• Pubic hair- please help

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    Stuburns [sign in to see picture]
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    Yeah I have had hair in my teeth and also some that felt like it was at back of my throat. Plus as much as you try to ignore it you just can't and trying to pick a hair out of your teeth or cough up the one in your throat certainly interrupts the moment.

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    Neither my partner or myself shaved as much as we do now when we started dating and the issue of hair in the mouth never came up!
    I like to shave for comfort and it feels better during sex etc but he's never seen it as an issue i don't think.

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    Oh dear, this thread makes me terribly sad. What kind of world do we live in?

    OP, you may find a few of the following links interesting. (Or at least, I hope they offer a different perspective)

    - Hair! (Not the Musical) - The Vagenda

    - Get that sword away from my goddam vagina - AFP Blog

    Also, I would recommend you look at #13 on this list.

    Hope that helps,

    Nicole

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    I just think it shouldn't be Expected that women shave/wax, as it is not expected that men do it. And No one (especially someone elses BF - If my BF pointed out that someone else had hair on their vagina I'd of smacked him upside the head so quick he wouldn't of had time to mention it was disguisting) has any right to tell someone that their vagina is disguisting because it has hair on it.

    Hair is natural on a vagina, as much as it is a penis. Why are we the ones expected to get rid of our hair?!

    I agree with this! I have never understood why women are expected to get rid of body hair and men aren't (I know some do anyway) Don't men have more body hair overall anyway? So why are women the ones who have to deal with this?

    I try to keep mine trimmed and sometimes I shave it clsoer but I have never been actually bald in that area. I'm way too scared of waxing and have found that the wax strips don't work for me in other areas so I've not tried those either. But in all honesty I can be a bit lax on the subject, especially in winter.

    I don't have a partner to worry about (and to be honest if I did, he could get stuffed if he didn't like my decision sregarding my own body) and I've not been swimming or to the beach in years so it's not been an issue for me in ages. I'd probably be a bit more careful if I was, though.

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    Just for a little hug from a man - I adore women who keep it natural - that boy in the pool is just stupid so ignore him - and YES you should be proud of your natural pubic hair!

    You could trim or shave your bikini-line so it doesn't show, or try shaving/waxing it fully and se how you like that?

    Most important thing is you like it yourself - and If you get in a bed with a man naked and he turns you away because you have hair down there, he's not worth it anyway. Everyone is different, but I think it's beautiful and sexy.

    Hugs x

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    I think it's awfully rude to say that a man would be more likely to "go down on you" if you shave it. That's one person's opinion, not all men are the same and I find that incredibly narrow minded if a man would only go down on you if you didn't have any pubic hair. If you don't mind it, then keep it. If you were with someone that didn't want to 'go down' because you had pubic hair, then that would be incredibly selfish.

    Personally, I shave it all off. I just don't like the feel of pubic hair, but that's just my opinion. If you don't mind it, why bother with all the hassle?

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    Janny wrote:

    Just for a little hug from a man - I adore women who keep it natural - that boy in the pool is just stupid so ignore him - and YES you should be proud of your natural pubic hair!

    You could trim or shave your bikini-line so it doesn't show, or try shaving/waxing it fully and se how you like that?

    Most important thing is you like it yourself - and If you get in a bed with a man naked and he turns you away because you have hair down there, he's not worth it anyway. Everyone is different, but I think it's beautiful and sexy.

    Hugs x

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    pleasepickme1969 wrote:

    Hello I am 19 and still a virgin.

    I have never shaved my pubic hair and it is totally natural. It is quite long and curley and I was always quite proud of it.

    However last weekend I went to a health spa with my friends and some of their boyfriends. When I go to the beach on hholiday and things I always cover my pubic hair up with a sarong as quite a bit of it goes down the inner side of my legs. Anyway I went to the health spa and forgot the sarong so just went in the pool in my bikini. When I was on the side of the jacuzzi one of the boyfriends said that he could see it and that it was discusting and that I needed to take a shave. If im honest I never even knew that people shaved it ! Im not sure if he saw it because I was wearing a white bikini or whether it was the bits going down my leg

    I have never had any kind of sexual contact with a man or a woman so please can you help me before II get into that situation.

