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  1. Having a Threesome

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    Rfmstan [sign in to see picture]
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    We are a married couple who wanted to try it. It went completely wrong!!!
    All I have to say is set RULES and stick to them no matter what anyone says to you, if they don't like them then they are not the right person to invite to your bed.
    Also make sure both of you are involved and you start with your partner and finish with your partner not the other person..
    Make sure you are both wanting to do it and not just going along with it for your other half.
    If one of you has to leave the room for any reason then the playing/sharing should stop (this is my option).
    But most of all make some RULES that you both agree on ;) like I said mine went wrong an I would want you to have the same experience as me :) (husband of the couple) we will try it again when the time is right.

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    Hornyhistorian [sign in to see picture]
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    Advertise in the back of gay mags. Met before hand and set rules.

    If your concerned about how it will effect your relationship its best not to go there. In my case it was a pure sex thing non long term relationship. I would do it again but again in a causal way.

    Highly recommended

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    M&A [sign in to see picture]
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    I always knew that my now hubby was a keeper for so many reasons, But I never in the early days treated him like a keeper and would from time to time have the odd 3 somes or affair. The thing then was I would be come so excited that I needed more and would end up having him as well.

    He was great at sex but I just wanted more. I am sure he knew what was going on but never said anything, and once we were married I stopped playing around and we had two great daughters but I still felt something was missing.

    then one day out of the blue he suggests that we need to be more adventurous in our sex and suggested that we start swinging. Well I wasn't going to miss out on this turn of events and suggested that first off it should be a 3 some with another guy. He readily agreed. This was back in 92 so we decided it would be with his best mate who had on many occasion seen me in various states of underdress both at home and at the beach.

    WOW what a weekend that first experience was. Yes thats right it lasted the whole weekend and I had never experienced at that point sexual lust like it.

    We have been swinging ever since, not every week but when we want to have some extra spice. Hubby also gets his fair share of other ladies who want to play with us as well so its fair all round.

    We have known many along the years some have survived some have parted company so becareful in how you do it and what you agree is fair between you.

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    dragoon [sign in to see picture]
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    I love the idea of a threesome and even mentioned to the OH but he makes jokes like i wouldn't know when to jump in if it was an ffm and as for mmf he says I'm his and no one touches me but him. as posted in another thread he doesn't touch me either. would love the thought of being the cream in an oreo tho

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    JamesH [sign in to see picture]
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    Had a couple of MMF with my OH and an old college friend. One of those times late at night you talk about it and it all happens. When we got down to it OH demanded that friend and I kissed first and then sucked each other. Very odd at first but meant then nothing was off limits. Got really turned on by friend riding my OH to orgasm, followed by me doing it. DP was a first time for us all and slowly does it, had us all on a high. Some more drink later and friend and OH 69ed whilst I penetrated him. Crazy night, lots of memories but not in a rush to repeat. Some day may be...

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    Kittyondrugz [sign in to see picture]
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    Not sure if I posted on this topic,but..oh well.Never had a threesome,but will only have one with someone i'm not in a relationship with..just for fun,

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    PrincessSparkle [sign in to see picture]
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    My OH and I have discussed threesomes right from the off, on the account of me only ever having previously been with women. A play partner just for me was out as my OH would want to join in, and it could only by mff as I'm not really attracted to men, and he doesn't like the thought of sharing me with another guy.
    We trust each other, and so a threesome would only have positive connotations for us; as we discovered last night when it finally came to be c:

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    Ifearitstoolate [sign in to see picture]
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    sallysue wrote:

    oh.....I really want to find a couple to have sex with...it sounds like an amazing experience to make twp poeple happy at once....but that.s easy for me to say as the extra, I think Iit must be so much harder for the couple. would really like to hear from some couples what they look for: it seems impossibly difficult to seduce two people at once! it would also be my first experience with a woman, but most couples I have been in contact with want an accomplished lesbian, not novice me :(

    SallySue - would love to chat to you about your experiences (both positive and negative)

    C&S

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    London [sign in to see picture]
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    Having a threesome is discussed often as a sexual fantasy. The most important starting point is knowing that you are both secure in your relationship, especially if you are in a relationship which is serious. There has to be rules from the beginning, and the chosen third person should be someone who is on the same level as both of you. As long as you both have a solid relationship and both are 100% sure then there should not be a problem. You must also make sure that you are both confident with yourselves, and by this I mean that you have no hang ups about yourself as an individual person, and then as a couple. A threesome won't mend a fragmented relationship, but it could open new doors for a couple who know and understand each other and won't to just enjoy this new journey together.

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    RS94 [sign in to see picture]
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    I think about it as a fantasy sometimes, but i think i would get too jelouse and i know my OH would get extremley jelouse and he would never want to go through with it! Theres also the challenge of who? i dont think it could be someone either of us knew... but then i dont think i could with a stranger either.

