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    Mucky Duck [sign in to see picture]
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    I meant Doris Day, I had many a secret tug in the bath over her in that film when I was a boy!

    Still if you want to put your outfit on ....I'd glady 'whip crack away'!

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    sexelle [sign in to see picture]
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    if your not sure what to do and feel a bit unsure, try blindfolding him, then you can jiggle about as you like and not worry about how you look until you find what you really like to do, also i like to tease him with brushing my nipples on his lips,, and he might really like the blindfold thing. Good luck

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    Naughty40 [sign in to see picture]
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    Mucky Duck wrote:

    I meant Doris Day, I had many a secret tug in the bath over her in that film when I was a boy!

    Still if you want to put your outfit on ....I'd glady 'whip crack away'!

    Sadly Duckie I was just the sweetie lady on that production.

    The next one I did get to dance on stage to Fame....wearing the skintight leotard and etc....sigh those were the days before chunky set in!!

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    Mucky Duck [sign in to see picture]
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    Naughty, sweetie lady could be fun. A wham bar,, licorice whip & a packet of skittles ..... A full night entertainment.

    Don't worry about chunky, 95% of the country can't be wrong. Who actually likes bony chicks anyway?

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    neptune188 [sign in to see picture]
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    I can't add too much to this - but handcuffing him to the bedposts (or other suitable object) is good. Then you can do what you want with him. Also don't forget the nipples - if your flexible enough then you can nibble at them...

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    Lava_Twilight_x [sign in to see picture]
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    sexelle wrote:

    if your not sure what to do and feel a bit unsure, try blindfolding him, then you can jiggle about as you like and not worry about how you look until you find what you really like to do, also i like to tease him with brushing my nipples on his lips,, and he might really like the blindfold thing. Good luck

    LOVE this idea..... was just on the look out for tips & think I got enough ideas to work with! Woo, thanks gang! x Maybe I won't feel like a complete idiot when I climb on top! :D

    BTW, I love Doris Day....thanks to my dad we always had it on in the house when I was growing up :)

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    DanielleMarie [sign in to see picture]
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    My boyfriend seems to be freaking obsessed with me being on top. We ALWAYS start sex that way, and it's starting to get boring, but as it's been 2 and a half years of it, I've learnt a few variations. Firstly, the difference between the cowgirl position and being on top.

    Cowgirl allows for a deeper penetration as you're straddling his lap, at least I've found, where girl on top is more like a reversed missionary, with the legs pushed further back so you're, and so the penetration isn't as deep but he seems to love it because his shaft is rubbing more firmly against the vaginal wall.

    Girating the hips, bouncing up and down, leaning back and forward to either play with his balls (if he likes that) or bite his neck, kiss it, flick your tongue over his nipple or bite it, drag your nails over the skin of his forearms, nibble his earlobe, and my boyfriend particularly likes me moaning or talking dirty in his ear when I lean forward. You can also vary the place of your knees in cowgirl, like pressed to his sides, or spread your legs further apart.

    And just vary the pace. Go slow, fast. You can pin his wrists above his head and tease him if it's your thing, like ride him quite fast, then slow it down and sit up so that just the tip is inside you, roll your hips around and bounce just on the tip a little, and then slam the length into you.

    Any of that all seems to go down well. Lol.

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    Lava_Twilight_x [sign in to see picture]
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    Phew. That sounds real good actually..... *looking at clock, wondering when he'll be home*

    I also never know what to do when he is sitting up & he pulls me onto his lap, coz I can't figure out how to bounce away or where to put my legs without looking awkward, maybe its just the same principle? x

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    DanielleMarie [sign in to see picture]
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    When he's sitting up, I make him let me turn around. Lol. I find it easier to bounce that way, because I like, arch my spine and lay my head on his shoulder so we can still kiss and stuff, and for some reason I can bounce harder. He seems okay with this. Lol.

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    Lava_Twilight_x [sign in to see picture]
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    DanielleMarie wrote:

    When he's sitting up, I make him let me turn around. Lol. I find it easier to bounce that way, because I like, arch my spine and lay my head on his shoulder so we can still kiss and stuff, and for some reason I can bounce harder. He seems okay with this. Lol.

    Hmmmm sounds interesting *picturing it* I could use a bullet vibe at the same time perhaps.... I like it :)

    I bet I get all worked up reading these posts & he'll come in with the hump & tired or something!!!! xD

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    DanielleMarie [sign in to see picture]
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    Haha. Offer him a blow job, see if he comes around. And yeah, it at least gives his hands something to do fiddling around with a bullet vibe. Lol.

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    Lava_Twilight_x [sign in to see picture]
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    Ah, there's the problem, I still in training to get him to like BJ's. He's only ever keen when he's scrubbed & fresh from the bath. & he's spent all day on a murder job - so no such luck.

