and juvenile, it's completely up to you how you style yourself, you and no-one else. Please continue to be proud of who you are and don't go changing for anyone :)

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