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  1. Masterbating - i can only come with one technique...

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    Giggly [sign in to see picture]
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    Ive recently bought some sex toys to spice things up a bit with the bf but secretly i wanted them to see if i could use them solo and make myself come.

    The only way ive ever been able to make myself come is by rubbing myself against a pillow - ive tried using the vibes ive bought and glass dildos, they feel nice but ive cant get to the point of orgasm. What am i doing wrong??!

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    Morbidia [sign in to see picture]
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    Maybe you should try a different type of vibe? Perhaps one for a different purpose?

    Certain vibes are suited to certain people, it can take a few attempts until you find one that suits you.

    I used to have the same issue with the pillow, and it took me quite a while to get out of that method of making myself cum, but it can be done.

    What toys did you get to try?

    x x x

    PS. Welcome to Love Honey and the Orgasm Army x x

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    tallboy247 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi Giggly, welcome pillows can, quite clearly, be fun but there are squillions of ways out there of getting off, some even involve other people !! good luck on your quest.

    Tallboy

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    LIL_KNOWN69 [sign in to see picture]
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    maybe you shoudl just try circling your clit with the vibe or hold it vertically down the front of your lips.. wish i could help but everyones different so you just need to find that thing that really tips you over the edge! gr

    good luck sweetie have fun playing xxxx

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    kitty_o_shea [sign in to see picture]
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    try not to get it in your head that it is the only way you can come otherwise you will probably make the problem worse! maybe that is what you are doing wrong if you have made surelf sure that you can only come with a pillow! you CAN come in different ways just you need to find out what suits you. maybe one with stronger vibrations to be used on your clit rather than a glass dildo would be more suitable. did you try a rabbit type vibrator? they tend to be built for orgasm with minimum effort. just try and relax and eventually it will happen im sure. also maybe dont just dive in with the vibe. try and build yourself up to it so you are really turned on and tease yourself with it. sometimes its not the harder and stronger the vibe the quicker the orgasm and try not to make orgasm the final goal. you know u can come so its not a physical problem so its just finding out what works!

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    sublimelonglegs [sign in to see picture]
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    I've been a pillow/duvet squeezer for years, since I can remember. It's a really hard habit to break and it is still the most sure fire way I have of making myself come quickly.

    Do you also find you want to masterbate lying face down?

    I really only get off on my own by rubbing or deep penetration, everyone is different.

    Just have fun trying. Enjoy the play with your BF and when you are on your own use the memories to take you back there!

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    crayola [sign in to see picture]
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    I've never tried with a pillow...

    I agree with kitty- get out of the 'this is the only way I cum' mindset. Spend an hour just playing with fingers, vibes and anything else that comes to mind- stick on a film and watch it while you do, so you're not concentraiting on cumming, because we all know how crafty orgasms are. Think too much about them and they bugger off!

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    mama [sign in to see picture]
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    well i have a fav technique i suppose we all do but that darn rabbit i bought http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14803 i just stuck it up there just to get a feel for it and i came within a minute.. my poor old legs buckled beneath me and i was a goner, never felt like that with anything else... so maybe you just haven't found the right thing yet! and as for concentrating on coming or being in the right mind set that had nothing to do with it as i was still trying to work out how the chuffing buttons work when events overcame me... nasty shock that at my age!

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    mrsdoctorp [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm exactly the same - pillows and face-down, but I can make myself come with a rabbit. I personally have a very hooded clitoris and find it extremely difficult to come by clit stim alone. I need to stimulate the whole area which is why I like a rabbit, I get the shaft as well as the ears.

    A lot of it is mindset though giggly and you have to accept that getting out of the habit will take some time. This will stop you from getting frustrated when it doesn't work immediately - and it won't. one of the main things to remember is you need to relax. If you are thinking about the washing, stuff at work, or anything else that might be stressing you out you'll struggle. Also make sure you're nice and warm and free from interruptions for a while, so put your phone on silent.

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    I'm also a grinder, there's nowt wrong with that- if it gets you off, it gets you off! I think porn just shows more camera friendly ways to masturbate so don't worry, grinding it perfectly normal and usual!

    I now use the cone as well in the same position which may be a helpful intermediate step (my fave toy but LH no longer sell it coz of issues with manufacturer)

    You kinda need to train yourself to try something a new way. We're kinda pavlov dogs in that we get used to coming one way sometimes and need time to get off in a different way. It's a pretty mental thing as well so make sure you're still fantasising. My fantastises differ by what position I'm in actually (more anal and doggie sex ones when I'm on my tummy) more cock ones when I'm on my back.

    I'd just say give it time, experiment with toys that appeal to you and don;t worry if it doesn't happen instantly, it defo will eventually!

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    Giggly [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks everyone its nice to know im normal as i havent seen any porn of women humping pillows :)

    I bought a little bullet vibe for clit stimuation while using the glass dildo - im thinking a rabbit might be the answer. But most of all im guna try and relax.

    Another question - the only porn i like watching is women on women or women masterbating it turns me on so much (bf doesnt complain) but men on women does nothing for me. Any other girls, who arent bi or lesbian, get this?? Cos i definitely dont want any female on female action in real life.

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    Have you seen the men in porn? No wonder it don't do much for you!!

    Nah seriously, each to their own. Sooooooooooooooooooo many women like female only porn and as you say, this is a bonus in your boyfriend's opinion so for you guys I think it's probably a positive!

    Your glass dildo is cool, but it's a very different sensation to rubbing on a pillow so I'm not surprised it hasn't made you orgasm yet. I can't come without clit stimulus and so vibes are a must for me. As you say, try whatever takes your fancy. The Basic range from LH is good for that. Fun factory are also a really good bet but are a bit more expensive. Worth a look though.

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    Sexychic [sign in to see picture]
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    yep a grinder here also

    you are very normal hunni, good luck finding and exploring other options, xxxxxxxxx

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    (SC your back!!!!!!!!! yah!!!!!!!!!!!!)

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    Horny Pony [sign in to see picture]
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    I was the same - only doing it one way - til this summer when I got ultra horny. Then I tried every which way! Simply cos it all felt so good not just to give me an orgasm. Just concentrate on what feels real good and I'm sure you'll have a few more methods up your sleeve before you know it.

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    PS - nice to see you back Sexychic.

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    mrsdoctorp [sign in to see picture]
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    I do like girl on girl porn, but unfrtunately that's not doctorp's bag! I know, I know, what guy doesn't like lesbian porn? Well, this one - in his words "it doesn't do anything for me without a cock in it, make of that what you will", lol. He's a voyeur, he likes to see penetration. Just play around, try different things, at the end of the day, who's going to know what you've tried unless you tell them? So there's no reason not to try whatever may enter your head!

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    Sexychic [sign in to see picture]
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    thanks girls its fab to be back, I didnt realise how much id missed you lot

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    And us you SC !!

    TB

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    Try something a bit unusual, If you get stuck into ANYTHING routine for too long you find it hard to change.
    The best way is to inject a bit of passion. Stop wanking completely, watch some porn, read some dirty novels, do what ever butters your goose (hang out at the gym or near fire station etc). Once you start building that fire & you need to cum sooo badly... Do something completly different.

    Change the scenery, the mood , the toys etc. Have a cheeky wank in the kitchen doing the washing up, on the bus, in the cinema, outside etc...something to break the link with what you are used to! 90% of the battle is upstairs! Most of all have fun & don't worry about that money shot! Just enjoy the feeling of the moment! It'll cum eventually!! Gerrit?!

    Good luck!

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