    Is shaving what most people do? Is natural a real turn off? Please be honest

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    Hi pleasepickme, this so sad because when youngladies who are just starting out on there sexual lives have what they think is a put down on there looks it can be so detrimental.

    Please please ignore this young man's comment. It was not meant to be hurtful just a bit jokey and as you are a little inexperienced you have taken it to heart.

    I am a man that enjoys my OH Pussy area no matter how she chooses to present it. She will chop and change to any degree of trimmed, bald to totally natural, she is wonderful in any of these states. So remember when the time is right and with the right partner it will be you he is interested in and not your pupic hair. It is a fashion at the moment for a lot of people to desire bald or very trimmed. But a lot of men do like hair. Try and be confident in who you are.

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    Everyone is different,u have to find what's right for u more importantly what your comfortable with.I shave but thats my choice which I'm happy with,u get used to the shaving rash/itching like shaving your legs.as others have said this boy had no right to say anything about u or to u.take no notice of immature little boys

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    Sex generally is messy. Your talking about body secretions, sweat, saliva, potential fecal mess if you enjoy anal play and yes...body hair, which may OCCASIONALLY get into the mouth. So what? I wouldnt ask my man to go and shave his ENTIRE body just so I could lick him all over. I just accept hair is a potential part of the package and I just pick it out and carry on! lol My partner keeps himself trim but I have STILL had the very rare hair in my mouth, and actually, sometimes I go to town so much I end up eating half of my own hair! (From my head, lol)

    I get it. having a hair in your mouth is not pleasant and is a little distracting, but demanding a woman, or man, change their body so that you can ensure a sterile and completely clean sex session is just a little insulting to her (or his) personal choices. If they want to have hair on their pubic area, chest etc. I mean, what is worse? Picking a hair out your mouth or your partner suffering days worth of itching, painful rashes, ingrowing hairs and itchy stubble?

    Please know, I am not against shaving. I shave and I support any womans choice to shave if she prefers to. But I am sick of hearing people call a woman disgusting, or abnormal is she chooses to keep the natural bush she as designed to have.

    They managed to enjoy oral in the 70's, and back then a full bush was all the rage. Im pretty sure they just sucked it up (Pun?) picked out the stray hair and carried on and LOVED it! lol

    Don't make women feel like they are disgusting for having body hair. It really is that simple. Rspect her choice and don't make her feel shit for it. Same goes the other way. Maybe us pubic hair lovers should should start a campaign to have all guys who demand women be clean shaven, to shave from head to toe, so that we can avoid risk of a stray hair too! :D

    Well, that's my opinion anyway.

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    Fluffy calm down lol. We all know you are right but this won't help pleasepickme. Give your usual great advice to this young lady and stop ranting. Please

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    This is one of those things thats a matter of taste, my OH is naturally dark haired, so can be quite hairy, some mens idea of heaven, when we first got together it was the norm for us and no an issue but over the years she has trimmed more and more, because of this I now prefer her completly bald, she too prefers it this way its just the effort as she plucks it all, she has said she would love to find a way of it being permanent, for us it was her choice that also benifited me! I would never insist on her doing it only what makes her happy, if you find the right person they will accept you how you are, over time you will find what your happiest with! I do think porn does give young lads a false expectancy of how women should be and put unfair pressure on youngsters, I know that might sound a little hypocritical but me and the OH were together for about 15 years before she started to trim more than her bikini line. X

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    The most painful thing I have ever done excluding biting down on my cheeks just now ouch was shaving my chest. It was ok for a day but then as the hairs were coming back through it became unbearable. I couldn't even sleep. I will never fully shave my chest again. When I am trimming my head I now also No2 my chest. My oh prefers it shorter than normal.

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    I think we're pretty much agreed that the abuse was uncalled for and completely unacceptable. We're also pretty much agreed that everyone should have personal choice about their appearance.

