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  1. Threesomes/Foursomes/Being Watched - How we did it....

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    mz sin [sign in to see picture]
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    Last month I had my first threesome. For me it was about fufilling a fantasy that I had been hankering about for some time. Me and my partner had talked about what we would like.and the scenario was set.

    I didnt actually believe him when he said he was bringing a friend. He asked me to meet him in a Hotel. He brought some sexy underwear and left me blindfold on the bed. It was a very erotic feeling. I could hear the stranger, felt him undress, while I and my partner began to kiss. He never left my side and took control of the situation.I can honestly say it was the most erotic experience of my life.

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    mz sin [sign in to see picture]
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    Last month I had my first threesome. For me it was about fufilling a fantasy that I had been hankering about for some time. Me and my partner had talked about what we would like.and the scenario was set.

    I didnt actually believe him when he said he was bringing a friend. He asked me to meet him in a Hotel. He brought some sexy underwear and left me blindfold on the bed. It was a very erotic feeling. I could hear the stranger, felt him undress, while I and my partner began to kiss. He never left my side and took control of the situation.I can honestly say it was the most erotic experience of my life.

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    mz sin [sign in to see picture]
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    Last month I had my first threesome. For me it was about fufilling a fantasy that I had been hankering about for some time. Me and my partner had talked about what we would like.and the scenario was set.

    I didnt actually believe him when he said he was bringing a friend. He asked me to meet him in a Hotel. He brought some sexy underwear and left me blindfold on the bed. It was a very erotic feeling. I could hear the stranger, felt him undress, while I and my partner began to kiss. He never left my side and took control of the situation.I can honestly say it was the most erotic experience of my life.

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    mz sin [sign in to see picture]
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    Last month I had my first threesome. For me it was about fufilling a fantasy that I had been hankering about for some time. Me and my partner had talked about what we would like.and the scenario was set.

    I didnt actually believe him when he said he was bringing a friend. He asked me to meet him in a Hotel. He brought some sexy underwear and left me blindfold on the bed. It was a very erotic feeling. I could hear the stranger, felt him undress, while I and my partner began to kiss. He never left my side and took control of the situation.I can honestly say it was the most erotic experience of my life.

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    mz sin [sign in to see picture]
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    I had my first threesome a month ago. Ive never had an eperience like it.

    To cut a long story short. A threesome had been a fantasy of mine for some time and after much joking and role play my bolyfriend organised the scenario. Hotel, me blindfold, my partner and a complete stranger. I must say this was the most erotic think Ive ever done.

    Yes I'd do it again!

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    sallysue [sign in to see picture]
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    ohh thank you. what a lovely positive, informative post. I am trying to pluck up enough courage to start working carefully,as you did, towards my first threesome and my first sexual experience with a woman, I want this so very much and have been thinking about it for such a long time. I wonder if anyone could suggest some approriate websites? I have met some lovely men through pof anf friends with benefits etc. but want more! I am a little bit submissive and would love to make a loving couple even more happy. and of course I also like the idea of being with a woman and being watched. the idea of approaching a couple seems so fraught with difficulty though.... how do you seduce two people? it sounds exhausting! would love to hear from some couples what they look for in a single female.....

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    sallysue [sign in to see picture]
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    ohh thank you. what a lovely positive, informative post. I am trying to pluck up enough courage to start working carefully,as you did, towards my first threesome and my first sexual experience with a woman, I want this so very much and have been thinking about it for such a long time. I wonder if anyone could suggest some approriate websites? I have met some lovely men through pof anf friends with benefits etc. but want more! I am a little bit submissive and would love to make a loving couple even more happy. and of course I also like the idea of being with a woman and being watched. the idea of approaching a couple seems so fraught with difficulty though.... how do you seduce two people? it sounds exhausting! would love to hear from some couples what they look for in a single female.....

