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  1. Your job vs. your sex life - When should it matter?

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    Ecksvie [sign in to see picture]
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    WandA wrote:

    Ecksvie wrote:

    I heard a story about a teacher getting fired for being lesbian. Seriously!

    Admittedly, it did happen in America, but we're not even talking something outrageous here, just a simple life choice (if you even believe it is a choice!)

    Got to the bit in bold and thought: "America".

    Must not go ranty but I imagine it was another case of religious rights trumping all other types of rights, including personal. Strange how we still practically allow only sexual and religious discrimination, even stranger that there is often a legal framework to permit such discrimination.

    *Non rant fail*

    I heard it from an actual friend of the teacher who got fired, so it wasn't an exaggeration in the news or anything like that. She got found out as lesbian when one of her pupils found her Facebook. It went to the courts and everything but she still lost. The school said they didn't want to employ "that kind of people".

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    Alicia D'amore wrote:

    I want freedom to discuss what ever I want rather than feeling I have to censor what I say - so I keep the two completely separate - and since I *have* to use my real name in my job, I'll use pseudonyms for personal stuff.

    Adx

    This is what I do, but it can be annoying at times having to be so careful. As far as I'm aware there's nobody else in the world with the same name as me. At the very least, type in my real name on Google and every result is me. If I make one wrong step online and my future employers will find it.

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    Ecksvie [sign in to see picture]
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    I wouldnt mind so much if someone else with the same name came along. It would give me someone else to blame stuff on lol! Its weird, both my first name and last name are Welsh. You think there'd be someone, somewhere in Wales with the same name!

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    WandA [sign in to see picture]
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    Ecksvie wrote:

    I wouldnt mind so much if someone else with the same name came along. It would give me someone else to blame stuff on lol! Its weird, both my first name and last name are Welsh. You think there'd be someone, somewhere in Wales with the same name!

    Set up a fake Facebook for some random Canadian! That's what I would do!

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    Avrielle_Aniko wrote:

    My first name is sort of French, and my last name is a 'mis-spelling' of an irish name - as in there is a regular way of spelling it, but it got changed somewhere along the long long line. Can't get much rarer than that.

    From doing family history that usually means you're from a family of illiterate plebs.

    I know that because we had a family name way back, 'German' which was changed to 'Jarmen' by some illiterate Shropshire farmer plebs!

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    Avrielle_Aniko wrote:

    Yes.. it was a work computer.

    The thing is, that it's questioning her private life. She is in her 50's, very christian, doesn't even touch a drink let alone anything else. I'd be really annoyed if it was me. Fair enough, they may need to check to be sure, but putting honesty and ethics in question, especially someone of an older age, can be really embarrassing and even patronising.

    It might be patronising and embarrassing but they have every right to see what goes on - it's their property.

    Plus - You can just clean it up You should have seen HS when he was handing his work laptop back the other week - taking everything off it.

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    telemachus wrote:

    Avrielle_Aniko wrote:

    Yes.. it was a work computer.

    The thing is, that it's questioning her private life. She is in her 50's, very christian, doesn't even touch a drink let alone anything else. I'd be really annoyed if it was me. Fair enough, they may need to check to be sure, but putting honesty and ethics in question, especially someone of an older age, can be really embarrassing and even patronising.

    It might be patronising and embarrassing but they have every right to see what goes on - it's their property.

    Plus - You can just clean it up You should have seen HS when he was handing his work laptop back the other week - taking everything off it.

    Haha. He's asked my opinion on a few products on other sites before... I'm not surprised he wanted them off.

    I don't want to spoil your Christmas pressie but I never thought you would be in to gaping.

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    telemachus wrote:

    Avrielle_Aniko wrote:

    Yes.. it was a work computer.

    The thing is, that it's questioning her private life. She is in her 50's, very christian, doesn't even touch a drink let alone anything else. I'd be really annoyed if it was me. Fair enough, they may need to check to be sure, but putting honesty and ethics in question, especially someone of an older age, can be really embarrassing and even patronising.

    It might be patronising and embarrassing but they have every right to see what goes on - it's their property.

    I think there might be also some legalish kerfuffle about them being responsable for any illegal activities you use their computer (or net access in other cases) for, so they need proof that it was definitely done while in your control so they can shift blame back to you. I could be making that up, of course, but it's one of those things that sounds nutty enough to be a law.

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    So you think there's an age limit to this then ha ha you wait till you reach 50 plus

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    WandA [sign in to see picture]
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    Avrielle_Aniko wrote:

    Yes I suppose that sounds about right really. I just think it's a bit wrong to make a 50y/o woman feel she has to prove to everyone that she doesn't look up porn or bombing sites...

    But then it would seem just if not more wrong to make the 24yr old member of staff do it and not the older members...

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    Avrielle_Aniko wrote:

    Yes I suppose that sounds about right really. I just think it's a bit wrong to make a 50y/o woman feel she has to prove to everyone that she doesn't look up porn or bombing sites...

    But they aren't to know that she is any less likely to be doing dodgy stuff than someone younger. Does her age mean she is automatically trustworthy? Because then they have to decide who to trust and who not to...

    WandA wrote:

    telemachus wrote:

    Avrielle_Aniko wrote:

    Yes.. it was a work computer.

    The thing is, that it's questioning her private life. She is in her 50's, very christian, doesn't even touch a drink let alone anything else. I'd be really annoyed if it was me. Fair enough, they may need to check to be sure, but putting honesty and ethics in question, especially someone of an older age, can be really embarrassing and even patronising.

    It might be patronising and embarrassing but they have every right to see what goes on - it's their property.

    Plus - You can just clean it up You should have seen HS when he was handing his work laptop back the other week - taking everything off it.

    Haha. He's asked my opinion on a few products on other sites before... I'm not surprised he wanted them off.

    I don't want to spoil your Christmas pressie but I never thought you would be in to gaping.

    : O

    how rude!

    :P

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