• Erotic Asphyxiation

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    kathykeen [sign in to see picture]
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    Me and my partner actaully do this often, we have a very BDSM lifestyle and i would openly discuss it if anyone is intressted, to answer Miss-Nomer's question I love the feeling of not being in control knowing that my life is in my partners hands, it buils our trust and gives me a helpless feel which I love and is a major part of our sex lives.

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    sum1special313 [sign in to see picture]
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    My hubby and I have tried it, and it's really intense. However, happycamper is right. It's important to know what to do in case something goes wrong. He loves doing it, but he says it makes him nervous because he sometimes worries that he might get too carried away. So far we haven't had a problem, and we can communicate to each other when it's too much.

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    spankalot [sign in to see picture]
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    i like to hav a guys hand around my neck. i like to b submissive in bed for the most part, and i want my man to feel like he owns me that he cud do anything wiv me. i dont like any pressure on the neck tho jus hands been wrapped around my neck is enuff pleasure for me.

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    Mucky Duck [sign in to see picture]
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    I can see the appeal & can sort of imagine the rush, but crikey it's a craps shoot to see if you are coming back. Be it a and, belt or a plastic bag.... if you mis judge it you're proper fucked!

    Also how the hell do you explain the bruises from the garrote?

    Stick with the poppers ifyou want a buzz as you pop your cork!

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    Lubyanka [sign in to see picture]
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    There is a significant difference between putting hands on somebody's throat, limiting or restricting air intake, and stopping air intake completely.

    My partner and I really enjoy having my hands on his throat during erotic moments. I press the flat of my hand on his larynx, and he presses his throat into my hand, but his air intake is not restricted in any way. We feel that it's an exchange of profound trust, him yielding completely to me, and me taking control of him. It's amazing how much force I can exert without it affecting his air flow.

    It always, and I mean always, gets me from 0-60 in nothing flat! ;)

    I'd much rather do that than unmonitored drug use. But then, I'm careful and inform myself as completely as I can about his anatomy and what I can safely do with it.

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    lol i dont think i could trust anyone enough to basically strangle me

    i tend to get all breathless ( in a good way) anyway

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    Philip McAlpine [sign in to see picture]
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    Don't ever do this on your own, with a noose or whatever, very dangerous and always embarrasing for the relatives at the coroner 's inquest.

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    OperationFilth [sign in to see picture]
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    I'd type it all out, but essentially, what Lubyanka said. :)

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    Lubyanka [sign in to see picture]
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    *high fives LivingFire*

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    sin ner [sign in to see picture]
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    Quick question.

    Does the following sound safe to you?

    Pupils dilate,

    arteries constrict,

    core temperature rises,

    heart races,

    blood pressure sky rockets,

    respiration becomes rapid

    Lung capacity gets shallow,

    The brain fires bursts of electrical impulses from nowhere to nowhere,

    Secretions spit out of every gland,

    The muscles tense and spasm like you're lifting three times your body weight.

    Does this sound like a healthy activity I am describing here?

    This is the physical process we go through during Regular sex.

    Everything can be described as dangerous if you analyse it enough.

    I have to admit I am very surprised in the responses here, not at the over riding safety concerns but by the sheer number of people this freaks out.

    In my trail of thirty roughly women, every one of them has enjoyed this type of experience, some of whom take it a lot further then I would have thought.

    None of them wanted to to be knocked out, but the intensity is what they craved.

    From a martial arts point of view there are ways to render some one unconcious in as quick as eight seconds, and thats nothing to do with the air being blocked off, it's the main blood vessel to the brain causing the majority of the effect. Which is extremely dangerous.

    As for the airway, it takes a relatively long time to get any severe damage to the brain when restricting the airflow alone. If someone did accidentally go that far I would say almost without doubt that there was drugs involved. And or one or both parties were seruiously in need of counciling.

    You can exert a very large amount of force to the surrounding neck areas without reducing blow flow or air flow, this is considerably safer, as you get the dominant/submissive feeling without the majority of risk.

    However

    If you don't trust your partner with your life don't do it.

    If you don't have an up to date frist aid basics at least course, don't do it.

    If your worried you will do too much damage, don't do it.

    There are mutually safer ways of doing this, the pillow example above is one.

    Holding your own breath is another

    Buddy breathing (the first time I have heard this called by such a name) is another

    Another is letting your partner lean into your hands.

    And others.


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    Mucky Duck [sign in to see picture]
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    sin ner wrote:

    From a martial arts point of view there are ways to render some one unconcious in as quick as eight seconds, and thats nothing to do with the air being blocked off, it's the main blood vessel to the brain causing the majority of the effect. Which is extremely dangerous.


    I take it this isn't a couple of pool balls in a sock, is it?

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    sin ner [sign in to see picture]
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    No, I am mainly refering to field russian military methods, besides sticking two pool balls in a sock just doesn't have the right feel to it, One is the way to go.

    lol

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    I definately could not do this, due to past experiences in my life it would bring back too many memories for me. I don't see the appeal in it but each to your own, if we all were the same it would be a very boring place to live!

    xxx

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    Reminds me of a time when i was kissing my then girlfriend. She pinced my nose closed and then blew into my mouth. Lungs inflated and there was no way for me to exhale due to my nose being shut and mouth occupied.I had to pull back and gasp for air. It wasnt fun. I quite like being able to breathe

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    sexymel88 wrote:

    I definately could not do this, due to past experiences in my life it would bring back too many memories for me. I don't see the appeal in it

    I totally agree that if any activity brings back unpleasant memories like that, then that activity might be best left alone.

    I mean, all this is supposed to be fun! Let's keep it that way. :)

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    Allevi wrote:

    I quite like being able to breathe

    I'm with you on this one!!

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    Lubyanka [sign in to see picture]
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    Note - my throat play with kvetch never, ever interferes with his air flow.

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    sexymel88 [sign in to see picture]
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    Lubyanka wrote:

    sexymel88 wrote:

    I definately could not do this, due to past experiences in my life it would bring back too many memories for me. I don't see the appeal in it

    I totally agree that if any activity brings back unpleasant memories like that, then that activity might be best left alone.

    I mean, all this is supposed to be fun! Let's keep it that way. :)

    I agree with you there Lubyanka!

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    Some of this thread is quite shocking to read, there seems so many ppl are scared of it. I like mild asphyxiation where my husband will put his hand on my throat but never strangle me or cover my face. We have a completly trusting relationship and have tried many a new thing together, recently spanking. I like him to be in control and know he would never hurt me..unless I asked him nicely. We have been together for 10yrs and our sex life and love for each other just gets better and better. We openly discuss things and know exactly what one another is prepared, or not prepared to do.

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    Nexas wrote:

    I couldn't be involved in this. Some of my biggest fears involve not being able to breathe...plus I have severe asthma so I just couldn't do it. I'd be FAR too freaked out!

    Yeah prob not a good idea if u have bad asthma and I can see how that could give you a fear of not being able to breathe :S. My OH doesn't hold my throat till I cant breathe, he just holds tight enough to restrict it. I realise it's not everyones cup of tea and I still feel a bit odd likeing it, but I trust my hubby and he'd never do anything I didn't want to do :)

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