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    sallysue [sign in to see picture]
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    ohh thank you. what a lovely positive, informative post. I am trying to pluck up enough courage to start working carefully,as you did, towards my first threesome and my first sexual experience with a woman, I want this so very much and have been thinking about it for such a long time. I wonder if anyone could suggest some approriate websites? I have met some lovely men through pof anf friends with benefits etc. but want more! I am a little bit submissive and would love to make a loving couple even more happy. the idea of approaching a couple seems so fraught with difficulty though.... how do you seduce two people? it sounds exhausting! would love to hear from some couples what they look for in a single female.....

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    GingerClaire [sign in to see picture]
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    As a couple who are very gently dipping our toes into the idea of a foursome/threesome it is really nice to read a positive post!

    I was just wondering though - it was my OH idea for another girl to join us but I feel like it would be less 'weird' if it was a couple. Any thoughts?

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    Purring-Pussy [sign in to see picture]
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    GingerClaire wrote:

    As a couple who are very gently dipping our toes into the idea of a foursome/threesome it is really nice to read a positive post!

    I was just wondering though - it was my OH idea for another girl to join us but I feel like it would be less 'weird' if it was a couple. Any thoughts?

    Communication is key. You can't discuss it too much. Work out your boundaries, what you'd feel comfortable with. If it starts off as sex with your partner in the same room as another couple, just watching, that's fine...then go from there on the next meet. Some couples have a no kissing others rule, or no penetrative sex. Do what makes both of you comfortable. You could also have a code to stop playing if necessary. I like to excuse myself for a drink, my partner knows that's the time to stop.
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    LIL_KNOWN69 [sign in to see picture]
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    Great to hear a positive and nice experience from someone. A lot of people believe it's a very porno scenario but with feelings involved iv always been a tad scared off by someone around. I did once however have a threesome with a partner but it was more her best friend watching and then them two having a few kisses. It was all a bit of a blur but fun.
    If your both great with communication and honest I do believe it could be an amazing time for you all, but glad to read something more positive and honest.

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    Tiger Dick [sign in to see picture]
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    LIL_KNOWN69 wrote:

    Great to hear a positive and nice experience from someone. A lot of people believe it's a very porno scenario but with feelings involved iv always been a tad scared off by someone around. I did once however have a threesome with a partner but it was more her best friend watching and then them two having a few kisses. It was all a bit of a blur but fun.
    If your both great with communication and honest I do believe it could be an amazing time for you all, but glad to read something more positive and honest.

    Purring-Pussy wrote:

    GingerClaire wrote:

    As a couple who are very gently dipping our toes into the idea of a foursome/threesome it is really nice to read a positive post!

    I was just wondering though - it was my OH idea for another girl to join us but I feel like it would be less 'weird' if it was a couple. Any thoughts?

    Communication is key. You can't discuss it too much. Work out your boundaries, what you'd feel comfortable with. If it starts off as sex with your partner in the same room as another couple, just watching, that's fine...then go from there on the next meet. Some couples have a no kissing others rule, or no penetrative sex. Do what makes both of you comfortable. You could also have a code to stop playing if necessary. I like to excuse myself for a drink, my partner knows that's the time to stop.

    This is something that is very much going on in our lives at the moment. We initially had one couple agree a meet, but as things went on so did the little demands on pushing our bounderies, so we abandonded that meet and discussed a few points that arose during this experience. The main one being that as 1st timers ourselves, we would possibly have to wade through their Ist time issues along with any we experience whilst in the moment, we decided that we wanted seasoned swingers that won't be bringing along any novelty angst and kill the experience for us.

    All in all, we both agreed that we've done the right thing for us, we didn't get jittery at the prospect, only the way that somebody from the other pair was conducting themselves. Yes there is a rush in getting something going, but you do need to be able to seperate this from "the not quite right" feelings and go with your gut, any doubts- then bail out.

    We have found another couple who are completely laid back, non pushy and have said from the outset that they are happy to spend some time with us NSA, and help us through talking about their own experiences. They are also fun and have made us feel at ease speaking with them. They sent us a picture of themselves, not asking for one of us, and that speaks volumes to us.