    Then again, urgh, maybe I will run him a bath myself anyway!!!! :D

    Am loving the idea of being on top (sober, mind!) & slipping it in the 'wrong hole....phew! Nice!! x

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    bbn [sign in to see picture]
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    I think I will make sure I am under tonight! - All your advice has got me very excited -

    Danielle-Marie's: And just vary the pace. Go slow, fast. You can pin his wrists above his head and tease him if it's your thing, like ride him quite fast, then slow it down and sit up so that just the tip is inside you, roll your hips around and bounce just on the tip a little, and then slam the length into you. Wow DM - rifing slow and just easing the tip in - love it.

    xx

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    bbn [sign in to see picture]
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    I think I will make sure I am under tonight! - All your advice has got me very excited -

    Danielle-Marie's: And just vary the pace. Go slow, fast. You can pin his wrists above his head and tease him if it's your thing, like ride him quite fast, then slow it down and sit up so that just the tip is inside you, roll your hips around and bounce just on the tip a little, and then slam the length into you. Wow DM - rifing slow and just easing the tip in - love it.

    xx

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    Horny Pony [sign in to see picture]
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    With him flat out on his back and you astride on your knees try tucking your feet up onto his thighs/torso depending which way you are facing. This gives you much more control and ability to lift/move your body.

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    Darth [sign in to see picture]
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    Interesting topic. I've never liked being on top - part being insecure about my body (thanks, ex-who-made-mid-sex-comments-about-my-fat-rolls!) and part my knees ache quickly and I just find it really hard to move and stay moving. It also doesn't help that if I get close to orgasming, I get completely unable to move!

    My new bf has a lovely position where he puts me on top of him but he remains very much in control - I lean forward, and he supports my shoulders on his elbows and puts his hands on my head or (even nicer) holds on to my hair. He then rocks me backward at the same time that he pushes into me. Very intense. I'm having a warm stomach moment just thinking about it :-)

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    DanielleMarie [sign in to see picture]
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    bbn wrote:

    I think I will make sure I am under tonight! - All your advice has got me very excited -

    Danielle-Marie's: And just vary the pace. Go slow, fast. You can pin his wrists above his head and tease him if it's your thing, like ride him quite fast, then slow it down and sit up so that just the tip is inside you, roll your hips around and bounce just on the tip a little, and then slam the length into you. Wow DM - rifing slow and just easing the tip in - love it.

    xx

    Nice to know I've inspired some sex. Haha.

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    Couple No. 7 [sign in to see picture]
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    Sometimes I love to be on top. However, because I'm short, my thighs are short and I have a bit hard time moving on top! That's why I never am on top for a whole session but just for as long as my thighs can take it.

    Anyway...

    My guy likes visuals when I'm on top. He wants to watch. You can put up a little show; He'll love it. Try massaging your breasts, masturbate or being in the reversed cowgirl position, sitting on your man, back facing him. He loves the rear view for sure.
    If your man connects pain to pleasure, you can play with his nipples or scratch his chest as you ride.
    I enjoy leaning onwards and hugging him while I ride. The up-down move will have to change to more like to-and-fro but it's still girl on top. That's a nice and intimate position which opens up new things you can do, such as kissing, ear-play and neck nimbling.
    If you're on top during foreplay, there's lots of things you can do before actually riding him. You being on top means you can dominate him. I know it might feel strange at first if you're a shy girl but he'll love it if you just take him so that there's nothing he can do. Play with him, tease him! It's gonna be great!

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    fee.fairy [sign in to see picture]
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    Haha, since i asked the question i haven't had a chance to go on top!

    I'm especially liking the blindfold idea. I'm also quite body conscious, so that sounds fab!

    Thanks again OA!

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    Columbus [sign in to see picture]
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    I know this thread's from ages ago but I just did a search to try and find some 'on top' tips.

    I used to do it in my yoof and then when I was with my ex after the first few months I just stopped doing it . He'd ask me to and it became a bit of a 'thing' where I felt harrassed and if I did try and clamber on I felt like a big lump and we just never really managed it again...

    Anyway, so now with my current OH he'd asked me to go on top so I *bravely* did ! It had been a decade after all LOL We've been together 20 months and I've probably only done it a handful of times. I did the other night (Sun) first when we were on the settee then later that night I went on top at first. I think I do all the stuff people suggest (grinding, touching his balls/arse, leaning over his chest to kiss him and squeeze his nipples etc) but I feel like I have Fee Fairy's issue (she's probaby well over it by now though! lol) in that I'm worrying I'm not doing it 'right'. He's not cum that way and after a few/five mins will ask if I want him back on top. I've said elsewhere that I am a bit insecure that he's had better sex with others - despite his reassurances that isn't the case - and because going on top has been a bit of a 'thing' with me in the past and because I'm still a big ol' lump i feel like I want to knock his socks off with it and be the best! He says 'you ride me wonderfully!' but I'm competitive I guess LOL I've said I'll just keep "practicing" anyway, which I suppose he's not going to mind!! I think the other issue is that - in porn! - you see people bouncing about but as well as being heavier so I'm not exactly athletic, he's also got a long penis and I've got short legs! So once his 8" are in me then my short (I'm 5ft 2") legs can't get me up enough to bounce or thurst!! I had though about kneeling on cushions (either side of him) to elevate myself... It just means that I can only really do the circle/grind but I suspect he'd get of more if I thrust. I can a bit more if I lean forward over his chest - but he thrusts himself into me so I feel like it defeats the point of me being on top as he's still doing the 'work' and is in control! Hmmm... any thoughts/tips?

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