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    .•*misstaylor*•. [sign in to see picture]
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    Me and my partner always talk about it , but I don't think I would ever do it , I would have a threesome with anouther woman aslong as he didn't have sex with her "just oral" I love my man to much to let him have sex with another girl in front of me , it would stick with me forever ( it would only bother me if she was better in bed or hotter than me ) ... Witch I seriously doubt ;)

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    jon19 [sign in to see picture]
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    I really want to try this. Just trying to convince the OH. The difficulty is finding somebody to take part.

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    small and curvey [sign in to see picture]
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    hey, me and my hubby had one during the year. I had met someone on a nightout through a mutual friend and being drunk always helps and playing drinking games. ( eg never have i ever) then just kinda flirt and start talking bout it if the other person is willing to.

    Hope that helps xx

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    sxe_couple21 [sign in to see picture]
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    So, we've now had a reasonable number of FFM threesomes and it's proving quite interesting in that you just can't tell how the other person is going to react. Some of the added F's seem equally interested in both of us (perfect), others seem either solely interested in Mrs. SXE or myself (less than perfect).

    We've been using a swinging site to meet and it always seems like there's an awful lot of effort behind a keyboard etc. before you even get the opportunity to see if there's a spark there.

    The best meets (by far) have been out of the blue...

    It's also quite amusing, given things people say about men not knowing how to please women (clitorally or via their g-spot) how way-off some of the women we've met have been

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    Brumcouple [sign in to see picture]
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    We have been into the swinging scene for nearly two years now. We mainly meet females at a swinging club, were it is safer for all parties. We discussed the options after Mrs Brum expressed a desire to share our sex life with another woman. We set out a list of do's and dont's for both of us, and when at a club Mrs Brum is the one who says yes or no.

    Depending on what you are looking for, most clubs have set nights and if they are a respectable club will have set rules on behaviour. The one main rule is No means No and if anyone doesn't respect that they are asked to leave

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    Gadget girl [sign in to see picture]
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    We had a long term relationship with another girl, it lasted 18 months, the sex was great but people got hurt!
    I do really miss the girlie sex but if I ever did it again it would be a one night thing. I do fancy having 2 blokes but I'm not sure how my OH would feel about that, I think he enjoyed the 2 girl thing cos he didn't feel threatened.
    We survived but only just. Sometimes fantasies are better left as just that

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    Skitty [sign in to see picture]
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    Me and my partner are currently quite seriously thinking about taking our long-time fantasy of a threesome to reality. We've discussed what we think we'll feel comfortable with a lot over a long period of time so we're on the same page. It would definitely be more about me and the girl doing things together, and my partner wouldn't have sex with the other girl. He's happy with this arrangement, and it's good for me too - I don't know how I'd feel about him touching someone else, but feel like if we were in the situation and it became a problem then I hope I'd be able to steer the situation back to being alright for me.

    Anyway, the main reason for posting in this thread is to ask whether anyone has experience of a couples session with an escort. I've tried searching the forums but couldn't find much to do with it specifically.

    We don't want to do anything with anyone we know and have researched the swinging scene local to us and we feel like the places look a bit seedy and aren't the sort of places where we'd be able to meet someone we feel comfortable with. We've found an agency that we think would be suitable for us but we have zero experience in this sort of thing and are pretty nervous about the idea of it. I find it very difficult to imagine how things will be until they're happening and find the uncertainty quite worrying (I'm like this with everything though, so I don't think it's about feeling uncomfortable about the idea of bringing someone else into our sex life.) I'm pretty much exclusively attracted to women but have never been with a woman before, so I feel like it's something that I really need to do or I'll regret never having the experience.

    Any thoughts would be much appreciated.

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    Sarahgee [sign in to see picture]
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    I think its very important when bringing other people into your play that you all know whats expected and whats definately not happening.

    We wont do anything with a person or people we know in our every day life. I think that should be a rule of thumb for everyone to be honest, otherwise the crazy paranoid part in the back of your mind will always question if they have something if their own on the side. My oh is comfortable with me doing everything i can physically do with a woman but only oral with another man. But i am comfortable with him doing everything with both! Because it turns me on, i think theres a psychological block on his end that if he lets another man inside me then i am not his sub bitch anymore. However it works fine for me either way !

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    Sarahgee [sign in to see picture]
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    I never even considered an escort before skitty! We tend to look on swinging sites but some of the people are fucking annoying 😂 lol

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    Skitty [sign in to see picture]
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    Lol, I imagined that people on swinging sites might be a touch annoying. I have looked on dating sites, fetish sites, swinging sites, but I always feel like it's too far away from being realistic and has too many variables. I think both me and my partner want to do something with someone that we don't need to worry about in terms of their insecurities, without the necessary social niceties of actually getting to know someone. I swear both me and my partner are nice people and would of course treat anyone that we were going to be intimate with really very nicely, but we're anti-social and it's kind of a lot more scary when you have to see the other person as someone with their own wants and desires rather than someone doing a job. I've never been with a woman so I think I'd feel a lot more uncomfortable and judged if they were a 'real' person, whereas with an escort I kind of figure that I'll never have to know if I'm an inadequate lesbian lover XD

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