    The picture thing was an interesting thing too. It really does make it real and the "can you see yourself doing it with them?" question appear into our conversation. And we can. The couple come across as happy and relexed and the way they conduct themselves is also great. We have seen pictures of them indulging and it doesn't come over as a conquest, but as having fun, keeping things discreet.

    We have organised a meet this week-end at a pub and will look to see what develops. We are having our social early and both couples are aware that if we decide to take things further there will be an opportunity on the same day for a play. We've been indulging in a bit of on-line teasing and our personal feelings, along with a bit of research , suggest that they value their partners bounderies.

    In regards to 3 or 4 somes, in our case Mrs TD is Bi-curious and the people we are hoping to hit it off with are a good fit, with the women into women, and I don't have any issues with being close to another man. We will be doing sameroom sex if it happens, with the simple understanding that NO will mean NO, there will be no misunderstandings. Nobody will be vilified for calling it off either, those two rules we believe are the cornerstone to making this work for us all.

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    GingerClaire [sign in to see picture]
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    Communication will never be an issue for us and we talk about everything. Thanks for sharing your experience Tiger Dick it's really helpful!

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    Tiger Dick [sign in to see picture]
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    GingerClaire wrote:

    Communication will never be an issue for us and we talk about everything. Thanks for sharing your experience Tiger Dick it's really helpful!

    Happy to share if it helps, its what we do here

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    Hazeladam [sign in to see picture]
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    This is perfect timing, the OH and I discussed being watched, watching and same room with another couple a few years ago but we never did anything about it but the other day the OH mentioned it again

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    Tiger Dick [sign in to see picture]
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    Hazeladam wrote:

    This is perfect timing, the OH and I discussed being watched, watching and same room with another couple a few years ago but we never did anything about it but the other day the OH mentioned it again

    That's what I thought too, and decided to discuss how things have gone thus far. Its not often I wish my life away but so want it to be the weekend already

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    Lovinthetoys [sign in to see picture]
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    Thank you for the post, it is good to hear of experiences that worked out just as all parties wanted it to. Good to know for future too.

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    Sjofn [sign in to see picture]
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    Wow.. this thread has some of the most useful information I have seen on the issue so far... It's really interesting and a bit exciting to find out how things turned out for you.

    I saw someone ask how and what way would be best for a single female to join a couple... and, well, that is a curiosity of mine too. It's something that really is interesting to me and I wonder what would usually be the things a couple would want for second woman to be, or to do in these situations..
    Or maybe, if you have a good source to know more on this it would be fine too

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    Sparky 1 [sign in to see picture]
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    I'd love to meet other couples for sex and play but don't think the oh would be up for it, I've mentioned it in a roundabout way sort of jokeingly and she has said no in a roundabout way, she's up for most things but I don't think this. You never know though she might come round and fancy giving it a go here's hoping but no pressure if she definitely said no that's it

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    Tiger Dick [sign in to see picture]
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    I'd like to add something else into this mix that we feel maybe relivent generally, buth certainly for us. The 3some vs 4 couple dynamic is an interesting one too, and subconciously may have even shaped our choice of having opted for the 4some.

    With 2 couples, both have their partners and the "invited guests" both have someboody to keep each other in check. Inviting a single into the mix, for us, was a no-no. Why? Simply because in this relationship they have nobody to stop them being needy, to pull back the reins if they've enjoyed their time with us and start pestering us for repeats.

    We of course want to have a great time, and if so repeat meets would be good, but we also don't want those we indulge with to be left alone to deal with not actually being a part of our relationship. This is why we have insisted on a slow burn chat and get to know you approach. It worked for the original couple who a first were okay but he started to display impatience, and "can you..." questions that pushed past our clear bounderies.

    The couple we are meeting this week, have both been speaking, clearly know what each other is saying and totally comfortable with this. They recognise our bounderies and have always respected these.

    In short, we want uncomplicated sex that can't authentially be reproduced with toys, That those we have it with can get on with their lives, with or without a repeat play, not obsessing or left feeling alone without somebody who knows what they've experienced.

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