barefun wrote:
wow, i was just interested to find out if 200 was a lot of sex partners but i get a lecture about condoms! seems i misjudged this forum. i thought we were adults. i enjoy bareback sex and so do lots of girls. its our choice
we are very open forum, not scared of sex as a topic and we dont judge, but risking not only your health (your personal problem), but others too, is something we are not too happy about. its fine to have more partners than others, my ex is in open relationship and sleeps with other girls than his gf and I would never judge it. but I know him well enough to know he does uses condoms with them. we respect people have other expectations from sex, but we do value here for sex to be as safe as possible. Slip can happen, but 200 partners without protection, thats a bit too much. not as number, but as risky behaviour.
frankly, STD are raising, in my country, this year the so far identified number of new HIV possitive is the highest since the monitoring started, syfilis is on rise too, and no, its not only among the people you may want to expect it, like homosexuals, but among everyone, actually it seems its now more among heterosexuals. chlamydia is also a serious problem, which can cause infertility if it goes untreated. so we worry about it, as we want to enjoy fullfiling sexual relationship with our partners. but we do respect them and we do try to make it as safe as possible. condoms are not needed in strickly mongamous relationship, after you both have checks you are clean of all STDs. may be worth checking now and again, just to make sure, but you worry more about pregnancy, if you fully trust your partner.and you can use other means of preventing pregnancy than condoms in monogamous relationship. I would never have a sex with new partner withour condom on, it is not 100% safe, but cuts down the chances a lot still.
btw. in my country, with this number of partner and the unprotected sex, you would never pass as blood etc. donor, as they would judge you as just too risky to even think about it.