• Cheaters Anon

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    Alphena [sign in to see picture]
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    Just interested to see how many people cheat and what they think about it :)

    • Are you still in a relationship?
    • Was it while you were with him/her?
    • Does your current partner know?
    • How long has been?
    • Do you enjoy it?
    • So you regret it?

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    chipNroll [sign in to see picture]
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    I've never cheated...

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    *Emma* [sign in to see picture]
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    Never cheated and never will x

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    never cheated

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    Seduced [sign in to see picture]
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    Only once. Was a fool. But hey hoe.

    With Lady-J... Not one, Never had and never will! ;) xx

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    Peachy keen [sign in to see picture]
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    Having been cheated on, I can safely say I could never, and would never cheat.

    It's not fair on the person you cheat with, and it's not fair on your partner.

    I also don't see any reason why someone'd tell their partner they'd cheated other than to ease their own conscience - much rather just get dumped and not go through the humiliation of knowing I'd been cheated on.

    buuuut that's just my opinion . I'm a little bitter.

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    YesChef [sign in to see picture]
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    Never cheated. Never been tempted to. Never been cheated on. And those three things make me happy

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    masterandslave [sign in to see picture]
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    Never have, never will.

    x

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    SEXYGET 69 [sign in to see picture]
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    As someone who's been shit on from a great height and basically had their world ripped apart. . . I would never cheat on anyone ever! I find it disgraceful, dishonest, underhanded and despicable personally. I hate to see anyone cheating and especially where kids are involved. I don't come across bitter do I? :-) SG

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    bigal [sign in to see picture]
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    never have,never felt the need too either

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    suze9 [sign in to see picture]
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    Never have and never will as I would lose someone I love an awful lot. I get everything I could ever want from my husband and if we go through a rocky patch we work through it not jump into bed with someone else.

    My sister was really bad when she was younger and would go out without her boyfriend on a saturday night and bring another guy home. He would leave breakfast time on the sunday and about 20 mins later (if that) her boyfriend would turn up. The poor guy was devastated when he found out.

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    Carousel [sign in to see picture]
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    I would never, ever cheat.

    I have previously told my partner that I feared my eyes would wander if things (love, life, laughter & sex) didn't perk up and many hours of talking later things got back on track. There wasn't anyone I thought about going off with, but I was beginning to wonder if there was something else out there that'd make me happier.

    Glad I initiated the conversation, though it was tricky, as now things are better than ever.

    My sister was cheated on badly, she found out and went on to marry the guy, but I couldn't be with someone who'd cheated, either with me or with a previous partner.

    My ex used to take girls out for dinner and to shows, and was quite blatant about it - I do believe he wasn't having sexual relations with these girls - he loved attention and the limelight and I think it was more a case of him wanting to feel that all these girls were dying to go out with him. We'd been together 3 years and towards the end of the relationship, the band he was in were doing well and I think having the Groupies went to his head!

    That was bad enough for me though and I dumped him when I found out.

    MrsPx

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    xxxxchelzsxxxx [sign in to see picture]
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    Would never cheat on my husband.... married him for the long-haul!!! xxxxxxxxxx

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    WandA [sign in to see picture]
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    Haven't and won't.

    I'm a little worried this thread however might inspire 'strong feelings'.

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    Seduced [sign in to see picture]
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    WandA wrote:

    Haven't and won't.

    I'm a little worried this thread however might inspire 'strong feelings'.

    Good point mate!

    Let's hope not for now.....

    I did cheat once, On *K* and it felt truely horrible. I've been cheated on shit loads in the past, Actually by every OH I've had inc my current OH ( For which she is forgiven and has more than made up for. )

    Anyway, I learnt from that one time that two wrongs most definately do NOT make a right, And it left me feeling terrible for years! I can vouch that it certainly doesn't make you feel any *Better* for getting revenge!

    I tip my hat with the greatest respect to all of you for your dedication and loyalty to your OH's.

    The main thing is, I would NEVER cheat on J! She is my life and soul, I could never hurt her!

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    xxxxchelzsxxxx [sign in to see picture]
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    WandA wrote:

    Haven't and won't.

    I'm a little worried this thread however might inspire 'strong feelings'.

    Me too!! Then again im not sure if anyone would answer the above questions!!! x

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    I have been cheated on, but never cheated and never would!

    xGHx

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    Despina Rose [sign in to see picture]
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    I have never cheated or be cheated on in the relationship that I am in.

    I explained a few days ago that I wanted a girlfriend as well, I have told the OH and he knows and he's ok with it.

    I would never go behind his back.

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    Miss BoomStick [sign in to see picture]
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    I've been cheated on and it doesn't feel good. I will never put my OH through that feeling and I'm pretty sure I'll never have that horrid feeling again as my OH is dead against cheating and told me how stupid I was staying with my ex so long after finding out.

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    BashfulBabe [sign in to see picture]
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    There was one time when I was pretty young. Guy I'd been with and out-grown, and while I still cared about him, I didn't want to be with him. I tried talking to him about it, but he just started threatening suicide until I gave in and said I'd stay. I guess mentally i was single, because I didn't want to be with him, and had told him that, so I did kiss a few folk and slept with one guy while officially we were still together. Still not sure in my own head if it counts, because he knew I didn't want to be with him, we weren't doing anything coupley, just I let him keep saying I was his girlfriend because of the emotional blackmail. I did feel bad though, because regardless of how much I'd decided it was over, or how much he knew that that was the case, I'd still let him think he'd "won" me and then gone and acted differently.

    He actually did try to kill himself when I finally told him I couldn't take it anymore and refused to be trapped by fear. Didn't exactly help with the guild. I never told him about the others, and he never found out, because regardless of the rights or wrongs, he was that unstable that hearing something liek that would have been akin to pushing him off a bridge myself. I think that's the main reason I still feel guilty about it, because even though technically I didn't do anything that wrong (grey area, but I was trying to find a balance between getting on with my life and not ending his, so not an easy one to win cleanly), I never got to talk it out with him and have him say it was ok. He seems to be ok now, but we're not that close, and I think it'd be a bit cruel to come back like a decade later and drop that on him, especially as I'm not sure of his mental state.

    In general, I'm majorly against cheating, because my mother had an affair with a married man, then ran off with him, destroying two families in the process. If they had admitted to their respective partners that things were different, left them, and then got together, that would have been horrible, but ok: instead my dad got to find out that his wife had been sleeping with a man that he'd thought was a friend, and that his second daughter wasn't even his. He never really got over that. Plus, since I'm almost exactly my dad's double, my mother had a rather unreasonable hatred for me, because I was a constant reminder of the guilt. If she'd done things the right way, I can't help but feel my childhood would have been better than it was. Extreme case, perhaps, but it does make it clear how the knock-on effect is more than just your partner being hurt, especially when kids and other people are involved.

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