    On the other hand though, practically everyone on here is either shaved or trimmed. That must be at least in part due to society's norms. I can't believe that anyone would have been shaved 40 years ago. My personal grooming is my choice, but that choice is to go with what my partner prefers. If I was a virgin again the topic of shaving/trimming would almost certainly come up with a partner before we had sex and it's your choice whether to go with what your partner prefers or not. The same goes with clothes, hair, underwear and everything else. Some choose to follow the norm, some choose to go against it. The key thing is that it is your choice.

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    Gentle giant wrote:

    Fluffy calm down lol. We all know you are right but this won't help pleasepickme. Give your usual great advice to this young lady and stop ranting. Please

    That wasn't a rant. That was my advice. The advice being, don't pressure someone to change and don't feel like you have to change. Be yourself. I even threw in a little joke at the end, which i would not have done if I was ranting. I am simply passionate about this issue, the issue that people are being asked to change or they do not fit in. The belief that their natural body is disgusting or abnormal (I say the same things in threads where men think their penis is too small, for example.) I do not think I have flamed or abused anyone in my post? I do not think I have threatened or called anyone derogatory things? I am simply trying to let the OP know that their is nothing disgusting about her and I was passionate about getting that message across. I talked about the fact that body hair used to be normal and it wasnt an issue back then and I talked about the fact that sex is messy and body hair is part of that.

    I do find it kind of ironic though, that you assume I am ranting, and tell me that my opinion isnt helpful and that I should change my ways and conform to the way you want me to act (My usual great advice)...in a thread where someone else got told to change to better fit in with someone elses opinion.

    If the mods felt that I was abusive or ranty, then I apologise and they can delete the last post I made. x

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    I don't think you was ranting at all Fluff; I took it as an opinion on what you felt about the matter. I think it's one of those topics that can be considered ranting from another persons point of view.

    The thing in regards to this thread is we can't really give advice, we can't say Oh yes you should shave, or oh no keep it. It's upto the OP with what they feel comfortable with. And from reading what Fluff wrote, what I took from that to the OP is that she should do whatever she feels comfortable with and not feel pressured into do anything other than that just because of the way society view things now a days.

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    Are we all just merely giving an opinion as Pleasepickme asked. We agree the guy shouldn't have said what he did. We also agree that she should only do what she herself wants to do. The rest is our experience and opinion on what we do and what we prefer.

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    Janny wrote:

    Just for a little hug from a man - I adore women who keep it natural - that boy in the pool is just stupid so ignore him - and YES you should be proud of your natural pubic hair!

    You could trim or shave your bikini-line so it doesn't show, or try shaving/waxing it fully and se how you like that?

    Most important thing is you like it yourself - and If you get in a bed with a man naked and he turns you away because you have hair down there, he's not worth it anyway. Everyone is different, but I think it's beautiful and sexy.

    Hugs x

    This +1

    I had the same happen to me when i was 11 but it was my legs, it was sports day and i was naturally in shorts and an older girl made a comment about my legs being hairy and i should shave. She made me feel so ashamed i faked illness and went home to shave them.

    Looking back i wished i had ignored her no one has the right to make you feel ashamed about how your body looks and what you do. You do what you want OP, i personally shave down there but when i didnt i kept it trimmed like others have suggested or maybe you could shave your bikini line?

    Most importantly please please dont let him make you feel rubbish! x

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    Thank you frozen Angel, you said it a lot more clearer than I did. yes, that was the message I was trying to convey to the OP. I am not even against shaving. I shave all the time. I just really empathise with the OP because I have been the subject of similar judgements (As I am sure we all have.) I will bow out of this thread now, because I feel like I am going off topic or something. OP is new here and I don't want her to feel weird.

    To the OP: Do what feels right for you and just know, there are people who love pubic hair! I am female but I actually really like to see it on other females. I think it looks womanly and very sexy. I actually prefer the hairy look. The only reason i shave is because my pubes irritate me when they get too long now. I think I just got used to being short for so long. Anyway. Good luck. x

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    Gentle giant wrote:

    Fluffy calm down lol. We all know you are right but this won't help pleasepickme. Give your usual great advice to this young lady and stop ranting. Please

    She did give her usual great advice, its her choice on what she wants to post. I don't think that came across as a rant at all Fluffbags :)

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